How far ur bf pay for u while dating while he's earningaverage ? would u force ur bf to buy either branded or expensive stuffs for u while u knew he just cant really afford it that month ? but promise to buy for u later ? cuz i hv cases of such ppl r doin this ..
let's share !

well i'll accept things tat he buy for me. but i wont force him to buy anything for me. at least anniversary, valentine, birthday o christmas he should remember buy sth for me its enough.

corerct.. never force ur BF buy for u.. coz it useless

Let him buy it sincerely and gave to u

I buy my own stuff. And even when he does buy me stuff, I wouldnt encourage him to pay for something really expensive coz I'll feel guilty

u sound like an economical wife.

happen to have a sister?

yup i dun like always shower w gifts but once in a blue moon is damn sWeet !

yeah...
me too..coz he alr working n earn $$...
possible if he gives me allowance the extend i open a savings under his name..and save everything up..
if break up then ma give him backlor...

good wife

but of open savings can't tell him..if not after he sure angry n not happy with that..
or can faking ask him lor...see what is his reactions 1...

reminds me of my ex............back in student days. always buys things when we are on a date and expect me to pay each and every cent. in a short period of time.........i dumped her. if i'm working i can more or less afford but back then a student..........mana boleh

For bf i will let him pay 1st.. n in return i wil buy something for him o treat him a meal maybe.. as for guy fren, always AA method but i got a guy fren he wil pay for everything.. feel guilty but another side i m happy (he willing to spend for u)

hahaha.....

then how bout husband

Dun hv husband yet.. so dunno

Probably wil split the bills.. eg. he pay for all the commitment like car, house, his own expenses etc.. n for my side i will pay for the daily house usage, saving, children (if any), n etc..

when 1st dating time he always broke wan end up i paid for meals and etc. After half year he every mth gimme his salary 2 kept and spend. Was gracefully to have him as a bf.. Bt paiseh wan use his money alwayz since i earn more than him

alamak finish with your studies first lah

i wont force my bf to buy branded for me. cz forcing is not good. n i will feel his feeling of reluctant if he did buy the stuffs for me.
for me, if can stay happily with him, & most important is he very sayang me, is enuf.

when i was dating last time i will pay for my own shopping expenses...and we take turns to pay for meals...but he usually pay for more meals than i do...

now that we are married, we share the household expenses la...and i still pay for my own shopping...cant expect him to pay for everything right...but he contributes more since he earns more too...hehe

I never ever ask my bf to buy me anything.. all the stuff i got from him is actually he himself who automatically bought it for me coz i know if he doesnt buy me anything on a particular month, he must be in a tight budget.. so i dun think i should hint/tell him what i want & expect him to buy for me..

if u force ur bf to buy you sth everytime that u go out on a date, that proves u as a 'kaki cukur' haha~

Seem like there are many good to-be-wife here. Too bad I am a step behind...lol

Even if you would want him to buy something, don't need to "force" right. Just hint, hint, and he'll be happy to buy already.

my gf always dun wan me to spend on her,but i remember the last time i gave her a gift is like months ago..always wanna get something nice for her but no idea what to give..so should i keep searching? or listen to her..dun spend much on her?

no need buy gift la.....juz spend sumtime on her accompany her u noe wat i mean..... hehe sry a bit OT(off topic)......

well, i personally think that once in a blue moon if u buy just a little gift for your girl she is already happy.. she doesnt wan u to buy her anything is bcoz she doesnt want u to waste money.. its sweet that u have thought of buying her something nice as u said its been months back since u last bought her something.. girls will feel happy with just a little gift & not something that cost u a fortune.. its the heart it counts & not the value.. for me, i rather my bf buy me lil' gift once in a while than saving so hard & skipping meals just to buy me an LV tote.. its entirely depends on the guy's financial ability though.. so, ya.. u should keep searching for some lil' gift for her..

this is just my 2cents..



This post has been edited by chrissie: Aug 14 2008, 10:14 AM

agree.....LoLs how i wish i had a gf like u.........

my bf and i, we share to pay since we r stil students, so many things have to think twice b4 we spend....

this topic reminds me bout my ''ex hsemate''
he reli'' flower heart'' la, c this gal , like dis gal, c dat gal like dat gal, never stable, den everytime after date a gal, if the gal use lots of his money he will complain to me saying that dis gal not good la...etc...

i feel i reli wana scold him, : since u oways say u very rich, then spend lo, 1 day i oso dunno how he spend for a gal 1k...reli geng...but he reli stupid for dis lo, caz those gal might be love $ only...reli stupid

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Added on August 15, 2008, 1:44 ammy bf and i, we share to pay since we r stil students, so many things have to think twice b4 we spend....

this topic reminds me bout my ''ex hsemate''
he reli'' flower heart'' la, c this gal , like dis gal, c dat gal like dat gal, never stable, den everytime after date a gal, if the gal use lots of his money he will complain to me saying that dis gal not good la...etc...

i feel i reli wana scold him, : since u oways say u very rich, then spend lo, 1 day i oso dunno how he spend for a gal 1k...reli geng...but he reli stupid for dis lo, caz those gal might be love $ only...reli stupid

This post has been edited by pinkling: Aug 15 2008, 01:44 AM

am not showing off but i've been quite pressured nowadays when it comes to gifts ,

from her to me : prada wallet , PSP , seiko kinetic , and for my bday last month canon eos 400d

from me to her : prada purse + handbag , guess + ck watch , diamond ear rings , precious stone pendant , burberry purse

and our 3rd year anniversary is coming ... i'm gonna die ... seriously i really felt pressure , i mean ok she gives me something exp , then of coz when in return also at least something similar ... damm pressure le like that , so ended up discussing no more expensive gifts exchange

walaueh... talking about gifts.. i got flashback about my previous relationship with my ex.. i can't really remember what i gave her, since i'm kinda thick-headed.. but nothing seemed to be enough... oh well... back then wasn't working, now working part-time, managing better (considering that i'm not dating XD)

wah, no need oways branded and expensive stuff la...
reli crazy.... earn money very tough leh
i never work b4, last sem break i do my 1st part time job since it is my sem break....so tired....lucky the payment is ok, caz i work 20 days only then i get 1k...good paid, at least worth la...


for expensive things is ok, but not oways la, unless ur income very good la...the most expensive things that i got is valentine's day dinner...2 ppl about rm200..., but cant oways like dis , will pok kai la....

its only been 2 months + i would say.. listen to her !

agree with this guy

he would probably bang his head on a wall trying to think what to buy le.. lols

one sentence money or expensive item isnt eveyrthing,oni love,heart,efford,caring tat u put into tats count......

i only buy branded stuff on special occasion coz i hate being force to buy.
luckily my current gf very understanding sometimes she will buy back something for me. its not the price but her attention n it just feel so good
but when i have extra cash from my side jobs i will buy something nice for her or treat her special dinner even its not on special occasion

i have 1 ex who clearly make use of me. only together for few days, she asked me to pay her cell phone bill, electricity bill, etc. i dumped her after 1 week. lolz

LoL.....ur ex tot u open bank.....

she even wanted me to buy piano for her la! it will cost me 4K okay
lucky i save myself.
i think coz some girl take advantage of a guy but she wont take advantage to the guy she really love. is that true?

lol... a piano.. wait a while longer and it'll be car--->house--->your soul

exactly that is what i was thinking. surprisingly now she married with someone else but only demand for LV bag. nut she damn possesive lor

k la getting off topic here

he pays almost evrything eventho i told him im paying for it,money also standby already, but he distract me by talking n then tau2 the resit alrd print out. hmmh...i ony pay for parking,tols...cheap things.

somethimes he says he wants to get me clothes/bags/accessories but i always tell him i dont want cos clothes i got alot, bag n accessories..i dont use em,then i'll get the weird stares fm him. haha!

means he taking good care of u Qasy.. lucky u. but maybe u should get him something nice in return for his kindness.
i guess money isnt a problem for him so lucky u

agree.....OT a bit ah hehes i wan a GF so i can take good care her also dun hav tak ada nasib

maybe u should hang around in gal forum n show ur pic as ur signature i believe that will helps a lot

LoL......good idea

I'll hint him to get the thing I wan(although I can easily get it myself) for those special events like christmas, birthday, valentines and so on dunno just feel so sweet if using something I like and it's bought from him

i agrees with u also..
i also feel guilty and happy lor...
summore i got asked him b4...u owe me a lot of thing hor??
he said..ya ya...
then next time u belanja me lah ok?
u want me belanja u how many times also can...
but of coz sometimes he pays and the other round i pay lor...sometimes he is not happy..
XD

Hehe let's say if i'm eyeing on something expensive, like camera or LV bag, I'll start hinting few months before any occasions coming up, so he'll have time to prepare. haha But if cheap stuffs like clothes and accesories and stuffs that I can easily afford, I'll always get myself. Sometimes depending too much on bf to get something is very bad, usually will lose the power of saying.

me n my bf r both students n we both hv scholarship to support our spending..but his parents seldom gv him extra money,n i cn always ask money from my parents if im outta money..but we still share when it comes to stuff that we do 2gthr like dinner,movie etc..but we always buy our own stuff and only buy things for one another when we feel like 2..so there's no pressure..and when i gv him present or he gv me present,it makes it evn more memorable other then me waiting every month for his gift and suddenly he didnt buy anythg and ill get frustrated..i think both parties shud tolerate when it comes to spending money..cz relationship is abt the 2 of u,so y shud only 1 of u pay for everythg or mostly evrythg rite?jz my opinion tho..

well i dun need my bf to buy me anything...
he used alot d for makan, watching movies and travel around...
=P

how i wish i have a gf like u both aspecially the theory u both mention on it......but haizzz still cant found it yet....

This post has been edited by BuBuCai: Sep 17 2008, 02:03 AM

"dealuvsfaiz".....salute and admired u,such a nice couple undestanding both sides so well ......me,paktor with her until my account pok kai already...

we share everything together...
my fiancee use my car...so i use my bf bank card...
can r??hahha~
if deting... he will pay for movie, parking lot, n minyak....
i will pay for food n tol..
shopin? if i wan da expensive tin just like laptop or etc.. we will discus, n..da solution always like this:
he pay 60% i pay 40% heheh..
he must pay extra..bcoz he love me kan?

My ex-gf would asked me to buy this and that for her, i try to give in to her every time as i don't want to disappoint her. Yet, in the end she dumped me and got new bf even though we see each other everyday for almost 3 years. Can you imagine someone who's closest to you suddenly becomes a stranger to you, just a SMS from her asking for a break up. Eventually i did let her go... let her pursue her own happiness... That's what i can do...

gold digger

Hey,bro...truly understand ur feeling that been together for 3 years so long...sure gonna very hurtful. A girl who only knows always asked you buy this and that for her, even you got her together til after married, how much can you afford to continue buy for her??.....Find a better girl out there la, the world is huge....the opportunity still alot out there waiting for you,someone will precious you...find a true love instead of materialistic money-sign....Wish you best of luckk!!!....

i rather he surprises me when I least expect it.. or pay attention to the things I'm eyeing on..

otherwise, I'm fine with buying the stuff myself

Am not so lucky.

On any special occasion, I will try to buy gifts which my bf like or told me he likes, even though it is expensive or what. But he will simply buy for me. Am not materialistic but I do hope he will at least buy something I like or which I have hinted before. He is kinda stingy and he rather buy for himself. You know, I will save money to buy for him gift he likes but he save money to buy for himself. Well, I don't plan to buy anything for this coming valentine. Well, I believe, if a person really loves you, he will try to buy something you like instead of buy something he like for himself first. It is not fair.

Big deal , a lot of guys experience the same thing with their girlfriends. The difference is guys don't whine about it when a girl does that.

PSP, as far as i remember. i bought a PSP

I'd buy for myself. I don't depends on guys to buy for me.
Who knows, after break up, he will ask me to pay him back.

no guy will be dare 2 ask back for money $$
but for those who is money minded will ask for something back

There is.
Not because he's money minded, it's because he can't accept the break up, thus he will try everything to threaten her to back with him

Neah, just plain sad.

I don't wana celebrate Valentine...

for me... normally if i saw something nice i'll juz say it's so nice and my bf will buy it for me...
and the case is.. his not working =.= all the money comes from his parents which is.. quite rich...
but than i wont force him to buy something for me... his just so used to buy things for people(his ex) till he doesnt even care much about money...
so basically i'll be the one worrying about how he spends his money

nice to be silver spooned. Until he work, he will keep depending on his parents and not be responsible.

me and my bf are also students in public unis..most of the time my bf pays but sometimes i pay for petrol, meals and movies..currently undergoing long distance relationship with him..so he tends to spend more when he's back with me

ya... thats y i'm forcing him to work...
i told him if he cant earn a certain amount in a month i'll break up with him.. =X its for his good also...

No matter what a girl answer according to the topic, the guy gonna pay anyway, so whats the diff asking this here?

I use to meet girls that get angry and black face when guy refuse to pay for them. Im not trying to say all girls the same, but i mean there are many girls like this in this world. At least i saw and heard tons of them and sure that they are exist

Very true, if i dont pay for the girl. Even just friends only, she wont be going out with me after this. But who cares lol. Plenty of girls out there.

even friends? that's a bit too much.

I don't expect any of my guy friends to pay for me.that's just so plain rude but of course there's girl ask for it shamelessly.

anyway,if it were my bf I do expect him to pay but only in moderate amount.I'm not the type of asking other people to get me gucci bag or whatever. I like paying it by myself.

Only dinner or movie and fuel. Or we could switch it.

Except in tough condition I would expect to pay by myself.

Being reasonable is the key

we're staying with our families, other than that i pay for almost everything... we split the housing loan... i supported her a little bit when she bought a car... clothings wise, it depends, if its too expensive, she'll take out her credit card faster than me
Basically, we'll 'fight' for the bill, fight as in both of us will take out the money and see who's faster
it's been my family's tradition to fight for bills so i guess she picked that up as well
we usually buy each other stuff especially clothings... we think this adds more value to the item... there came a point where we kept buying until we had to tell each other to stop, the spendings was slowly eating up our monthly savings

This post has been edited by kenji1903: Feb 11 2009, 09:59 AM

bf works so hard, i don't have the heart to use his money at all. in fact, i start to spend my own money to cheer him up, like getting a ps3 for his birthday.

when we go out on dates he still makes a fuss about wanting to pay for the food and entertainment though, so i'm not complaining

i think girls should be strong and independent, so i always make it a point to make my own money to shop for my own stuff. prevent bf from nagging also, heh heh heh...

Valentine is coming and I didn't even buy anything for buy boyfriend yet. He have been giving me hints that he wants PSP or some other gaming machine. That is going to cost me more than RM900++. The problem is I don't mind spending that much for him but why should I? He is not even willing to spend that much on me. For the past, I have been spending a lot for gifts. Now I am sick of it.

first time i heard the guy is the gold digger...

what did you get from him for the past few years?

oh he is kinda sweet when he go after me, but i didnt get any present for this valentine, just a card. neway i know he's saving money to buy me a new laptop.

far far far.. kind of far. even to the toilet 20cents entry also he want to pay for me. ''
hahahaha!
basically, he just want to pay everything for me though i don't let him to do so.
then, he'll come and tell me he spent too much this month.
but still, he won't get tired of spending too much.
and i have to keep an eye on what i do and eat.
if i know his bank account number, i can transfer some money to him.
anyone know a? LOL!

f**k man.. i really pity u.. bad investment

This post has been edited by mthc: Feb 21 2009, 06:49 PM

totally agree! 1 of my fren is d kind hint ppl to gt this and that, especially she knows tat person was hv an eye on her, beh tahan

my bf willing to pay, then i m happy to receive, hehe but juz like wat u said, if i really want to buy something bloody expensive, i rather spend my own $, great satisfaction.

and i think d only thing he spend so much with me is EATING lo, cos i like to explore new restaurant and food and he enjoy it oso

anyway. as gf, better pemper ur bf at least some small gift la, dun stingy until 1 cent oso not willing to take out lo

he pays for meals, movies n drinks...
i wouldn't want him to buy anything for me,
instead i'd love to get him smth wheneva i can

ya i thnk so..
i more prefer my partner love me more instead attractive of material...

i prefer to buy things as of when i feel like it. =P when i get pressured to buy things i end up not buying anything. haha. but i do pay for everything. food, movies, car, etc etc etc, doing it out of free will coz i am earning a lot more than she is. i always encourage her to save more then she can be more independent. had this girl i went out with.. i totally ignored her after 1 week. in the morning went breakfast i had important call.. she couldn't even pay for my food when it arrived as i was occupied. she just poke me and point at the guy that served the food.. zzzzzzz that really pisses me off. i dont mind paying for normal girl friends when going out for drinks or lunch etc. it's just that i feel more gentleman if i did it. but if the girl insists on AA or buying me a drink or meal then i'll make sure i'll buy her back. more comfortable and mutual understanding.

oh and i dun let gf know how much i am earning exactly so that she wont take me for granted. =)

he'll pay everything and i'll return my share. i prefer to pay everything myself honestly. once in a blue moon i'll allow my bf to pay for my meal and stuff when i shop.. like special occasions or something. other than that it's AA. about clothes and all that i like i usually buy them with my own money~ i just don't feel nice if he were to pay for my meals all the time... it's like i feel i owe him something and i need to pay him back =.=

my bf pays everything for me. he even bought me a Giorgio Armani's perfume and a GUESS's handbag! but ofcourse la i didnt ask for the items. Im feeling that im quite lucky to have him in my life.

I think both couple should take turn paying when it comes to food, movies & etc...as in sometimes he pays...or sometimes the girl pays...

pwincess, I guess you are lucky...

This post has been edited by Strawberry~*: Mar 22 2009, 01:17 AM

he pays all ..
my shoes .. make up .. and so on

Well, i pay for LV, Gucci, Jewellery and mores...

omg .. izzit real ?
haha good luck then ^^

i never ask my bf to spend for me if do i pay back..but sometimes he still want to spend for me

not wanting him to pay me any after dating with him. All i want is to see him more often....

It's all give and take la... I normally let the guy pay for first date. If we happens to have more dates, then everything can take turns/sharing. Like I pay for movie, he'll pay for food. I don't mind paying a part also in everything.

Usually my boy will pay on the meal and movie. Sometimes i do pay too. I dont ask him to pay on my luxury. Unless there is some celebrations like birthday, anniversary, valentine.As long as he can accompany me, there is more than enough. As he always complaints i like to buy.haha.

I would never EVER let my boyfriend pay for my personal items, i.e. clothing, books, cosmetics. I mean, wtf? We're not married. His money is either (a) his parents' money, or (b) his hard-earned money; so I really don't see why it should go to me. That's just selfish. Occasionally he picks up when I say things like "I'm running out of hand cream, perfume, etc" and he goes out and buys me stuff out of his own free will, which is really sweet of him, but I try to insist that personal, girly things be mine to pay for. I mean, would HE ask ME to pay for his briefs and cologne???

Food-wise, haha we take turns paying for each other. Valentine's Day was hilarious. I paid for him, he paid for me, and we both had the same dish anyway so it was even. lmao

I m agreed with you. I have a girl friend who totally depends on her bf. We all study far away from house.
Her bf is my classmate. The girl happened to be my housemate. So we all hang out as a group quite often. Etc, weekend or weekly cinema day.

From what I can see, her three meals a day, tanggung by the bf, her weekend household expenses tanggung by bf, her transport tanggung by bf. If we planned for weekend to drive up to Penang, he would pay for her part too. Like we spend 1k 5 ppl for the weekend, then divide by 5 ppl, but he has to pay for 2 ppl.

And she give a list to him what she wants on her birthday, valentine, anniversary etc. To tell you the gifts she asked for not so cheap for students like us. Whole set of facial care product which cost nearly 1k for valentine? OMG.

Sometimes really envy her when the bf buy this n that for her. The only she paid for herself from the money her parents gave is her rent RM210/month + her own shopping for heels & clothes.

Since me n the bf are classmates, me n him often have lunch together after classes, so I observed his spending on own food like so kedekut. And he will complained bout the food price getting expensive. I once asked him how much you spend on your FOOD only/month. He said nearly RM500 for 3 meals a day. Then I dengan tak malu also asked how much you spent on her FOOD, he said, same as his. Sometimes, I saw him borrow some money from his close fren. I very2 pity him. Dont know how to make money yet but already pay monthly expense for the "wife".

Among the guy's closest friends, they all think she's so cheap.

So back to the topic question... some ppl willing to share... but some take the advantage to the max to have their finance completely taken care of.

Is not she is cheap. Is the guy stupid. I even know a stupid guy buy a car for his gf. The relationship ends because the his gf cant stand his bad attitude & the fact is that this guys is not as rich as she thinks. I even know a stupid guy buy a house for his gf, but the relationship end as well. As also this guy is not as rich as he is, because his mother pay for him. The worst his gf is earn more than him.
Nowadays, a lot guys tends to use money as a egoism towards their gf & leaving themselves in debts by pampered their gf with materialistic gift out of their financial means.
To determine a guys wealthness, is not by what he can buy for you. Try to look at his savings account nor FD, make sure is not negative. That will be more realistic.
Yesterday was having a dinner at SS2, saw a pretty girl with an average guy look, the chick is holding a LV bag, as i was with my friend(girl), she told me that is limited LV bag whihc easily cost 4k above...we are betting what car will be they driving, indeed jsut a proton waja. Im guessing that is another stupid guy...

This post has been edited by Gary1981: Apr 27 2009, 03:13 PM

Well my friends ON for 2 yrs + ady. We assumed she will stick to him. Coz of financial security he can provide her.

She's from normal family while he from real rich business based family. And he's the only son. And the fact he believe he found what he always want in a girl. He can always be an engineer while at the same time business is running for him.

Yea, you are right. Haha. Maybe he's a lil bit stupid. But we all do silly things when we are in love, aren't we?

Well my friends ON for 2 yrs + ady. We assumed she will stick to him. Coz of financial security he can provide her.
She's from normal family while he from real rich business based family. And he's the only son. And the fact he believe he found what he always want in a girl. He can always be an engineer while at the same time business is running for him.

Well, im guesing that actress is not you:p...

But we all do silly things when we are in love, aren't we?
Hmm..my perception tell me that its more applicable to "GALS" but rarely for guys. You know it better:p

This post has been edited by Gary1981: Apr 27 2009, 05:40 PM

Haha, not me of coz... Me and bf far away due to job + studies. Envy tho, seeing ppl's lover so near and protective. LOL.

Yea, girls normally do silly things... But guys too in my opinion. I've seen some.

hmmm..how far?i guess..he will pay anything for me expensive or not..but i don like la..don like ppl pay for me...me ego kut..

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This post has been edited by melcat: Apr 28 2009, 02:06 PM

far as in diff country?

agree.. me n my bf use my money 1st then the next month use his lol.. its easy.. no need to pening2..

One word to describe your girl friend 'money face'. If I had a gf like sure cabut already. Sometime pay for her still ok la but the guy not yet come out for work already need to spent so much.

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Added on April 30, 2009, 6:49 amEmily, sometime if the couple stay together not really a good thing. I had an experience before. So now, even me and my gf study together in KL but I ask her to stay together with her friends.

This post has been edited by vidic88: Apr 30 2009, 06:49 AM

Theoretically, yea, if it happens to you, sure you will leave the girl. That's what you think. But it might be diff when it really happens to you. You know there is some time you ll be blind in love, if u get what i mean.

And plus the fact that she's really beautiful like a goddess and the perfect body she owns.

agreed, i appreciate privacy very very much. i prefer to have own room. However diff country is too much >.<

This post has been edited by Emily Yee: Apr 30 2009, 09:37 AM

+1

just that he pays for birthdays , anniversary and valentines too