Sekali he don't care.....siap.... kekurangan darah la her....

What if the man do it, so that it wouldn't hurt his partner or perhaps he wants to surprise her with surprises and gifts?

Remember being secretive is a burden. Its not easy to be secretive and calm at the same time.

Do you experience it b4?

What made you say that?

FEISTY!

Both of you same type of women?

Saya suka cara anda berfikir.

Saya pun suka cara anda berimaginasi.

But how often we ourselves didn't trust our partner? Yes, trust is as important as honesty. If a person misuse the trust, things might sway differently than before.

But the truth is, the moment you lose it, thats the moment the relation crack not break. Sometimes when a trust is lost, the other person knows what to do to convince the other to believe him or her again. Besides, you have to take notice to the situation & setting as well that brought the person to mistrust his or her partner. There are some who mistrust his or her partner over 'silly or unreasonable' reasons. The concern here is not about what mistrust can do, its always about how the other partner is going to convince you to believe in his or her opinion about the given situation. Vic versa applies too.

That's why i believe, as much as listening is a powerful tool to improve communication, it's also wise to give a person a chance to convey what he or she has to say or in other word a 'second chance' but of course the only difference, its our patience limit.

Trust certainly is....but how many know how to be responsible over it? John Gray failed to write about this part properly.

Yes a crack will lead to break sooner later. But as much as we know how crack leads to a break, at that moment also the person must know how to patch things up again. A relationship with scars (given that both are still together) actually is a strong relationship because it shows how both willing to patch or forgive their partner's mistake through love (this is just part of the phase in the rebuilding process)

If there are one person out there telling me, how a relationship should be based on trust to be strong, i'm going to tell the naive person, as much as we need trust to build a relationship, lies as well, plays a huge role in rebuilding the relationship. A scar-less relationship is non-existence in this universe. Its the scars that actually determine a person's love. So learn forgive and let go. If you want to judge your partner incapabilities, look throughly in ourselves whether are we incapable to forgive them or not.

As much as i trust my partner, the most important virtue that will test any form of relationship is faith. So show some unwavering faith to your belief or trust in your partner.

You've mistook my statements when i mention about patience and faith. If you read it properly, you will get the glimpse. You will understand what im trying to say in my previous posts when you're involved in a relationship.

If you think getting a second chances should be earn before a person seeks forgiveness, trust me, you better count in how calculative you are as well.

You will understand what im trying to convey, when you fully understood the concept of loving yourself. A hint for you, regardless of how big a person's mistake is affecting you, your ability to distinguish the given situation and to forgive your partner without even asking a single bit from her but just to show your love, determines how big is your love towards yourself. In a harsh way to describe this, you will hurt lesser or feel no hurt at all.

It should be like this, if you truly love someone, you will understand his or her pain and empathize him or her, and use your trust to forgive him or her. If you were to ask me, if my partner betrays me, what does that imply to me? of course it means I can't keep her relative to her desires and wants, isn't it? Like i say before again and again, look into yourself thoroughly before others.

Put it this way as well,

Can a loving person leaves another loving person? When i say look thoroughly...there are reasons why i meant thoroughly. If you think the other left because the other doesn't know how to appreciate the person, have you ever look whether the person knows how to appreciates the other as well? People don't mistreat others if others don't mistreat them at the first place. Simple as that. Not to mention the collision in the dynamic of interest between two individuals which you have yet to discover.

And yet you still miss the point im making. You often look from the 2nd and 3rd people point of view. Have you ever consider to fill in the 1st person shoes? Or simply put the trouble maker?

And just a note for you, break up is also a process to rebuild a better relationship given that both partner agrees to do so. Harsh? Frankly speaking, there is no such thing 'Don't wait it is too late to safe' unless you are not able to carry the burden and blame.

Its better you ask why should a relationship be healthy rather than how. This will help you solve your own question. I'm not in the position to determine what is a healthy relationship. Any assumptions that we made regarding what makes a relationship healthy differs greatly from couple to couple. So its best, if we answer why make it healthy and pursue it according to the uniqueness that both people brings in the relationship.

This post has been edited by peinsama: Jul 31 2008, 03:02 PM