what would I do for my gal ?

well, I cant cover all her expenses. At least when special occasion I will do what I shud do. then love shudnt measure by my cash ?

well, i used to think so just like u but perhaps the gals never think like that cos u are a guy and gals' mind are totally diff u know even though i am a guy but i understand this. perhaps the gals wont feel regret but they will think that u are selfish cos u dont really or refuse tp spend much on them although u wants to test them (it is just like having the first date with a gal by taking her out on a motorbike, if she is willing to ride on it, is gd but id she refuses, u really need to consider her again). sometimes i do feel like many dating couples maintain their relationship by money, guys pay and get sexual intercourses from their gf. i apologize if i'd said sth rude here. but many couples maintain their relationship in a healthy mind. that's wat i hope so. it depends on couples and how both persons think. sometimes we need to give and take rite? money is a sensitive issue. even if the gals regret but they will only show that they think u are selfish.

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Added on July 12, 2008, 4:11 pm yeap, u are right, love cant be measure by guy's money. what if ur gf love to spend and u love her so much and yett u cant afford it? my gf spends a lot as her dad give her a lot of money to spend and what i do is advise her dont spend like there is no 2ml. now she used to spend when there is a need and learn to keep money for future. gals who really love and care their bf wont demand for bf money, they will try to save bf's money for their future... think wisely.

This post has been edited by jmorpheus98: Jul 12 2008, 04:11 PM

If the guy insisted on giving allowance, just take it politely lo. But then, once in a while girl should pay somethings.
Just like when having a meal, it's best to either, roughly pay half or belanja each other alternately.

haiya..very hard der ley...like me n my close fren go out n eat..i said ady i will pay..when i wan pay he sure dont let...no good...

ya ya, me2!! sometimes i jz let dem belanja me coz i think it's perhaps d guy's face/macho-ness. But sometimes i1 2belanja dem as a small appreciation of thank u, dey still don1 i'll jz yell I PAY LA!! then they jz shocked n let me pay once...haha..so funny..

But guys, wld u mind if ur gal pay 4u? not those valentine o b/day special occasion1 la, but d normal eating that type like she1 2thank u smtin like dat.

As long asi afford it and i still got extra for myself, at least can eat, not hungry to death just to spend for her.
And also, paying for gals is not big problem, the thing is the girl got appreciate or not, if shes a biatch she will ask for more for sure, and of coz wont treat her "bf" as "bf', more like a free bank.

my gf did pay for me
well erm,sometimes due to guy's pride and ego we do mind bout that..

for the source of this kinda reaction,i think its peer influence from public. since small we r thought that 'guy who pay for girl is gentleman. we should be gentleman'

and some girls out there do think that,
'my bf should pay for me.it's his responsibility wat.if not i so easy let u kau ah? guys who don't pay for gf r jerks and 'mou pan' (cantonese,means no moral).if that guy cant pay for me,better forget bout courting me..'

so what do other guys think bout this?
girl's opinions are welcome very much also

my bf gives me money everyday..but not really all his..i give him my 80% from my salary..everyday he will give me only RM10 to spend on food when i go work..movies..every other things he will buy..so we are kinda sharing what we earn!and it stops me from spending too much too!!i used to not working for 3 months..so that im using his money..i have to..if not how o?i wasnt working..no income..i cant ask from my parents..

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Added on July 14, 2008, 6:11 pmwhen i was in college..i do think that if guys who ask money from girls are as*hol*..but now i grow older..bf gf better share share lo..sometimes he pays..sometimes she pays..then it's ok..after married..everything also half half..so better get used to the AA system rather than depend everything on the guy..guy working also very san fu!

This post has been edited by ~bsj~: Jul 14 2008, 06:11 PM

Girls privilege?
Sometime It was not guy choice to pay or not pay...
haih..gals..
Love and Money when already become equal?no money then means no car, no condo, no....
No love?

I rather be Single if like that, then i can save those money for my own, enjoy the single life and freedom.

However, sometime if money can solve some problem or make her happy, also no choice, isn't?
U dare to see her angry by those money? IF still affordable then just do it.

Max expend fo i am still student RM700 for her Handphone..
most expensive special day: Valentine day.

I was brought up by my parents not to depend on any man. My dad has always put our educations first and told me to learn how to stand on my two feet. So the answer is no, i dont use guys money neither do i use my hubbys. I pay as well when we go out. If i want something badly, i use my own moolah and buy it. I dont believe in hinting my hubby as well.

spending guy's $$$$ when v knew they r working jor...... if he is still studying jus not to let him spend much loh..... mutual understanding ma

hahaha...got once i eat with my close fren (guy)..when finish eating he take out his wallet..then coz i know the auntie..he dunno...i stare at his wallet till he take out..then when he call the auntie...i terus tell "auntie dont take his $$..take mine...hahah..the auntie take my $$...he mumbling and say..next time dowan eat with u ady..hahahah...

I'll tell those girls to get a time machine and go back to the Stone Age Want money, go earn it yourself..

good morning feyhime

oh yeah i agree...

agrees with u....

How if the guy working and studying. lol....

i don't like the idea of using my bf's money... especially when now both of us are still studying and he's from middle income family... when we went out for meal, we pay separately... he loves to cook for me and i insisted to pay half for the ingredients used... i guess it's ok for the guys to pay for special occasion but not for everything or everyday...

does it mean the guy dont like to spend on girl?

Well, as a girl I personally feel that using a guys money, esp relying on allowance from the guy is too much. In this modern society, where it is acceptable for a female to go to work and be independent, why rely on a guy if u can help it?

Yes, the bf may not like to see his adorable girl work, but.. the girl should use her own money instead of his.. If he wants to spend her on smaller things like movies, or meals is fine, but not to the extent of giving ALLOWANCE... If the girl can reject the allowance, and instead make her own money, in the long run the guy will appreciate his gf more... whats more, after he graduates and start working the money situation will be more tense and difficult.. He may then regret giving her the allowance every mth.. things like that...

So... as any capable male or female, best to NOT rely on anyone for $$$...

This post has been edited by shecapricorn: Nov 5 2008, 12:14 PM

i used to rely on my bf too..
or should say ex bf..
any extra expenses..
he would pay..
anything i say how much i hope to get..
he wil bank in the money n ask me to get it..
but he's working..
n im studying..
so that's the different i think...
coz he can support..

but nw..
i dun think so..
i think girl's shouldn't spend guys money that much..
but if he offer..
why not take it?
im not meaning allowance.
just like you saw smtg you like..
he offer to get for you as present..
movies..
take turn to pay for it..
meals too..
some times offer your guy out for dinner..
n pay for him..
this is the way..
for me..