Hey guys, can help me recommend a monitor?

Got some questions and some requirements:
Massive Gaming, so i need low response time?
For gaming, not sure if i need a bigger screen with same reso or smaller screen with same reso, Especially for gaming! coz I wanna be able to see a piece of dust move a mile away in my games!
will HDMI be much clearer/faster/better or anything compared to DVI? Any advantages?
Price doesnt matter (But dont wanna pay extra for stuff i dont need)
2209w using ips and 2409w not using ips isit? Will ips have effect on gaming? (heard it has higher response times, so ghosting or somesort?)
High dynamic contrast matters? (In game/ movies?)
I want a good stand, one that doesnt shake like mad when ur typing!

Didnt really do my research on this, hope u guys can help me out~
I was thinking of Dell 2209w/2409w/ Samsung 2433BW.. BenQ/Asus also good? Any brand is ok for me, up to u guys to recommend!
Thanks in advanceeee and sorry if ask too much lol