Just sharing my problem,my situation is quite similar or might be not with everyone, and we both having a long distance relationship coming ahead in future.

Starting of me,due to our studying abroad, we both are msia and i'm a non-christian and she's a christian. We were discussing about the future wedding,really have an big issue here. She hope wanted to get marry at the church, whereas mine will definiately goes for chinese traditional wedding style. And that really a big issues religious here.

We have lots of issues arguing recently after she went back short holiday for 3 months. Long distance relatioship isn't really good, i hated about it so much. Since she went back exactly a month, our relationship has been shaken. I'm really couldn't believe just a month away together only, she was nearly fall in love back with her ex-bf and it is a hell hell suffer mentally to me. Just back to last 2 days, we were back quarrelled again about her's ex-bf.

Back to beginning of her stories, my gf told me that they were unofficially as a couple bf-gf relationship back last 3 years ago,but she admitted that they have a crush between both, due to my gf was studying abroad therefore,they didn't start the officialy relationship. Every year she back to her hometown, oftenly they both will meet up very very close nearly 6 days a week and even call my gf every now and then every single night, this is really freaking me up crazily.

Ok,thats fine. Somemore,that ex-bf was tried to KISS my gf in the car. That's really driven fxxking me crazy. And yet my gf told me she can't defented herself just to let him KISS, that was so ridiculous excuse. I"m so damn speechelss since then until know. I was just accepted her reason/excuse. We both often qurrelled since this 3 months started until now, whenever I asked the relationship between them both, she will only said friedship only. Even now,they both oftenly hang out together until very late nite sometimes around 4am mid-morning then only she's back.

Because of that incident happened, she told me that can't committed 100% on our relationship bcos she admitted that have feeling with him now. I was so damn sad and eventually now we are still together because i'm still very love her, but I really don't know how long can we both last together and doubt not even after married. Instead I thought it carefully, I'm getting tired of having this relationship, if one side will only give the 100% committment on this relationship,while opponent not give much as same as mine instead sharing with her ex-bf, what's the point continuing together,right?? I'm starting not to trust in her anymore whatever she says now.
Should I give up of this relationship or not??..I can't stand this anymore, in chinese statement, "got her with me but doesn't get her heart and mind"....any advise?????.....really confusing,all friends said i"m so stupid silly continue with her....

this sort of girl ain't worth ur time.......give it up

what a wh#re.....

Sorry to hear about this. What about a nice heart to heart chat with your gal? It might be tough for you coz of distance so maybe video conferencing via MSN or Skpye might help out. It's hard to know what people think so best to know the truth and hopefully you get the truth when she tells you. Don't make a rash decision and regret in the future.

Good luck!

Someone wise told me once before, "if you love the person, let her go, if she comes back, then she is yours forever."

Maybe just as what alabais has said, try talking having a heart to heart talk with her. If she's unwilling to talk, then well I guess you should give up on the relationship. No point wasting anymore time on something that will not have a good end right?

Happy Holiday TS!

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