Hi everyone,

So I've met the love of my life here in Melbourne. I know he is because trust me I've been in heaps of relationships gone terribly bad.

Him and I are perfect together. His family have opened their home to me this past year as I couldn't afford rent for my own place, I've been looking for a job since January and haven't been able to find anything. Although for 6 months I did a couple of internship/industry experience.

My parents and I made the deal that if I hadn't found a job by december, I will return to home in KL and get a job there.

So, December is approaching, still no job, got another rejection today and I'm incredibly sad.

Although I know i HAVE to do this to secure my own future. It sucks not working, not doing anything during the day and I can't wait to start building my career and securing my future, so when I think about that.. I know I have to go back to KL.

It's just that him and I have lived together for a year now, we spend our days and weekends together. I feel sad knowing once I go back he won't have much to do as most of his friends have gone back to their home countries.

But again whenever I feel down I just think, I'll get a job, a car, I'll build my future and this doesn't mean the end...right?

There's mobile phones, skype, webcam, plus he can visit me and I can visit him.

I know I have to do this for my own good, but sigh.. i just want to know what you girls think? Has anyone gone through or is going through a similar experience?

I think long distances can work if we try hard enough.

long distance relationship is really not easy to maintain..
coz you will not know who will he met..
so as you..
before i came to kl to continue my studies..
i oso had a bf that i love him so much..
we were so happy together..
it has been more than a year..
everyone thought that we are the perfect one..
but then..
our relationships turn bad..
sometimes is not that how deep you love him..
if he able to beside you often..
or sometimes..
you can feel his care..
aft he's not around..
n if you met another one..
you will feel like this another one do all the thg tat he used to do..
den..
smtg replacement will happend..
is not easy..
but tat's jz my opinion..
i oso got a friend who stay at malaysia..
n her husband working at HK..
but they are still the perfect one..

LYN Cupid's Corner

Vent out your fustration, anger or sadness there, its a hangout place for the broken hearts.

ask him to marry you and you can stay with him forever

yah get pregnant

or

when you're working and have income and all, you can visit him in australia and he can visit you in malaysia. Unlike students, who can't afford frequent travels, LDR is easier on working couples.

if you have to move back to KL, why don't you give LDR a try first?

long distance relationship..
either u make or u break it..
juz remember dat honesty is de best policy...trust each other

hey girl, there's still a month left..buck up and im sure u'll get a job very soon..

YESH! GET A JOB!! >.< try very very hard!

i'm in a LDR now and trust me, is is not easy as u think. after u start working u wont have much time to travel. how many leaves u can take? of cause u will feel lonely. but as what u said, now the communication technology is wayyy advance, u can still have video conversation with him. still, it is not the same. u know, sometimes just wan to cuddle and spend time together, which is going to be, hard. i'm still a student but uni work load is already killing me, i dunno bout working life.

BEST OF LUCK TO U!!
*hugs* =]

it is reali hard to leave someone u luv, but future is another matter that need to take consideration.

I believe u urself, u've had the answer of what to do. So, believe to ur self, make ur own decision. The more suggestion u get, the more confusing you are.

make the decisions, take the consequences...

everyone knows LDR is not easy. yeap, still got 1 more month. hopefully you will get a job. =).. any sales assistant, waitress or anything! just get a job! so that you won't have to go through LRD and you can be with your boyfriend every day! hehe! ^^

This post has been edited by smacky: Nov 4 2008, 09:11 PM

LDR is really not an easy thing to maintain. Personally, I had a LDR before.Even though make calls, sms, skype video call almost everyday, but the feeling is not the same as staying together or at least, stay nearby. At least u will be able to see each other everyday.

Imagine that u are on LDR. For example, weekend u wanna go for a movie, like 007, u wanna watch it with your love one. But he/she is at far far away from u. What can u do? U can do nothing. At the beginning of LDR, yes, u try to accept that u 2 are now in LDR, be more understanding. But do ask yourself, how long can this situation be? How long can it last if things continue this way?

Furthermore, when u start working life, is even harder. How often u can apply leave? Yes, if u get job in big corporate, which offers very good benefits to employees. How if it's just a small company? Things are totally different.

Well, LDR is not as easy as u think. Many factors come into consideration when u are in the situation. AFter all, i really feel distance is a factor for a couple. Even now, got a few frens of mine, who are struggling with LDR. But i dont mean that there is not successful LDR couple. There is of course.

Good luck n all the best to you TS.

ehh who deleted my msg here..

Ask him to marry you and listen to what his opinion is. I am sure he will back off. Then you will have your answer. Usually Man are flirty. Cannot trust 100%.

I am on LDR for 3 years and it is getting 4 years very soon. We started as LDR, so if 1 day we are able to get together, it will last forever i say. Becos those ppl i tell them i am having an LDR relationship for 3 years, they will say LDR 1 year=10 years of marriage. Meaning it is very hard to maintain LDR, so if u can do it, mean in future the ur relationship and family will be live in happiness, be it poor or rich, becos both of u can sail across so many hardship and rough seas together for that long, nothing can break edi the bond.

My advice is, LDR is hard. But it really worth it. U can try out 1st, then if cannot pass LDR, then in future the bond will not be as strong as it will be also. If can pass LDR test, then congrats

I hate distance love... but my bf is going to leave me n go other place for his work may b sabah o other country... i hate tis feel... >.<

What is life without a decision making. No matter which path u choose its your destiny. You write your own history of life, not others.

hey, im in melbourne too...i just got a job today doing sales..u mind doing sales? i might be able to help u..i dun quite like this job but it pays well and i can ask for u if u really want a job..

hey, this is all part of life. maybe GOD testing you and your bf (another half) sincerity and love. take it positive. sometimes, not every stuff falls on our side. no matter what happen, think of the positive site.

trust me, i been through that before with hell lot of frustration.

this is faith, part of our destiny. good luck and have faith

My opinion is LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP will not last long. I have expereince before, when i was in my university life, I have a bf with me for 7 years. V both 1 in Kedah 1 in Selangor. When v in long distance for around 2 years, v eventually broke up. >< reason is, when i need him around, he not there, I feel not safe >.<

you are in Melbourne; Hi there. Well. Things are getting bad here in Victoria; no chances it would go better.Unless you settle for something lesser.
Hav a try going back to msia; its not bad after all; but if he really love you; then he will wait.

LDR is not easy but it can proves your love for each other..Don't have to worry so much as you won't know what will happen in future..