this is exactly why it is important to read b4 posting nonsense, we're way passed that part.

And where did you miss the part where love wasnt involve?

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Added on October 8, 2009, 1:14 pm

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Added on October 8, 2009, 1:27 pm

you're assuming the girl will leave the husband when he is poor is it? thats why you;re so worked up?
we're way way pass that also....pls read back or its a repeating debate.

We are also always "used to" assume that gals going after financial stable guys are lazy/gold digger who cling on guys for financial resources/materialistic; and gals after "average salary man" are good gals.
If you think you are able to be financial capable, you won't be saying things like this at here.

What kinda question is that? Is being youthful and young a life or death question? How does having a prettier wife effect you in anyway that having more money can effect your life?

Sorry dude. Your retort is moot.

your question is the same as I can answer with another question

are you saying marrying the poor man he wont dump me for a younger girl when I'm 40?

You're arguing about a persons bad character

its like saying the rich will have an affair
but the poor also will have equal chances to have an affair.

This is bad man.

Yes. And girls acknowledge this fact. Why cant guys?

Girl know we want them to look pretty hence all the trouble they take to look pretty. Do they complain?

There are 2 categories we are talking about:
1. Pre-existing factors - Born body figure, face shape
2. Existing Factors - Attitudes, personality etc

If you have read my posts previously, my stance is guys who are self-motivated will have a fruitful yielding lifestyle.

But you are here mixed up pre-existing factors and existing factors. In that case, I can also ask you: is it ok if gals dump/divorce their men if they find their bf no longer young and energetic? Why are you taking up those human born natural biological issues which are not genuinely beyond human's control? Why don't you look at those men who are not self-motivated, which is an attitude that you should cultivate since you're conscious and aware about?

Yes, you didn't twist my question around.

So you are a man with shallow thought.

For your kind perusal:
http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopi...post&p=29081533

How do you define "money-minded"?

There are mainly 2:
Those who go for materialistic enjoyment
Those who aim financial security for uncertainties in the future

If my husband bought me a diamond rolex, I'm so trilled and exhilarated, so what should I do? quickly give back coz if I accept it, knowing I'm very please with the gift I would be classified as materialistic and a gold digger in CC?

And you're suggesting I should lower my standard and make way so my bum ex bf can start a family with me so that guys in CC would say good job?

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Added on October 8, 2009, 5:13 pm

HAHAHA

I'm just trying to say, by using monetary of a man has currently and 10 years later, you can tell if he is a potential person to spend the ups and downs in life.

I can't tell how educated he is cos to be success doesn't must have a certificate; I can't tell how convincing his speech is cos to success doesn't must good in sweet talk.

I just want to enphasize a guy who is self-motivated, never cease to give up kind of possitive attitude, will have a fruitful and yielding life (rich) sooner or later. Such a man when he is poor, he is a potential person to be with, and get married when he is capable to feed his wife; another 5 years, he is more capable to able to feed children.

Click to a poor man is ok, but try to stand on a gal's side: she won't want to see his bf always complain to her how bad the work is, lousy customers, bad working environment. Incapable men capable at nothing but bunch of lame execuses; Capable man good in nothing but not cease to aim high and hard-working.

In any event you guys out there are not convinced enough, do come and flame me. I'm right here be waiting for you.

Why can't a mother feed her own kid? Wow, seriously which kampung did you come from to have that kind of mindset.



I told you how many times. It's your right to choose whatever husband you want. You just can't whine about it later on.





The difference is one will be sympathised while I will laugh at the other one.



Well if you brain can interpret the statement that way, then there's nothing I can do.

I saw this post yesterday but didnt find time to reply. I find his angle very very interesting. Drug dealer.

During my time with my ex he is sort of gangster type, I've come to know a lot of others in gang and of coz the girls would be mixing and chatting.

I used to follow my ex to meet this leader in penang, he is filthy rich and his money of coz isnt clean. He has 4 wifes and all the wifes knows each other. They stay in big houses each of them, with so many big guard dogs, they drive nice cars, he has a guy who drives an Estima to all the wifes house to pick up and send all the children to school,  LV and diamond rolex of coz included in the package, I used to adore her watch we call them "moon thin sing", diamonds were set even on the casing and bracelet, it cost about 120K that time, I'm not sure how much it cost now.

During that time, we're living hands to mouth, no savings, sometimes ex will get big money duno from where and he will spend it all within 2 weeks, karaokes and gambling. I remember sometimes deep in my mind how I wish I was like those wifes enjoying life. All his 4 wifes are ex karaokes GROs

I sometimes try to put my shoes if I can be like them? I guess when you're very low in your life you dun seem to have much choice, so security has a new meaning, you actually dun care, but its only in my mind I didnt do it.

Then I look at those girls and wonder, do they love him? The answer is yes I believe. But if you ask what kinda love this is I dont know. I guess it depends where you come from.

I've mixed even with prostitutes, some of his frens gfs are prost and we do talk a lot, I've asked them why they do what they do and most times they come from poor broken families.

I guess moral and how many people ignored moral, or are force to put moral aside. I dun and never look down on them, I kept in touch with a few girls after married but I can see from hubbys face he dun really like me mixing around with those girls so I slowly stayed away.

Coming back to this topic, those girls comes from broken family with very little guidance, sometimes money is so tight and without much education and mother sick or bro and sis still young need to go to school they sell themselves for quick money. I respect this girls in the sense they willing to lower thier standard and make sure their younger bro and sis can have proper education. OLs I know or white collar girls, will never in thier life sacrifice so much for the family.

They never got out from the slum as its already become part of their lives now.

I dont come from broken family, but I do come from poor family, my parents never agreed with me going out with thugs, but that time young and I practically elope and stay with my ex, I was very in love with him, and broke my mums heart into 1000X pieces.

As I grow older, and time is catching up, I start to panic coz I see this is going nowhere, hence fast forward to today I got out of it.

So you see, if you come from a comfortable lifes, drug money is a big sin, but if you're way down there, its heaven sent.

I know its morally wrong, thats why I make sure I'm a fulltime mother and put as much reality and moral to Noreens life. I'll try to give my best.

ok guys, time for yuo to twist and attack me...I'm being truthful of my experience and what I felt that time, the temptations was strong.

most kampung I come from mothers do not work and are fulltime...wonder how they feed the children       triple for you

same dose for you...here you go"

So girls, be proud when you choose a rich husband, and to those girl who insist love is more important, they're just immature and the mother instinct not kick in yet, after few years of marriage they'll regret of their choice.

I've emphasize about mother...not BMW, diamonds, LVs and so on...its all about babies, family, home sweet home.

people associate mother with a woman near saint level, mothers love and so on, a woman care for the family and children, attentive and so on

people dont associate mothers with prostitute, leecher and so on.

so you're saying all those GROs and prostitute are all losers with no moral and that is why they end up there? gosh a long essay and thats all you're able to picked up.

My hubby is exactly 10 years my senior, he always tells me I live a life full of experience, I dun read a lot but I experience a lot in life hence I look at life as real and not from books.

  people like you....and people here calling me a arrogant.

You try turun padang and help the aids drug addict, and prostitute at chow kit, tell them you wouldnt end up here if your dad didnt take drugs and leave the whole family, if you've somehow manage to study hard, somehow duno where the money come from, take up doctor degree, then this world no more poor people, we would be like in duno which planet must be in heaven where everybody is high and mighty.

Dude, go out more, mix more with unfortunate people and understand the society, get more life experience instead of reading up on noreens story book.

You guys who are trying to put moorish down is simply because you are afraid one day you will fall on a gal who aim to be a fulltime mother while your financial capable can't afford to meet her dream?

I'm really curious the reason why you guys can't accept a true mother who wants something better for her family.

At least she has made it comes true yet all you guys who putting her down aren't able to settle down yet.

Nooooo, don't you know? Prostitutes are the VICTIMS here. They suffer all sorts of abuse by evil men. We must save them!