well, i jst broke up bout a week wif my gal...
so, should i give valentines present to her or not?
i need suggestion~

NOP !

why not ? can you plz state your reason?

since you all break up, both of you are no more lover, valentine are for people in love, unless you just plan to take her as a fren , and give her present lu. but if you still love her, and she is the one plan to end this relationship, i don't see any reason you should give her present lo.

why you still want to give her the present when you both is not couple anymore? you don't need reason to not give the present but you need reason to give her the gift. what's the reason then??

well.. i still love her.. she says tat she still love and care for me.. but she telling me honestly somehow she's like not interested in this relationship.. i 'think' the reason is because when she's me, she always hav alot arguement wif her parents.. i think tats the reason her love is wearing off..



This post has been edited by BloodLust91: Jan 11 2009, 10:19 PM

since you have reason to give her a present,you already have your own thinking, why don't just go ahead? you just need people to support your thinking.

Nope! why do u still wanna give it? u just break up rite? don't make the situation worst.

Well you can still send her tons of gifts (not necessary on v-day) to show that you still love her (in a non-verbal way). This could be another fresh attempt or indication of an undying love of yours. Gifts giving is just part of the process to describe your love to her (yes to prove that money can't park next to love).

So much so, it might be waste of money if she doesn't appreciate the gifts, but based on your words on how she would actually remain to love and care for you, I think it's worth every cents you spent (if not at least you thought so). It's a gamble, but it's also a win-win situation. You get to test out the water, and project your nevergiveup spirit whilst she's happy to get chew on some chocolates or maybe get to smell some flowers.

Though you might miscalculate the expected return of love favor, I think your girl would probably just have a silent hope for some miracle to happen, or merely someone better in the eye of her parents. There's a lot of uncertainties on how the relationship broke. If your assumption is just as simple as an objection from her parents, you just need to find out the reason why they did so.

From there, you can initiate some solutions instead of having your girl to mad worried and gave up on your relationship. If her parents were the problem, I seriously think you should buy gifts for them, not your girl.

This post has been edited by matchfingers: Jan 11 2009, 10:55 PM

"From there, you can initiate some solutions instead of having your girl to mad worried and gave up on your relationship. If her parents were the problem, I seriously think you should buy gifts for them, not your girl."


i agree with this statement..
a relationship is not only both of u..
is include her's parents so as urs..

bak to the topic..
the valentine's day is a special day for couples..
u can still give her present..
is a sign of u still love her..
as for me..
if i broke up with a boy..and i still love him..
i will still give him a present on valentine's day..
sometimes, we just would just willing to do anything just to see her's smile..

true.. but i wanna noe if im doing the right thing and i need help and suggestion from other ppl too

how worst can it get but givin stuff?

i see... but wat should i buy for their parents?
well, im from the art class and she's from the pure science class.. she's really smarter than me. furthermore, her family is not rich. her mom wants her to find a capable bf. there was once she told my ex now that i did not hav proper guidance(religion and personality), not serious in my studies and my future. About my personality, im not those lala's, overly dress person or a gangster. Yes, it's true that i don really focus much in my studies but i in spm, i really study and focus will all my heart. I'm playful, i really love playin games. I also plan my future but there's so many routes to choose and it's not time to choose now because it's too early(tat's how i feel). my ex and her mom is a christian while her dad is a buddhist or something like tat. She listens to her mom alot and i'm kinda stressed in that but i dont really mind actually. her mom is kinda religious and tat makes her one too.
i seriously had no one and do not dare to share bout my love life, but it's really hurts and it's stuck inside me bout a week. we've been together for 2 years and now it's suddenly gone. i think now u understand most of the problems and i really need a serious advice in this. especially to girls, wat is my ex is actually thinking? after we broke, she's still wearing my ring tat i gave her... is she gona stop wearing it when her feelings fade off?

are you a bi? sorry, im just wondering...
but wat do u usually buy for their parents?
I'm gona be a college student and not working yet.
this is really getting difficult for me

yes you should GIVE ... that to show her that you are still concern about this relationship and wan to get back together. you stil care about her feeling deep inside even. well, she get into alot of arguement with family and you should be the one supporting her, telling her that you still will be standing by her side no matter what. So, go get her something. at least something okay ..

As for the parents side, i think you just spend more time with them. maybe going out together for dinner/lunch. offer to pay for them. i know somehow you wil think yourself as a bad son, you never treat your own parents to a posh dinner but have to treat your gal's parents instead.

This post has been edited by genesic: Jan 12 2009, 12:45 AM

her mom and my ex argues alot and this year is getting really serious till it becomes like tat. i think her mom brought up some religious issue bout the arguement tat makes her very very guilty. like for example, if u're religious, u cannot kiss... tat's one of it. she says tat is not her mom problem, is her. somehow she say her love is fading towards me...

i hope u understand, im gona be 18 this year. my dad still doesnt buy me a car. im currently using my bro's car very very seldom because he hav to go work. furthermore, im jst a college student tat is still studying. not tat im kiam sap, im still not yet working. i don hav the money. unless u call me to bring them to mamak la tat is ~

im having a same problem too.. shud i give present too? flowers mayb? help me too... haih.. give flowers oso exp.. sure is rm100+ T.T wer got so much money... but i do wanna give flowers to her.. my ex..

I thought only girls are allowed to start a thread here? for people asking for problems like this why not move it to CC?

i needed girls to help me out because i really dun understand a girl~

If she still loves you and you love her, y not?

plz read wat i write to matchfingers.. the situation is there..