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This post has been edited by TOS: Oct 15 2023, 04:16 PM

Time to give it a second shot! After using dating apps for a few months, lectured by Takudan , met with old classmates (unfortunately all got boyfriend liao...), go learning dancing with girls, with age comes wisdom...

Gender: Male

Location: Singapore (Hometown: Penang)

Born in the year: 1999 (25 years old)

Weight: 60kg

Height: 173cm

Religion/Race: Buddhist officially on IC but more of a atheist/freethinker these days. Race is Chinese.

Occupation: First-year PhD student at NTU Singapore with salary and savings



Hobbies and interests:

Indoor	Outdoor
Reading (You will find me in Kinokuniya KLCC or the one in Bugis Junction Singapore )	Hiking
Dancing (started to learn Bachata Dancing one month ago, and now picking up ballroom dance)	Jogging
Cooking (yes I can cook, not just instant noodles and egg, I mean fry chicken/fish/meat, stew, steam, grill etc.)	Running
Cleaning houses (yes, unlike most men, I tidy up my room once a week and I can clean toilet as well, definitely can help you do housework and take care of kids after marriage )	Travelling (dream destination? Japan (I love their 15-button-for-you-to-press-yet-ultra-clean toilet), South Korea, and the whole of Europe (I have never been to any single European country before!))

My favourite books are mostly of business genre and I also like philosophy. Some of them are shown below:



That said, my reading interest spans all academic areas of natural sciences and social sciences, from Physics/Biology/Chemistry, Medicine, Geology, Geography, Botany/Zoology, to Law, Archaeology, Politics, History, Philosophy, Music, Arts, and Linguistics. I like 80s and 90s Chinese/English songs. Classic ones still the best!

I am a beginner in swimming and badminton.

Other description (you may write a short essay about yourself to show your personality): A serious man looking for a serious relationship. You will find me very active on the FBIH section of Lowyat: https://forum.lowyat.net/FinanceBusinessandInvestmentHouse. I am a straightforward and blunt person. In Mandarin, you call me 直男... My family and friends noted that I am more matured than peers of my same age, which probably explains why I need to write this long post. This is the 熟男 side of me...

I am not very talkative and very introverted, but I am flexible/agile and easy-going. I am open to learning stuffs from my lady too, especially on fashion/clothings and handling interpersonal relationship. Girls are damn good at these! A lot of girls are afraid of dating with PhD holders because they need to "squeeze their mind" to communicate with them. Err. I think this is not true and probably a misnomer. We are just like normal human being, obviously research is our work, but after work, dating is a whole different story and we can chat other stuffs. Unless you like it, I won't discuss work matters during dates.

I am a planner and a very organized person. I keep my desk clean all the time, and tidy up stuffs always.

I am a frugal person, as stated earlier. I plan my spending months and years in advance. In fact, I am already starting to save for my wedding/kids education and other family expenses, aside from my our retirement.

Requirements and preferences: My experience with dating apps and in real life is that, as love guru Takudan said, I tend to attract elder woman who wishes to settle down. Indeed, I have only connected with Malaysian and Singaporean women from 25 all the way to 30ish years old. (There are plenty of Indonesian matches on CMB/OkCupid who are <= 25 years old but I won't consider them). I prefer:

Malaysian/Singaporean Chinese (Ancestral home is not important, 籍贯不重要), about my age (max age gap preferred: about 5 years), Buddhist/Christian/Atheist/Freethinker/Spiritual/Catholic, emotionally stable, non-smoker.

I wish to have at least 2 kids (1 boy + 1 girl would be a perfect combination ). Uhm, I really wants kids and will work hard towards that. Also, I am pretty health-conscious (no junk food, no cigarette, no drug, no alcohol (yes, not a single drop), irregular sleep cycle etc.).

I am definitely not ok with long-distance relationship. As I intend to build my career in Singapore, I wish my partner will stay with me in Singapore or JB (I can cross the causeway to work daily, if needed). My plan is to retire either in my home in Penang, Malaysia (preferred) or Singapore.

That's all for now. Let's chat if you wish to know more about me and/or my future plans.

Links (facebook/friendster/blog/pictures, whatever) etc (optional): PM me on Lowyat, or connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/zheng-tien-kang-782b13248/. Will give you my WhatsApp contact thereafter.

New year, new hope. Let's see if I can meet someone special this year.

This post has been edited by TOS: Jan 8 2024, 11:35 PM