Erm, also... Having a BF does NOT solve the loneliness problem girl.. Don't feel bad abt not hvg bf.. The more u want it, the more they will shy away from u.. Be independent with ur own feelings, know that u need NO GUY just to brighten ur day. YOU are the BOSS of ur FEELINGS. U feel good urself first. Then when guys see how secure and confi u r of urself, they somehow will come to u without their realising it either. Don't wait for a BF. Dont even THINK abt BF. When u LEAST EXPECT it, it will COME TO U.

(p.s. Hey i sound like an old sage, do i? lol)

Hey girl! Snap out of it! I used to be like you before... Feeling mighty lonely because my friends have abandoned me for their bfs...

So.. What do I do? Instead of moping ard, I made myself a more likeable person. How? By SMILING. When anyone talk to me, even for a small thing "May I borrow ur book? What did the lecturer say? etc" I jz smile as i reply. Why smile? When u smile, u immediately become more attractive to everyone. Trust me, I was anti-social last time. In high school, i was known as the "anti social girl". But now in college, not to say I'm miss popular, but I have a much wider circle of friends from different "cliques".

The secret is SMILE. Even when u r down or sad or lonely, ACT AS THOUGH U R HAPPY 24/7. You don't have to tell ppl u r down, they don't hv to know. Just put on a front - a false smile if u like.

In the beginning, all that SMILING may seem fake to u, but after abt a month, the ur smile will be more natural to u, and u will feel happy not only on the "outside", but inside as well. Somehow, u will find urself hvg more friends:) Somehow, ppl will notice u and may get interested in u.

I read this advice from a self-help book.. I tried it and it works. Of course, also be humble, and more confident in urself too. DON'T ever gossip or say bad things abt another, to them or behind their backs. U must be nice from the inside out, and somehow like magic the world ard u will be nice as well. Start from urself.

This post has been edited by shecapricorn: Nov 9 2008, 09:44 PM

You know what? Just relax. Be yourself, do yur own things. So what if others got bf. Sometimes when u want sth, u dun get it. BUT when u TOTALLY FORGET ABT IT, then IT WILL COME TO U. This concept applies to the rule of attraction i guess (IMHO). Cuz, when u FORGET ABT GETTING A BF, u will automatically be INDEPENDENT, meaning u can do things on ur own n look confident. Wen u put urself down eg admiring ode couples, wishing u have a bf, then u WUN get a bf cuz ppl can see ur weakness. This is an anti social trait. So, DC ABT HVG A BF, and the BF (whoever it is) will come to YOU.

Well, I can vouch for this cuz I am saying this out of personal experience. when I was in secondary school, i often felt lonely and down cuz it seems all my frens r hvg bfs or hv guys chasing after them, and left me out alone. Finally, in Form 5, I decided to NOT be miserable over this "rltship" thing and jz forget it. If ppl dun like me as gf material fine. I dun care. I jz be myself, i dun hv to rely on some guy to make me happy or feel gd abt myself.

Then sometime after I changed my outlook on life, without my knowing it guys started to fall for me. Quite a few too (one even a total stranger to me! but we were in the same form, another a mere acquaintance among them), and finally one was attracted to me enough to approach me and court me. (At that time I didnt know that i was being courted at ALL, cuz like i said I was NOT BOTHERED abt this rltshp stuff, so I only saw friendliness in guys) Among guys who courted me, I picked my favourite and til today, 3 yrs and nearly one mth, we're still together Oya, I NEVER KNEW that other guys were interested in me until AFTER I was out of Form 5, when ppl told me abt it.

MORAL: Be confident. YOU dun need a bf to make urself happy. U be happy URSELF 1st. Believe me, it's like a whirlwind of romance. Be sure of urself, even wen talking to ur crush. Be open n frenly to evyone.

(p.s. Isit boring to read my long reply? Hehe. Sorry abt it. Ur post struck a chord with me, since I've been in the same situation b4 too. )