why did u married in young age? Because of pregnancy? Or Love? But really most of all is pregnancy... i seen so much included myself is because pregnancy.

Heh, dont mean to criticise. But, why play-play b4 married?

woah tough question but i aint playing. doin it with yr loved one is not playing dude.. LOL

Good answer. I agree with you. Peace. Try resolving all probs. Since a loved one, shuld be no probs?

So what is the problem you and your husband now ? Financial ? Kid ? Comunnication ? How old is your kid now ? Are you happy with your husband and kid now ?

Erm! I'm 20, and I cant wait to get married. Cant wait to embrace fatherhood.

seriously marry at age below 20... really matured enough to be a husband/wife meh?? they can last long?? can tahan??? so syiok a?? married??

Im married when im 17 to be 18 because i was pregnant. 1st year it was tough for us because before married we go thru long distance relationship. 1st year is worst as im pregnant and alwiz moody. Added my MIL doesnt like me. Then when my son is born everything changed. They love my son and mean time my status is upgrade. Old people likes son than daughter. I dont mind but my sis in law envy of it and pregnant for her 1st. Its was tough as she keep compete with me in everything. Then when doc confirm her pregnancy was a girl she is very mad and become more and more jealous of me. She almost everyday stab my back and make me and my parents in law relation worst. Then when her daughter is born not long she pregnant again. Now she is almost wanna giv birth liao but still she doesnt satisfied coz doctor said this 2nd one also a girl. These few days she keep told everyone she dream of boy the one she is carrying now. Its hard to leave in a family that selfish, unreasonable and also a husband that not mature enough yet. He is working and all this while he is asking money from me. For my son sake i really doesnt want to see my marriage ruin like this but i really cant stand this whole situation anymore. What u guys think if u r in my shoe?

one word:
Patient

There is nothing you can do. What? some people will posting like asking you to divorce? JyEn I guess you are mature enough to think of the consequences and what I can advice you is:
1. Either you moved out from your place now together with your husband and son (I assuming that you are living with your MIL and SIL)

or

2. Patient. Wait till your son big enough and do whatever you wanted to do

Thanks for advise zenox but im moving out soon. My parents bought a house for me for my wedding 2 years ago and now its under renovation. But i also dont have the chance to move in with my hubby and son coz im moving alone to KL as i need to learn dog grooming at KL. So he and my son will be staying with his parents in other new house they just bought. I wont be staying with them maybe one year plus so im not worried. It just that i dont know why my hubby is like this. I been patience with him for 2 years, trying to make him happy for 2 years and giving what i can but he still never satisfied. More hurt is on his bday i giv him a lum sum of cash ( i know not all wife givin husband cash on his bday) but u know wat he say? he hurt me by saying i donwan cash i wan car.... WTF !!! damn... hurt enuf tho...

Wow, ur husband
Well here I goes, I assuming that your are from err what should I say: Your family is richer than his?
If that is the case, why not, you moved back to your parents house? I believe that your parents love you so much till they bought your a house for your wedding gift, they will love your son as well as take care of your son while you pursuing your career at KL.
If your husband love you, he won't hesitate on living together with your parent since the your house is still under renovation.
Well for the birthday gift, I don't think every guy like to get money for birthday, I mean, every guy love money but not as a birthday present especially from wife, friends I don't mind
Well, I see there is nothing wrong for your husband asking you to give him a car for his birthday, I assume you pampered your husband too much.
I don't mean buy him a BMW or Ferrari. What I mean is, buying a car for your husband doesn't mean necessary need to pay for the whole car.
You can get a car for him and just pay the 10% down-payment and your husband pay/loan for the rest.
I would happy enough if my wife wailing to pay even for the fuel money

wow i am married @ 22 not bcoz of pregnant case all bcoz of love if u notice i am posting somewhere coz of my marriage problem, though i admit i have problems but ur husband is far worst...

I am not rich but spending my wife $$ is like burning hell note for myself, i am broke now but yet i insist on spending my own hard earned. Plus i bliv if we go out i should settle the bill but if she insist i'll be darn happy. coz feel family like husband n wife sharing and caring type

but still ur husband have some problems... where he spend his money on??

wrongly posted thru my wife's account my username is donki85

This post has been edited by lsy_alicia: Jun 5 2008, 09:57 AM

duh... he doesnt mean a car for nothing. He want me to pay for everything. The car is 80K dude!!! where the heck im gonna take the money from? U know my parents aint givin a cent for it rite? duh.. i told him slowly we will get our own but den he will giv me black face if i say that... i wonder if he married me n donwan let me go coz my parents money? duh... and one more thing is he never giv me a cent to spend even rm50 every month! i know he doesnt hav girl outside but den i cannot tahan la...

Wah, like that your husband is very irresponsible. I thought he just wan a car, I mean you pay for the down-payment and he settle the rest.
This is like asking wife to be ATM machine? sorry if my comment hurts you.
How old is your man? Wouldn't it will be better if you try talk to him on the financial burden you are having now? It's burden enough to living on your own + having a baby, what he else he want? Spend all your money?

Hey TS,

what does your husband work as? and how old is he?

Perhaps you should talk to your husband and ask his opinion about this marriage. Of cause u must ask him in a nice tone and not in a moddy tone like want to find fault with him la..

You can also find a counsoler to improve your marriage.

its ok im not offended of any comments as i already giv up on love and also mens. empty promises. changes after marriage. he is 24 and im 20 to be 21. My son doesnt spend alot. Just Rm200 per month and his salary still can stand this fees. He is a banker. I know u will say thats should be no problem.. But here it is.. me here writing this bullshit and messing up my hair thinking of a solution.

wisd dont u tink i ever talk before? But once i talk nicely, he will giv me a black face that really makes my heart broken and also he will ignored me. then if he still doesnt satisfied he will argue with me. which lead to worst cases like strangle me, hurt my hand etc. He even call bad words like ' *** nia seng' , ' chao hai' when he is not in the mood. so am i d one doin wrong now? or what?


This post has been edited by JyEn: Jun 5 2008, 10:35 AM

a banker? yet to ask little helpless women for a 80K car? ask him to get a life! I feel stupid for defending him on my previous post. Yet again, he did not give you any home allowances but did he pay for the house allowances? I mean pay for the electrical bill, water bill, Astro, food, etc?
Tell you what, is he give you a black face, tell him that his face is black and whether he need a powder to make it whiter.
I mean, he might stress up in work, try get him into a relax mood and avoid talking about money in each argument, might end up he thinking that all you want is money.

I'm sorry, I din't mean that its your fault. I was just giving opinion upon solving your problem.

Seeing your situation as it is, I think your husband is taking things for granted and as a result, he does not filter his actions and hurt you. As most ppl won't hurt their loves one unless unintentionally.

Perhaps your husband too had lost hope in this marriage and cause him to act this way.

thats why i said im givin up and im not trusting men anymore. all r hurts and just lies. he is stress but when come to sms and msn with his so-called- collegue he is very very semangat one. come back home open msn chat. sms her. put phone out of reach. reload every 2 or 3 days rm10 each time. he also reload for me rm10 but then i use it for almost 2 weeks!!!! he reload every 2 or 3 days!!!! how am i gonna stand this $hit!!!

is his colleague is a SHE? if yes....then i should not say anything further because you know what Im going to say.