I'm not proving anything to anybody. I don't think your way of thinking is right, so I say you should think this way. I think the main problem here is that both of you are very narrow-minded and refuse to consider thinking outside your own little box. What you accept as good enough for you is none of my business, but by limiting yourself, you fail to see the bigger picture and maybe even a greater happiness than the two of you have accepted. *shrug* I used to be very narrow-minded like the both of you, refusing to see what other people tell me I should see ... but I've realized that by doing that, I limit myself.

There are so many things out there that I could dream about and maybe even make a reality. I'm beyond happy right now, because I allowed myself to enjoy what I didn't allow myself to enjoy before. I'm a happier person because of it, and I don't need material goods to be happy because of this realization.

I'll love to stay, tonight so many sitting duck, but baby dun wan sleep la, so need to pacify her.

So good nite, and enjoy the victory Debbie.

HEllo brother.......this is false la...why every page sure got someobody come in and make that assumption wan...damn sien. scroll back the thread...i think got answer for this argument in every page.

And after posting this you still giving money to your gf and still expect to give her when she become your wife?

i take care of my gf or soon to be wife, because she is worthy and has proven to be competent, capable and love me of course. Both of us working hard to save money to start a family !!!

Not like you MOORISH, ONLY KNOW HOW TO TAKE, BUT NOT GIVING, YOU LAZY WOMAN !!!!!

This post has been edited by blitzboy: Oct 12 2009, 12:16 AM

I totally agree. These people look down on peoples dreams and aspirations..they tell them to be "realistic". Telling other people to follow the herd. The fact of the matter is, they are doing this to justify their decision to give up on their dreams and to achieve their fullest potential. When people fail they would say "I told you so!".. But in order to achieve success one must FAIL ALOT. The fact that she got married to someone with financial wealth only gives her the illusion of success. I guess some people can settle for a life of mediocrity. I just hate it when she advocates her mediocre way of life to other people in this forum.

everyday new heroes turn up here, they see Debbie as a young girl and a housewife mother, easy meal.

Then they walk into a trap.... thats why you see so many hurt egos walking out from here with no more pride and ego.

ok la really gtg go...damn I'm gonna miss the win tonite

So you're giving your gf money right?
So is your gf a leecher?
Or will you willingly be her leecher?

It's because I'd always thought of love is bigger than everything and money will come later.
But I tasted the time where I was broke. I have no idea how to go into a relationship if I couldn't even support myself and my family.
If a man who can't support himself and can't provide, he is not ready for marriage.

I'm not sure your family background, but if you are a ballet dancer and know piano, I assume you at least don't come from a poor family background.
Perhaps one day you leave your family, live on your own, you will know that going after an average man may not be the successful way to marriage.

Plus, if I'm narrow-minded enough, I won't be wasting time here.

Also, since you know some examples, why not you just share us here?
Or you actually don't have any?

What will you do if your husband earn lesser and give you lesser $$$??

Divorce and then marry another richer man? YES OR NO ???

IF you say NO then WHY?

Examples of what? Marriages that lasted regardless of money? Dude a lot of my family started and married poor. They're still marred. *shrug*

I already have a man, and he's an average guy. *shrug*

How can she be lazy if she spend the whole day to take care of her baby 24/7?
I think she has saved her husband's money in hiring a baby-sitter for RM1k per month.

This post has been edited by blitzboy: Oct 12 2009, 12:25 AM

what ppl dont understand is when u are married you work togther in a team now. You compliment each other. thru good and bad times. No more MY money and YOUR money.

the working husband and a loyal housewife is truely an ideal marriage.

This post has been edited by teongpeng: Oct 12 2009, 12:27 AM

Yes, I know you are a good gal and you are going to be a great wife, great working mother.

I hope you will feel things running fair to you when you are pregnant and you still have to work; when you have delivered baby you are expected to work and you have to share the expenses of a family.

i cant believe this women. People just stop caring for what u have to say. Thats all. and unfortunately, we are not as free as you are.

the working husband and a loyal housewife is truely an ideal marriage.

I agree partially to this statement, if life were back then like 20 to 30 years ago. Nowadays it is close to impossible achieving that, and it is becoming very rare for young couple who is now between age 20 to mid 30's age group in year 2009.


what ppl dont understand is when u are married you work togther in a team now. You compliment each other. thru good and bad times. No more MY money and YOUR money.

YUP that's what me and my gf is working towards achieving it.

This post has been edited by blitzboy: Oct 12 2009, 12:31 AM

The preset amount for her is before marriage, after marriage is another expenses and the figure is not what you are expecting it now.
Yes, you're the major provider of food and shelter, but if she's not working, are you going to be food and shelter for you, her and your future babies? Or are you expecting her to work after her maternity to share the family expenses?

p.s: I spend my own money for my own expenses too.

Alright, RM1K per month is saved. Let's skip that part about the money he spent on her, before she becomes a mother.

I have seen many women has no problem working during pregnancy, take maternity leave and resumes work after having the baby, with income range from Rm2K to RM3K. So what's the RM1K saved?
In fact in terms of household income it is a lost because only the husband bringing the income home and not both working.

In english proverb is called "Penny wise, pound foolish", You saved every penny only to find yourself lose out on the opportunity to earn more pound.



If both working will increase the household income. And then they can build the family a better life because of the increase income and of course the child can have brighter future.

This post has been edited by blitzboy: Oct 12 2009, 12:43 AM

So means you're expecting your wife to work and share the burden of family expenses, right? So you mean you will leave your children to baby-sitters, right?

Don't you think children will be more confident and healthier physically and mentally if they have more time to spend with parents and have close relationship with their parents?

Well I don't mind sharing this actually. What me and my gf are trying to achieve is that to be financially independent whereby at one point, she can retire and be fulltime mother.

But from what I see, that she can be reluctant to sacrifice her career even after married or after having baby. It is entirely her choice, but since both of us are still young and energetic we want to work towards improving our life-style, and won't settle down for a below average life-style.