Sorry viper88, I really find no points from your posts. I prefer to spend time to discuss and debate with 7chai and the rest of them.
Perhaps you may continue to respond to my posts but I will only reply when I find your post has at least a point to discuss or debate about.
Of course, thanks for your criticisms to me.

I do not want to put judgement on the baby sitters nowadays.
I just want to nurture my children when they are just born to this world. Breast-feeding and caesarean will always be my duties or dreams that I want to achieve when I become a mother.

treating me as a kid?

Moorish, dickson poon didn't mean to make fun of your baby. I can tell from his intention here.

No worries.

The words you applied for her baby here doesn't actually show intention of making fun of her baby but since moorish has had a bad impression on you in the debate earlier on, therefore logically she is now a bit sensitive on the post you put your avatar and her baby's together.

Take it easy, brother.

Got to go.

Happy Flaming Debating all!

From the bolded part I was told that 5k can't afford a high maintenance gf and therefore this category of "high-maintenance gf" are gold digger. Please see my reply here:


I have already told you please correct me if I'm wrong. And why would you imply the word "paranoia" on me? Can you tell me the way you implied "paranoia" here is an unfavourable term or commentable term? For me, it's an unfavourable term.

Again, lose money or not is not the point here. Who tells you that a motivated guy will never fail? But a man should be motivated enough to face all failures at all time.

Again, I have already mentioned earlier here:


Again, I have already mentioned to you :
Apparently I am all the while giving stock market as an example.

Again, I have already mentioned earlier, too:
Apparently, you DON"T read the posts, you just SEE the posts. Therefore, I don't really have to answer your question but just quoted what I have said earlier to you.

Yes, I'm high maintenance.
What's your next question to me?

Ya, I know this is one of my problem. You're not the only one that commented me actually, I knew it long time when I was in college. After years of research on my symptoms only I found out that it's because I lack of acknowledgement and support from my family (parents) and therefore every small and tiny words which people said unintentionally, in a general way, I will take them too seriously and negatively.

I'm trying to get rid of it. I hope you won't mind, too.

Hahahaha.... I already known you will ask me these 2 questions!!!


So here is my reply, repeated for the second time:
And I do include boy friend, too.

You are slapping yourself. Please don't simply make assumption which I have never meant it.

Oh ya, sure.

This post has been edited by debbieyss: Oct 8 2009, 10:22 AM

Becaue I replied:
Yes, I'm high maintenance.

Then you replied:
so u mean u spend more than few thousand ringgit for clothes and luxuries stuff every month paying by your boyfren ?

That's why I said you are making assumption.

High maintenance must be a gold digger suck out boy friend's or husband's money?

I'm high maintenance but I am NOT a gold digger; I will NOT go for a 5K monthly earning guy if he is not self-motivated.

Have I answered your question?

There are many levels of high maintenance.
Spending RM1k per month is high maintenance; RM2k per month is high maintenance, same goes to those who spend RM3k per month etc.
I don't spend beyond my financial ability. I think before I spend.

Secondly, I do expect my boyfriend to be rich 'cos I hope he is able to be the main supporter for our family but expecting him to support my personal maintenance is another case, and I do not cling to my boyfriend or husband for my personal maintenance.

Ok. I get what you want to ask.

So someone tell me "Oh the college's tuition fee is very expensive". What's the level of expensive and cheap?
My point is that: high maintenance is something which is beyond the general expenses. For a normal OL, RM2k per month is considered high maintenance but for a Datin, RM10k per month.

I'm saying I'm high maintenance because I don't go for basic daily needs only. I spend money to groom up myself to look more presentable and tidy, I don't go for normal shopping malls but certain branded clothings for its reliable quality. However, all my expenses on these maintenance, I spend it on my own, according to my ability.

I didn't acuse you.

I was saying that from what I understand, you were claiming "a gal who doesn't go for 5k guy = high maintenance gal/gold digger.

Well, thanks for your explaination then.

Ok. My bad.

No! Not again!

This statement is already debated and is already over!

We are also always "used to" assume that gals going after financial stable guys are lazy/gold digger who cling on guys for financial resources/materialistic; and gals after "average salary man" are good gals.

If you think you are able to be financial capable, you won't be saying things like this at here.

There are 2 categories we are talking about:
1. Pre-existing factors - Born body figure, face shape
2. Existing Factors - Attitudes, personality etc

If you have read my posts previously, my stance is guys who are self-motivated will have a fruitful yielding lifestyle.

But you are here mixed up pre-existing factors and existing factors. In that case, I can also ask you: is it ok if gals dump/divorce their men if they find their bf no longer young and energetic? Why are you taking up those human born natural biological issues which are not genuinely beyond human's control? Why don't you look at those men who are not self-motivated, which is an attitude that you should cultivate since you're conscious and aware about?

Because you asked a question in a wrong way.

Yes, you didn't twist my question around.

So you are a man with shallow thought.

For your kind perusal:
http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopi...post&p=29081533

I lazy to talk to those who claimed himself "financial stable" but poor manner in a forum. Never read before post.