but in this now world.... it seem that monetary is being the main measurement tools for marriage / life partner.

yes, i do admit that monetary value does provide securities..... but is monetary value can buy happiness? health? freedom?

i still rekindle my more than 10 years r/s with my first love when i was 15... in which lasted 10 years.... the issue n motive of this story is simple, im just a reverse of the story u posted of the girl.

i had to endure almost 6 years hiding from the knowledge of her parents... as her father is a famous corporate figure n a tan sri title holder...where else, im just a normal not so well being family-borned.

later, when being introduced to her father, thats where the hell starts.... am i able to provide security, caring, shelter family, being a good husband n father, etc etc. this keep pressurized me to keep work hard, even double n sometimes triple employment, just to show monetary securities....

by end of the day... which i didnt regret making the decision (i guess u all readers will read n guess my decision) n i ask myself, am i working hard for myself or just to get monetary securities for my life partner?

till today, i still not regret to make the decision, as i truly believe my family needs me more than anything else.... my dad got into accident half a year ago n totally hadicapped as well as  totally lost source of income... being the eldest, i felt the responsibility should shoulder upon on me....

though all this happens, i kept a healthy finance balance... apart from financing my house n cars, i still able to fund my dad treatment n still could afford to keep substantial amount of investment in unit trusts, etc....

i believe this may not related.... but what would i want to point out is... though with hard life, u still make yr life meaningful, as long as fair amount of hard work... positive attitude and smart thinking.... whenever the challanges thrown to u, u would able to survive w/o monetary securities... though i felt tired, weak, no social-life, not many friends... i feel grateful that i try hard to pay my responsibility back to my parents... n i had answer to questions asked when i leave this world...

so, positively... monetary securities is important.... but family n health in which even billions or trillions of monetary securities cant buy... if these could be brought, then it not as same feelings as genuine!

to me... believe yr instincts, u could create a world of your own, if u n yr partner willing to work hard for the good of your future undertakings.

not necessary to get a rich life partner, just for monetary securities, n for the rest of your life being like nothing to do, as monetary had done everything to u... or chose a life in which u n yr life partner work hard for the sake of future undertakings.... n by yr old age, u felt a sense of achievements in which your future generation could boast about....

either decision make... u will get an apple... just the difference is, whether u buy the apple... or u start from planting the apple