I guess you did not think much before you decided to stay with him. So you can either stick with him and hope he will be able to save money for your wedding or you get yourself out.

It is good if he willingly takes care of his family. The uglier one can be family members demand a lot from him. One is "receive", the latter is "take".

One thing you cannot change is his ties to his family. That is why people said we don't just marry the person. We marry the family also.

So it is important we get to know someone really well and know what we ourselves want/can/cannot tolerate.

This post has been edited by barista: Jan 2 2009, 04:46 PM