What ram actually is that.. 'High Quality Grade Memory for Dell Laptops' ?
your XPS based 965PM, so the highest mem. speed it runs is 667mhz Max.
although if you go for pc26400s-800mhz, it'll still downclocks to 667mhz.
So, the best option you can pick is,
go for low-latency ddr2 sodimm, aka tight timings.
there are 2gb stick sodimm 667mhz rated @cl4
get 2 sticks of them and run it @ 2x2gb dual channel 667mhz cl4.
normal ddr2 sodimm-667, is rated @ cl5
so the LL kit with cl4 will have higher bandwidth thus better performance.
but do note that, the performance difference between both is very minimal.