i really believe in this, some people could be trusted, some not

some, chose to tell you a lie to not hurt you, but not realizing that it will hurt you more the later you found out

so, choose wisely on who to trust, and who not to trust

that's the fourth option i gave...lol

i can tell you guys something as well...

if you want to know your bf/gf better, don't ask them, ask their closest friend

they aren't themselves when they are with you, but not their friends...so yea

you can ask them indirectly, not directly, like, probably do you think that A likes animals for pets and such?
well, a person who likes animals are considered as kind and caring, so yea...

like my favourite saying, some things are better to be left unknown

i think he means life is confusing...XD, just don't make life difficult for people digi...

after all, you are the smarter choice, right?=)

This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Jul 25 2008, 02:58 PM

anyway, i think TS here wants the answer on how to force guys to be honest, as in force i believe

you can always force one by threatening (there are many ways out there), just don't use those that would put you into jail, then it's ok...haha

you can always take away something you are possibly to give him, i don't encourage you people to think dirty, but yea...maybe i think you get my point

if not, just casually ask him, are you honest with me dear? and if he says yes, just believe him, i guess...

it's seriously hurtful when you begin to doubt someone, but you just gotta let them know that you are doubting them one day or another...at least he or she knows that you begin doubting and would maybe try to fix things before things went out of hand...

warning though, if you really did the above, and fix things, if it work only on verbal basis and not through actions, you might kiss your relationship bye2 as you find out the truth...haha

see, there is a truth in where friends knows the real attitude of the person...but whether or not does the person wanna tell is a different storyla...=)

trust is a very important aspect in relationships...
the moment you lose it, the moment this relationship breaks as well...

but if your boyfriend really see you so concern about it, maybe he should begin talking about it instead of you keep on querying him...get what i mean?

if you think you can trust him, just tell him that i trust you, but if you have anything you want to tell me about, i'll listen...=)

yup, that is why i added that her boyfriend should have played the role of trying to maintain the relationship without being questioned so many times by her girlfriend...

a crack might lead to a tear and a tear would lead to a break...

and i believe that you've read a lot of john gray's book right pein?
trust is one of the main thing a man would love his woman to give him, right?=)

maybe it's time for his bf to do those 'little things' for his gf...=) to balance up the security back, hmm?

well, some lies are good, some lies are bad, you can keep those good intentions for lying out of the bag, but hiding those bad intentions are...kinda off limits if one were having a plot to severe something

forgiveness in a relationship is also very important, i mean, as i said many times, who doesn't make mistakes in a relationship...=)
as long as one knows how to apologize sincerely, the other should always give a second chance

however, second chances should be earned, not to be given away freely, agree?=)

This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Jul 31 2008, 01:59 PM

well, i mean that second chances are for those huge things, in this case, i thought that the focus here was...being a two timer...lol, so, yea, my bad if you thought what i was saying is for small things such as an argument over why the phone bill is so high this month...XD

i still believe that, if you truly love someone, you would forgive everything your partner did no matter what...betrayal is up to one to forgive though...

yes, you could put it this way as well, but well, lets put it on the other hand...

problem arises when two have miscommunication, but if only one has it, the partner can always ask to find out

don't wait till it becomes too late to safe...yes, people argue, people quarrel...the best part comes only when one knows how to forgive after an argument...there are always signs before something "big" happens, so...have a look into it and explore the possibilities of what are causing these problems?

your partner might betray you, but it could not be your fault...you can be the best one out there, but if she doesn't know how to appreciate you, that's another story right?...stories like this happen, and i'm not saying either you or me on this case, so, chill...=)

well, i said so because there are stories as such, one knows how to appreciate and one doesn't...it's sad, but it happens...well, you could say these as sob stories...but also, from john gray's point of view, most of these are miscommunications

of course when both knows how to appreciate, most likely nothing will happen...but there will be arguments over something, someday, just depends on how one resolves it

break up is also a process to rebuild a better relationship given that both partner agrees to do so
i truly agree with this...

well, relationships are mutual after all right? you can't call a relationship a healthy one if there aren't two people communicating healthily inside, yes?=)

agree to the above as well...=)