I've known this girl for a while, this girl told me before that she has feelings for me before but I'm not interested. I rejected politely and tell her to move on. After a while then she started to push me with all kinds of stuff like I really need you, try to forget you but can't, and you name it like other love related stuff. Then she started to dig information about me like my private stuff that she shouldn't know about. This is the part that I feel that she's over the limit. I mean, this is not the right way to know a person and to really know a person is by talking/communicate/chit-chat with him/her. She took the back door instead of the front door. I'm so pissed until now that she won't stop disturbing me, I scolded her and told her to just leave me alone but she just don't understand.

So any advice on how to handle this type of people? Thank you folks a lot!

This post has been edited by Mike3300: Oct 12 2008, 04:30 PM

tell her what she's doing isnt making u any fonder of her, and is instead ruining what minute chances she has.

talk in her language and she'll get it

talk nicely to her be a gentlement.

Eh...sounds like my friend's ex-gf.....
told her everything in reasonable way but she keep on doing unreasonable thing
So i guess ts no use in using a reasonable way to tell her things

Hmm, maybe u can try my friend's way
just ignore her when she try to disturb u by phone and msn
sometime telling something to girls to useless
they will think other way round

Hmm, just totally ignore her calls/sms/don't look at her if u bump into her outside etc. It might take some time for her to stop but she will eventually. Just ignore everything she does/says, stay away from her is good enough. Get on with your own life. Don't let it bother you.

Scolding or replying to her in any way shows that u still think about her. Just IGNORE her. I guess it probably works for girls and guys. LOL

She thinks that she know me well enough with the stalking and digging information, I've told her many times politely and in a nice manner until to the extend that she won't understand and it got to my nerves.

She even asked me before to just be friends with her, I seriously not looking forward for even this relationship. Yes, call me mean but I'm avoiding stalkers right from the start.

try avoid her?but i doubt that will work...

...ask one of ur female frends to act as ur gf to make her "die heart"...

yukiz, I've tried but she's smart enough to know that it's all part of the act.

more sounds like my friend's ex-gf....
I agree with just ignored her, blocked in her msn, ignore her sms-es,
she will stop it eventually

lie to her tat u r a gay .... i guess its the most effective way ...

she hot? pretty? sexy??? cute???
Or fat, ugly , disgusting, dirty?

I think this is useful, but sometimes I really need to explain to her. I really am pissed with the part that she dug all of my private stuff and she think that she know me well enough from all that information.

That sounds fake somehow.

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Added on October 12, 2008, 4:43 pmAverage looking for me, most guys call her cute and pretty. Who cares about appearance wise in this case, her attitude sucks and need to be fixed!

This post has been edited by Mike3300: Oct 12 2008, 04:43 PM

you got a serious nutcase stalker after you. is she even hot?

ot: you look so fierce. why?

Most of the guys think that she's hot, not until they find out about her attitude like this.

tsk,tsk...so far didn't encounter one yet...

anyway,y not u just play along with her,couple with her then breakup with her after like 2 weeks...

but b4 d make sure u humiliate her in front of ur frends sin...but u risk she revenge u back...

This post has been edited by yukiz: Oct 12 2008, 04:49 PM

No, that's not gonna happen.. ever. I don't like her at all, certainly not gonna date STALKER.

ask someone to pretend as ur gf

picts plox

what does she love you about anyway? ur look? ur money?

no use,she know it was all an act...


man,this case is similiar to one of my frends case,but instead of a girl,he was stalk by a gay... hahaha...

This post has been edited by yukiz: Oct 12 2008, 04:55 PM

then kiss in front her

Not gonna work.

Privacy purpose, no.

It's about my look.

Yes, I don't want any trouble between her and the girl I planned on this.

just ignore her..

then u wear a mask

Is she hawt?

Just ignore her. Do not respond back to what ever she did to you cause if you do, she has captured ur attention and that's exactly what she want.

Ignore and ignore till you really see her like a stranger.

for my frend case,he opt for the confrontation method... (incase u didnt c,my frend once face similiar case with ts,but instead of a girl,he was stalk by a gay...)

you must be very leng chai..

Lol, don't let it get to u. I know how it feels, been there b4. But look at it another way, like my bro told me, "Don't u feel famous? Someone is trying to get to know everything abt u, ur like a star! BUT ur NOT..."

zzz... Bummer LOL

I empathize with you because i've been through that ordeal myself.

Ignorance in this case is your shield. Eventually she should get the message and give up. Scolding her again and again won't help because she's process it as a sign that will reinforce the same annoying bratty behavior again.

Her childish and persistent behavior shows neediness, which is a kind of selfishness that indicates that she doesn't really care about you, your desires or your responsibilities. She's only thinking about herself.

This is why sometimes I can't stand some girls who are overly dependent on relationships.

Intro her to the desporados in lyn and they will help you sort out the rest.

This post has been edited by Gr3yL3gion81: Oct 12 2008, 05:54 PM

congratulations TS, you got a number 1 fan. You know what makes fans' heart broken? A girlfriend.

just ignore her... like totally... even when she's right in front of you talking to you..
work wonders rather than you scold her and ask her to leave you alone.

Is she pretty?

What does it matter even if she's pretty or not?

Or is it because you're so damn insecure that your pals will laugh at you just because you're dating a plain Jane? Grow up, kid.

Just because she's pretty doesn't necessarily mean she hangs out with pretty friends. Even average girls have their fair share of sexy friends, generally speaking.

Say, are you pretty yourself, so to speak? Nobody will bother to look twice if you say no. You like that?

Even if she's pretty, it's a waste because her inner beauty is not.

This post has been edited by Mike3300: Oct 12 2008, 07:02 PM

Precisely.

Only shallow-minded, vain pot drones are gullible enough to fall for obnoxious individuals because they're too fixated on superficiality.

They all deserve a Botox serum gift set for Christmas.

educate her la. u push ppl away they dont understand its not that easy to tell what your feelings want. It controls you

wow... how u know her 1...?

Can you just ignore the privacy issue??come on i want see your real face !!:D

Back to your topic: If gentle way is not working, try to use rude way.. hashing her, insult or whatever until she felt bad about you.. Still not working? Report police

This post has been edited by KambingPuteh: Oct 12 2008, 11:46 PM

a drastic way, slap her in front of crowd

same case as me...this girl keep asking me out for movie eversince june

TS u told her nicely ad..now can ignore her. or get a court order lol.

mind to intro her to me? i dun mind her inner beauty....

yu huuu

luckily i escaped my stalker, still rmbr she walk into my class to find me, go whreva im on duty( i was a prefect ), folo me whreva i go...

WTF? leave me alone b**ch!

i think you must be very leng zai if she is beautiful why not ?

obviouslynot

Just ignore her, she'll never understand even if you scolded her many times..just bring yourself to ignore her...whatever she does, don't bother at all, i think she'll give up eventually...

Pretty girls with not so pretty attitude kinda sux..met one before & really annoyed me..

have sex with her and dump her..
tell her that u have ur fun and no need her already..

I'm trying to deal with this the right and civilize way, you're not helping.

i get rid of my problem by telling straight to her face. In a gentleman but kinda-feeling-f**ked-up-with-ur-attitude manner.

she then gets the hint.....................a ltl

I believe the best is to fight fire with fire. How?

You have a lot of ammo here
Just intro your fellow (supporter) LYNers to her and to date her. Who knows if little cupid is around the corner

Hit two birds with one stone

Erm, try waking up.

pack yourself leave.. things settle

if u really want to make her heart die.

just bring along a girl with you and holding her hands while telling her that you got girlfriend already and stop bothering you.

intro her to your fellow despos from LYN she'll be so filled with attention herself that she'll forget to stalk you

How I'd wish I was chased like this..

To TS, just ignore her. Sooner or later she'll give up eventually. But if until a year from now she still hasn't changed a zit, we'll you really f***3d up.. You have a stalker in your life..

lol dude.. she's a big fan of u.. haha.. or she was ur wife in ur past life..haha.. now wanna get back together.. or u stalked her in ur past life they she's doin dat to u now..

how bout try not answering her calls.. or change ur number..??

This post has been edited by knightdemon: Oct 14 2008, 02:36 PM

I guess that I'm gonna continue to ignore, just ignore whatever it is. But my friends told me that I'm a mean guy, they told me to get to know her heart's feelings first. I don't think I'm gonna do that as I really hate people stalking me. Any advice on this?

Get to know her. Be friend with her, then only she will stop.

Play some BMTH loudly whenever she's around to drown her out(MEDUSA) haha!
but seriously,u should get a girlfren quick so she will stop

BMTH FTW!!!!suicide season

eat and leave...thats all

This post has been edited by jackielee: Nov 19 2008, 01:37 AM

Tell her to change her attitude
In exchange, you'll give both a chance for a relationship

A girl that won't stop, What to do?


Get to know her. Be friend with her, then only she will stop.....on your

tell her you are not interested in relationship, but will do for 1 night stand.. hahaha

......woi lah saya untuk mengubati kegersangan hati pompuan tu..."

I prefer to play Chelsea Smile.

You're sick.

yeah these people do not know the line between perseverance and stalking. They have tried their best and have failed,,any more effort to make the guy her bf is just overkill and will result in disgust and hate and nothing more. Sometimes a heart can be changed and sometimes it just can't. I would encourage you to tell her that things are never gonna work between you guys and that she should stop what she is doing or a good friendship would diminish.

ignorance is blessing

You cannot, you look like a freak and like to act cool somemore.
Fat girl see, also will run, so impossible you get this chance.
Sorry brother, wait next life.

f*** you also fat chick magnet.

Ts.. is this girl really chasing you for YOU or because for the thrill?

U know, some girls.. (especially popular girls or pretty/high maintance ones)
may not be so into you.. rather might be because u had rejected her, and she not the kind to take rejection..
so she might see this.. as kind of like a challenge, and you are the main prize..

I might be wrong though, so best is to apply 'ignorance'..

I think she's chasing for the looks, not for who I am. Obviously she doesn't really know me inside out.

Yeah, some girls like you mentioned just want the guy for fun or money purpose. Like you said, the thrill.. no offense for the girls.

Good news, after weeks of 'ignorance method' she finally gave up and doesn't disturb me anymore. Should I close this thread or let you guys continue to give in advice for future folks that might stump upon the same situation?

close unless there's something for you to update, then reopen again

Ask the gal to PM me... i am finding for personal fren as the legend Dr Chua S.L teach me de...

Keh keh

Problem solved and thread closed.