it's not about pride. it's about the quality of life that TS can provide for his baby. if he decides to keep it. but if you come from a lower middle background, you probably wouldn't understand. also if you come from an upper middle, you can always rely on your family for support.

This post has been edited by layoff: Mar 24 2009, 10:56 AM

Orait, captain.

Let's spam his mail box to full.

I posted once in 2nd page opposing d abortion...but now after spending some time readin 8 pages...it's really a tough decision to make...and I can't hold my stand anymore...

I guess not everybody is born equal...I hv my future well plannned ahead by my parents...I can basically get married n start a family now...that's why i won't argee wif abortion initially...

But if i'm in ur shoe, i'll would hv done wat u r doing...but first, i'll still consult both parents...things can b different...

As money concern, my parent brought me up at minimum cost but yet i din go bad egg like brother hawk will assume i would be and I hv made my calculation...i can settle d money spend on me by my parent within 1-3 years easily...my dad was a lecturer and was 42 when i'm born...he is active in stock market...i help him calculate his overall performance...he lost about 300K overall...and most of d losses was during my early days during 1987 and 1997 crisis...his salary as lecturer is far less than now, and he has 2 house installment to pay den as well...during that period, his financial situation could b worst than urs...he could hv just aborted me like how u will do...somehow, i'm still wondering where all his money from until now...but i know from my mum, he would rather break his back to compensate his greed and make sure v hv minimum to live wif...i personally think that there r alot of unneccessary xtra expenses for children nowadays...I still hv thoughts of he could hv shower me wif all his $$$ on material stuff instead of sharemarket...but i'm glad he din, bcos of that kind of upbringing...i'm simply better person than being spoiled...u don't need money to teach ur child to b a fine person...I'm not sure whether he think that he made a right decision...thing could b alot better back den not havin me around since i was sickly child, born wif several complications...but i'm VERY VERY VERY glad he took his chance...

This is another part of my family history...i'm supposed to hv a brother...but bcos of misfortune, he was dead b4 he is born and doctors hv to remove him from my mothers stomach...probably, that explain my birth complication...my mum will still wept everytime this topic is brought up...and my dad like usual, will just deny d existence...it's a trauma both my parents experience...

in ur case...it's ur call...watever decision u make...i hope all d best for both of u...we won't know wat future lies ahead...

You guys really have no heart. Want to advice also be more patient and gentle can anot?

this is last post in this topic


If you love a baby,

Why bring a life to earth when you know a human need to go thru all the process of suffering,disease,getting old,etc.....How certain are you to give all your best to the new life?How best is best for the new life?

dont you think you are selfish?Dont you think you are hamsap? All Humans are selfish in a way!

thats enough time for u and your fiancee to prepare, not to mention your unborn baby will be a scorpio child

i wish u all the best, give ur self a chance to fix your mistake, the baby is the gift.

i do think so...TS has the decision to have the baby already...good then


that is an executive desicion as no one know the future...Who knows if u have a brother?You wont even exist and posting in hee...only the person that experience it can decide...

neh..this forum got one gal with a kid also mah....the husband dunno go where jor..i lazy go dig back her nick....consult her expeirence


u try pm admin...ask admin run a dupe check first...later become epic post

Ya.. u right on this point if dunno the baby ID.
I still remember last time my cousin that he father and mother discover also. No body want to take care him. Search more then 5 rumah yatim but all dun accept him coz he mother and father still here.
After that we spend around 10K to "make" my cousin stay in rumah anak yatim

Want raise baby but dun want care about it. Raise for what ?
raise "cha siu" better la.. F**k my cousin father and mother.

got good side and bad side


everyone is telling the good and bad side of it only..and it's up to TS to judge..

ur cousin parents..next time sure stay in orang tua also if like that

if my brother were to b born...i won't b around anymore...all my dad want is a son...tat was told on my face...

yeah yeah, still the same. U r the sort "rather kill urself if u r depress" or "better go die than live as a begger" type of guy. I get it. Anyway just let TS decide from now, though taking advice in a forum on abortion is rather......odd. go counseling will ya?

If TS decide to give the baby a chance, dont forget to tell ur child, "hey, thanks to lowyat, you didnt die, be grateful and spam". lol.

This post has been edited by LeechFever: Mar 24 2009, 11:10 AM

Ehh... King vs nick over edi?

thats why lor...ur father think giving birth is jz like playing share market meh...

1 son enuff meh?

at least 2 mah

lucky it's not 4 times sister....then only u
if not...4 sister also gone

TS,

I hv the same problem as u. My GF (Now wife-lah) got pregnant b4 our planned traditional wedding which was supposely 6mth later.

So kelam kabut, we qucikly snapped our wedding photo (My wife was 2mth pregnant during the photo session) & decided to do a quick traditional wedding reception wth only relatives & no dinners or whatever...My financial was bad during that time, I got pay cut once my daughter was born (1998 market crashed!) & almost no money when I moved in to my current house....yet we gone thru all horrors & life getting even better now...we are married for 12yrs now..

During the confession time, u might faced lotsa bombardment from both families, well just be honest & go thru the ordeal once...there will be losing faces here & there...well u get use to it...U imagine how I face those wedding cameramen wth my wife stomach started to show pregnancy signs...

This post has been edited by stimix: Mar 24 2009, 11:13 AM

Ya.. wish they stay in rumah orang tua.
But.. both of them also got "own" family le.. (listen from my mother, but we long time no contact them)

I SUGGEST WE SETUP A FUND IN LYN FOR TS TO RAISE UP A KID

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Added on March 24, 2009, 11:12 amthis is a good experience....but i have to add

some may lives thru to tell the tales....some may not....

anyway..try the best to live thru first..then only decide...

This post has been edited by RoxyGal: Mar 24 2009, 11:12 AM

lol then ur name should on 1st spot