I m in a dilemma.Hav a girl-fren who claim v can b "chee mui" in a way tat really meant it.
So I share all things with her.Gladly.Things chance when one day she told a fren tat I look
down upon her.Which I didn't.How can she say tat.
eg:she has no source of income.
Consulted 2 me by fren.But forgave her cz she say "SORRY"Does she no wat tat word meant.
Then after tat a lot of small matter accure.Tone of voice not polite 2 me.
Now I choose to "ask,talk,know" less.Even now still the same.Till the day b4 v went 2 dinner.
Started of by she sitting next 2 me.Nice posture then as time passed,her attitude start.Turning
her hold back to me.That is body language or me just paranoid?

dun no wat 2 do.Wat does "chee mui" mean?Do I ask her "did I do,say
anything wrong lately".Frenship important 2 me.
WHAT M I TO DO ABOUT THIS?

my goodness, i can't understand your statement at all

wow, either she know u loaded or play the fool on u. good luck

erk...i dun really get you.

errr...you english seems pretty good...but how come I don't get you?

This post has been edited by Convt: Feb 21 2009, 12:33 AM

Fixed version below

I'm in dilemma, I have a girl friend (not sure on girlfriend or just female friend) whom claimed that we both can be sisters and she really mean it.
So I've share all my things with her, gladly (<---?!??) Things changed when I've heard that she told a friend saying that I look down on her, which I did not. How can she say that. One of her claims is that I'm looking down on her because she doesnt have a source of income (no job?) All these was told to me by a friend. But I forgive her because she said sorry... but does she know what those words meant? (no sure those words as in false claims or the 'sorry' word)
So now I choose to mind my own business, I wont ask, talk or wanting to know more anymore. Until now it is still the same, but recently on the day we went for dinner. She sat next to me, everything was chill and cool. but as time passed, her same old attitude comes back, turning her whole back onto me (as in not facing him/her, angry?) Is this a sign or am I just paranoid?

Help x3 I don't know what do it, what does "chee mui" means? (I think its like sisters) Should I ask her if I've done anything wrong? This friendship is important to me (uhh... then why u choose to ask,talk,know less than before?)
WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO ABOUT THIS?




(in brackets is my opinion or thinkings)

This post has been edited by alexision: Feb 21 2009, 01:29 AM

good job dude... ^^

ah now we can see it clearly LOL

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lol, chee mui = best fren as sister

the 1st point,
i dun think she treat u as a best fren, cos she said bad thing behind u ..

the 2nd point,
maybe she might be too self centralized
maybe u has said something didnt carry any specific meaning but she mean it in a negetive way(eg;u said u wan to buy car..it hurt her that she unable to buy a car )

unless u find out what is d problem and wat is the 'look down case' she refered, otherwise nothing else u can do. she will juz continue to act cold to you.

hm, maybe she talks bad about you is to test you. Boycotting you because you did not say 'i love you'.

lolx i didnt get the whole thing as well , maybe cause i never see properly barhhhs (lazy+eye pain w contacts x.x) ._. oooh chee mui is close frens like sis arhhhs , i didnt know that ... umm ignore when she's doing bad things to you? i know friendships are important but , tc urself first ehhh?

soli me 1st time facing such problem n posted it online.Rusty.TQVM

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Added on February 27, 2009, 2:01 pmshe is only my so called god-sis.not that kind of fren.My writting mistake.

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Added on February 27, 2009, 2:06 pmU can really read her mind.Know the cause alrdy n ask me to forgive her.I did.
Just can't figure out why is she still treating me the same way.
TQ so much.


This post has been edited by raven6009: Feb 27 2009, 02:06 PM

according to my own understanding,
its normal a person would look down on him/herself,
and also normal when it follow up by he/she claim that other ppl looking down on own self,
sometimes ego cant accept the weaknesses they have in themselves.
Nothing can help.
If u understand wat i mean

yah!true to the bone.
just so hard to get over tat u treat someone like family n this is wat u get.
Can c thru anthing that happen but this I can't get over.
Feel betrayed loh.And have to face this person most of the time.

Just dump her..So simple.......

There is 3 of us.All very good god-sis.She is 1 of them.
Dumping her means will lose the other frenship also.
That's why me having this kind of silly problem loh.
so difficult to decide.

Seriously, I hate this kind of fiasco going around, especially when it's Chinese. They tend to get together with their friends and role play as moms, dads, big bro, small bro..I mean, what the hell yo?

Back to the point, TS so she's just a friend which claims to be "chee-mui" without any strings attached? Why waste time with such friends? Does she have any inferiority-complex issues?

p/s: I'm a chinese.

yalo y cannot hv a obviously relationship ler?

dun get it either.

eiks! i face this situation before ma..
my so-call-super-best-god-sister..
the disagreement started when we stay under the same roof..
long long story to tell
now we are not contact each other oredi.
when she come to visit my mum during CNY, she look likes dun wan bother me oso.
no point for me to keep this frenship(the feeling is even worst then the broke up couple u know!!) since i oso feel like dun wan to see her face.l

Guess I m not that brave as U.
Envy U cz U did.

Dood. Sure fooled me. I had you for negro.

"Hell yeah! Ha! That's how we all talk? We all talk like dis, "suh"? Yes suh, ha! Yeah mmm-hmm get some crawfish, and some ribs, ha! Ye-aah. You're Australian! Be Australian!" -- Alpa Chino

This post has been edited by huattk: Mar 6 2009, 11:12 AM

haha!!really funny.makes me laugh the way u talk.
happy go lucky.

friend comes in many shape, size, character etc.
friends also comes and go.
so dont get too stress up cause of one ji mui

people change
especial those who are inferior
even couples
its all bout understanding
take and give

if she cont, just move on as well,
either she will get back or will drif apart.

ive seen 25yrs of ji mui separate cz of money,.
so its no big issues,
there are many people out there
there is unlimited supply of friends

more important, dont stress ur self for all the unnecessary things
all the best

Your english is as good as no one could hardly understand it.
Thank you

if she's acting like such a twat, just let her go.

If you've already really tried talking to her already (by that I mean if you try to bring this matter up to her, and she says 'let's not talk about it' you pressure her a little into actually talking it out and not just say 'ok let's leave it at that') and she's still like that.. really, just let her go.

Openly ask her what is the problem, why is she acting this way towards you..
if there's no solution or she doesnt want to forgive and forget..
i guess its time to say good bye to her...

I used to have this good fren.. same class and always together when we r in secondary school... since F2 thru F5
I've always been a good fren.. consulting her when she needed help or advice.. most of the time is guy problem.. even try to cover her ass when she did something wrong..
when there's prob btw she n her bf.. even the bf would call me up to complain bout her.. and i've always be the middle person to help them...

then.. after SPM.. i'm seeing a guy from school....
i have lots of good guy fren.. and this guy feel insecure bout it...
so the guy asked my so called 'best fren" bout it..
and my fren told the guy I'm having a relationship with another guy..
WTF! so this guy ended the relationship and eventually told me it's "her" who told him...
so i was like.. why did she do that to me? then i found out that she have feelings towards this guy and sabotage us..

i did ask her did she say that? and she said yes..cuz she thinks that there's something going on with me and another guy..
so i was like.. forget it.. move on.. still be friends with her..
will still call her up for girl talk n stuff.. but she never calls me...
eventually i realise this... and feel that all this while i was the one who is giving and she's not really a good fren.. kinda selfish...

so i stop calling.. we went to the same college but ended up in diff class cuz the choice of subject is diff... bump into each other sometimes.. do chat a bit.. but we are not good frens anymore..

moral of the story:
If you best fren doesnt value ur friendship and did something that hurts you.. i guess u can kick her out from ur best fren's list..
move on...

This post has been edited by slsl: Apr 18 2009, 05:40 PM

i have this weird aura...girls tat get too close wit me..will start to develop fobia toward me..xD..so..i have less so call G-F

hahaha. same here too!