Hi Girl & Guys just wanna share in this scenario, if u doubt ur partner got girl/guy without your knowledge then how u force he/she to tell u the truth.

First sure all will ask why will doubt on this?why not belive on ur partner?so on and so on.....

For my case, one day i accidently read his sms, this sms i dunno sent from who. The content is " how ur lips?is it recover?" and at the same time, my bf lips is broken. So, i bring the phone infront of him and ask who sent this to him, and he start explain to me this and that. He say his frend go to nightclub and get to know this girl, so his frend give my bf phone number to her. And so ngam, his frend lips broken also on the same day. So he tell me that, this sms was actually want sent to his frend but not to my bf. Should i believe that? i feel that he is finding an excuse. At nite, there is a party held in his house, so he introduce his frend to me and ask his frend to show his lips, i did not check well whether his lips is really broke or not, because i feel embarrase. Then my bf tell all his frend that i doubt he play girl outside, but all his frend quite and say nothing. Then my bf say again, i can doubt him everything, but cannot doubt him that he play girl outside.

I really dunno how to do,should i trust him?

Or how to force him tell me the truth?

He always say that, if his partner always reject his sex, and he will find it outside by himself. I dunno he is joking or he is serious. When i seriously ask him, is it true he will find from outside, then he will refuse it and say that he got no money to find from outside.


Guys....please share this with me.....

MOVED to Cupid Corner

pinch his nipple hard

if u dont tell me the truth im gonna make your life hell

give him an ultimatum

don't get mad, let's get even

you dont want me to find out the truth... would you ?

U better tell me the truth before i found out the truth.....

you already asked him and that is the answer he gave. if you ask some more he will say you don't trust him... which pretty much is true. if you don't trust him why bother? what will you do if you know the truth if he's really lying to you?

look at his eyes, unless he is a liar all his life he can't be so cool to lie without doubt in his eyes

I LOL hard at this

Perhaps u can tell him that "If you don't tell me the truth, then there is NO SEX for u tonite"

Im kinda confused with the 1st part story...

and he will find sex outside if gf refuse? lol wat a loser.

Anyway, how can u "force" someone to tell the truth, when u will only think he is lying watever the answer is unless it comes out as what u expected.
U should believe it until u found concrete proof stating otherwise.

he will answer "that is the truth what can i do if you don't believe me? No sex tonight? i'll go find outside..."

LOL ... He just told u the truth lok

no sex for a month?

It is hard to know the truth. You have to believe in yourself.

i dont think there a way to find the truth and its kinda hard to find the truth also.

buy a lie detector

No sex for a week !!!

rourou very free hor? no need work is it?

cut his balls and thing..

there is this chinese saying forcing doesnt bring happiness.
They always say its better to find out the truth now then after 10 years.

Your option are as follows

1) Believe him and trust him
2) Take the option to leave him
3) Confront him and tell him if its a lie i will leave you.

I dunno why people can become couple even they dont trust them. Next time learn to do some research on the person before starting a relationship. Stupid ppl

i worked through lunch.. this is my very deserving 1 hour break you leh??? very free hor~~~

If he is not willing to tell, forcing him will make thing worst, don't you guys think so? -__________-

Agree with what DiGi said. Please follow those steps for your own good. Personally, I think your bf could have come up with a much better story...

This post has been edited by wilsoncvt: Jul 24 2008, 04:34 PM

guys are better friends

i really believe in this, some people could be trusted, some not

some, chose to tell you a lie to not hurt you, but not realizing that it will hurt you more the later you found out

so, choose wisely on who to trust, and who not to trust

that's the fourth option i gave...lol

True but do you know there is a way to analyse someone characterisitc? No matter how special how unique the person is he/she is still human. Human have common attitude common action common thinking. They are different in some ways but overall they still act like you. Most relationship failed because people tend to take an action without anaylsing and understand it. If you let your feelings take control you will always face this issue all your life.

Time reveals everything. Before you start a relationship you should get to know your partner friends before
like the chinese saying

Monkey see Monkey do it means how his friends attitude it will influence him too. Its call habit!

You mix with loser you end up 1.
The above is true because i been there done that now i am here .

" Howyoudoanythingishowyoudoeverything "

This post has been edited by DiGi: Jul 24 2008, 04:37 PM

TS, what do you think of post #3?

This an example its a sign to show your level of maturity.

and this shows yours

that to request somethin big from your board of directors

This post has been edited by razorzx66: Jul 24 2008, 04:56 PM

the keys to love is sex
lol

let him drunk then u will know the truth

FALCON PUNCH WILL DO THE REST!

I am just sharing what i master from experience but you in the other hand showing of your childish attitude

some ppl just dont take jokes. get dump often?

y broken lips must because of kissing? cannot be when this bf eating with his fren..got guys and girls la..and suddenly he accidentally bit his own lips cz talking while eating..

if you dont trust him,just leave him..dont make yourself suffer.

You get dump often? Thats the reward of being childish often
HAHAHA you say people cant take joke you cant even take a joke kid. You are the joke

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Added on July 24, 2008, 5:47 pmJust his story sound suspicious thats wat TS says

This post has been edited by DiGi: Jul 24 2008, 05:49 PM

whoaa...pls dun force him if u want to know the truth.
after he telling u so much if u still dun trust him, den let it be or u move on.

if he really cheat on u, he will feel bad on himself.
but wat about if he really tells the true n u keep on dun believe?

if he really like to go out find other, ask him to go.
wat for to keep such a man besides u?
even u manage to stop him from finding other today, u cant prevent him to find other in future.

so, tell me, how did he and his friend "broke" their lips? doing what?

Why will he feel bad? He find someone better wo . Can satisfy him in bed. Let him go lo. You force him then worse he got no reason to regret at all

Wad da point forcing him 2 tell the truth??
If u're nt trusting him,even he tell u the truth,thing will nvr change better either..

Trust is always a prob in relationships....

You think buying a lie detector will solve the issue? Nah.

Break it off with him. Guys who go clubbing WON'T DO YOU ANY GOOD

Wasai 1 sentence kena a lot of people

What if your own boyfriend went for clubbing? Would you called it off?

wake him up at 3am

pathetic attempt

Curious Why 3am and not 4am?

cry and he'll tell u da truth.
jk=)

I think u shud trust him.

3am 3AM lah !! Dont ask so much question sshhh.....

I would never even start it with him in the 1st place (if I'm a girl).

If love gets in the way and I can't leave my partner, I will brainwash her/him to stop clubbing. No offense to clubbers, but I personally hate the idea of clubbing.

If she/he still doesn't want to change, I will see if I can change myself (the sad truth is I tried and I do not like clubbing).

All also cannot then just break it off lo...

watch X-files, the truth is out there

threaten him by being an hero.,cut your wrist.

Sekali he don't care.....siap.... kekurangan darah la her....

go youtube and search for water boarding technique.
use that on him

how can you say that to us?

we go clubbing to enjoy ourselves!
dancing is good for health

personally, I would say the ultimatum lies with you. We do not know who is he, how is his personality, his behaviors, does he have a bad record previously or he is good at cheating.

It is up to you, the person who is closest to him, to have the knowledge of who he really is and decide whether he is lying or not lying. Although I may say your feeling towards him may cloud your judgements, chances are you can see some signs from the way he talks and his body language whether he is really telling the truth or not.

yes we all need to trust our partners to a certain extent. But don't let that rule causing you to be ignorant towards the obvious signs he is showing, if your gut feeling tells you something is definitely not right, try to analyze why you have that gut feeling, what actually triggered that.

I don't know whether your bf is joking when he says he will find girls outside if he wants sex. I would have take that statement with a pinch of salt, because I know some guys can really pull lame jokes like this. I personally won't expect guys to have this much guts to actually do it, I might even answer back my bf "oh really ah, if you get AIDS dun blame me wor?", like brush him off in a "I don't care, serves you right if you messed up" attitude.

Lastly, all the best to you and hope you get your answers soon.

I hate it when men become secretive and hiding something behind. I hope it works out fine!

What if the man do it, so that it wouldn't hurt his partner or perhaps he wants to surprise her with surprises and gifts?

Remember being secretive is a burden. Its not easy to be secretive and calm at the same time.

2 words
bj

Do you experience it b4?

mebbe with a gun perhaps

tie him up to a tree

take his pants off

offer to shower his lower parts with KERENGGA (ms.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kerengga)

works every time

I do agree with this

" personally, I would say the ultimatum lies with you. We do not know who is he, how is his personality, his behaviors, does he have a bad record previously or he is good at cheating.
"

but there is always a way to study someone personality, behaviour " No matter what its painful to break it if its true but if you make the wrong choice you will regret it years to come.


better than some kid trying show off because he is childish i bet no one wants him

i can tell you guys something as well...

if you want to know your bf/gf better, don't ask them, ask their closest friend

they aren't themselves when they are with you, but not their friends...so yea

Haha what makes you think they will tell you? Like u said they are closest to your partner not you

you can ask them indirectly, not directly, like, probably do you think that A likes animals for pets and such?
well, a person who likes animals are considered as kind and caring, so yea...

your imagination is going wild.....

a week??
bro..ill timk a month..wakakak

No point keep asking if some one has the intention to lie. Love is full of liesssssssss.............. Haha~! Just wanna ask TS... how if u know the truth and how if u dono? Sometimes it is better not knowing than know... but as a human nature... we wan to find out everything in truth. It is so confusing being in a LIVE~!

like my favourite saying, some things are better to be left unknown

HUH CONFUSING BEING IN A LIVE?

i think he means life is confusing...XD, just don't make life difficult for people digi...

after all, you are the smarter choice, right?=)

This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Jul 25 2008, 02:58 PM

Haha... we should ask digi "Why so serious?"

yes i do

anyway, i think TS here wants the answer on how to force guys to be honest, as in force i believe

you can always force one by threatening (there are many ways out there), just don't use those that would put you into jail, then it's ok...haha

you can always take away something you are possibly to give him, i don't encourage you people to think dirty, but yea...maybe i think you get my point

if not, just casually ask him, are you honest with me dear? and if he says yes, just believe him, i guess...

it's seriously hurtful when you begin to doubt someone, but you just gotta let them know that you are doubting them one day or another...at least he or she knows that you begin doubting and would maybe try to fix things before things went out of hand...

warning though, if you really did the above, and fix things, if it work only on verbal basis and not through actions, you might kiss your relationship bye2 as you find out the truth...haha

I have a few friends that likes animals but when threating their friends she is rude and selfish.

What made you say that?

see, there is a truth in where friends knows the real attitude of the person...but whether or not does the person wanna tell is a different storyla...=)

dun FORCE him.. if he really love you, why want to force.. if he not willing to share the truth, why cares? just dump him.. hahahaha

p/s : unless he so valuable to not be dump, just be patient k. what goes around, comes around..

Let me teach you the best way. Give that girl a call and asked who she is.

wahhh u all girls really very ganas loo..wat kind of tactics also got -.- ko wa ii ne!!

heyz,frankly i been through dis case before.i trusted him alot of his excuses but end up i cant stand it anymore cuz i found da evidence which shut him up.So i choose to broke up.GUESS WAT HE WIF DA GAL noW. ..i think u sud noe da truth behind da scene.If he deny it den u sud talk face to face about it.ALL Da BESt =]

just try to believe in him.. but if he keep on doing thing more suspicious .. just sit down and have a talk =x.. dnt act cold to guys=.= cause they doesn't like it ~

just call the b**** and ask who is she !! If she really tat gatal .. u go and scratch for her .. or else , put her number at MIRC sex channel since she like to gatal wif guys ..

FEISTY!

wah clap clap!! respect!

Both of you same type of women?

applaud for a BRILLIANT idea

Saya suka cara anda berfikir.

Saya pun suka cara anda berimaginasi.

most probably ur bf wont tell u anything "if" he is indeed having an affair with someone else . . ask him to change ur sim card with him . . u dont really need to change just to see what his reaction goin to be . . if he acts all defensive then maybe just maybe he is hiding something . .thats what my girl used to do . . if he really doesnt have anything to hide it shouldnt be a problem . .

no truth no sex~

as simple as that

I oni can say that u adi starting to leading urself into trouble.
In this case u dont need to ask him anything because u urself adi set up a statement in ur mind which u tell urself that statement is the only truth, which is u belive that theres is a gal caring "ur bf lips" (which for me this is sl small matter...) and u think that might be ur love rival.
So if he tell u something that is diff from ur statement u will not belive him and u will keep on thinking he is lying.
Seriously, continue wit ur statement can lead to break up.
Dont follow my ex path...

Else, trust what he say and distrust him in ur heart.

trust is a very important aspect in relationships...
the moment you lose it, the moment this relationship breaks as well...

but if your boyfriend really see you so concern about it, maybe he should begin talking about it instead of you keep on querying him...get what i mean?

if you think you can trust him, just tell him that i trust you, but if you have anything you want to tell me about, i'll listen...=)

But how often we ourselves didn't trust our partner? Yes, trust is as important as honesty. If a person misuse the trust, things might sway differently than before.

But the truth is, the moment you lose it, thats the moment the relation crack not break. Sometimes when a trust is lost, the other person knows what to do to convince the other to believe him or her again. Besides, you have to take notice to the situation & setting as well that brought the person to mistrust his or her partner. There are some who mistrust his or her partner over 'silly or unreasonable' reasons. The concern here is not about what mistrust can do, its always about how the other partner is going to convince you to believe in his or her opinion about the given situation. Vic versa applies too.

That's why i believe, as much as listening is a powerful tool to improve communication, it's also wise to give a person a chance to convey what he or she has to say or in other word a 'second chance' but of course the only difference, its our patience limit.

yup, that is why i added that her boyfriend should have played the role of trying to maintain the relationship without being questioned so many times by her girlfriend...

a crack might lead to a tear and a tear would lead to a break...

and i believe that you've read a lot of john gray's book right pein?
trust is one of the main thing a man would love his woman to give him, right?=)

maybe it's time for his bf to do those 'little things' for his gf...=) to balance up the security back, hmm?