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 Gals..do you make comparison?

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Me, myself and I
post Jan 9 2009, 09:03 PM

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QUOTE(bunny5211 @ Dec 30 2008, 11:38 AM)
Gals, do you make comparison of ur friends' bf/husband with urs?

I found I did that recently and it really brings down my mood.
I stayed with my bf for 1 year+.
We didnt think of financial problem for the past 1 year as we take turn to pay for each other for our living or dating expenses.
But I start to worry when think of marriage now.
My bf has a stable job but his family background is not that good, he needs to support his family financially from time to time, therefore he didnt really have enough saving for buying a house or prepare the marriage.
I discussed this topic with him before, he said he only can promise will save money slowly for our future but if his family need helps , he cannot ignore them also.
His temper is not that good, he will get angry easily if I continue to argue the thing alr set in his mind.

When I look around, my friends around me most of them have a good marriage.
All the marriage expenses n items are well prepared by the husband or husband family, and even after married they may resign with the current job and do whatever they interested in as financial is not a problem for them.

I know this kind of comparison is not healthy at all. But I just cant' stop myself from thinking all this.
Did you have this experience before?  shakehead.gif
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keep on comparing...and you'll set the standards higher for your partner to achieve. doh.gif
it is not healthy...and is never healthy in a relationship.
if you keep on making comparison....see where you'll lead your relationship to.
It is always better not to learn the hard way. wink.gif

 

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