IMHO , break up should always be clean....... be friends ? is it even possible when u have feelings and 'memories' of being together ? Honestly i don't think so,

I am now single for exactly a year after my partner left me for some1 else, AND we r so called 'friends' but, i can say it is very unhealthy for me, cuz i keep on holding on to the past...hoping for a tomorrow when that person will just run coming back to me............ hanging out together and listen to her telling me bout her new relationship and problems.....all i know is ....i die a little more after every meet.......

I'm weak...unable to let go of her.......given a choice it would b better to not have kept contact so that i could heal the wound properly.....

e.g if u got burn by fire...would u still put ur wound near to a fire ...or would u put out the fire straight away ???

Of course it's always easy to give advice........but it never is a simple or easy thing to put it into an action.....

I for one is still trying and strunggling.......................

Well, for me it is, but it might not b the same for u or anyone else, just sharing my experience...in the end my advice just follow your heart.....do what u think is best and dun live in regrets.....

Thanks, like i said easier said then done, u have no idea how many times i've thought of giving up on her completely, even as so called 'frens' but every single time i think of doing that she contacts me, telling me things like, 'i missed you' ,
'i've seen this movie and i thought of you' , 'That reminds me of you, i feel touched and blessed to have you in my life'......well after hearing this words coming from her, back to the starting point i am...and struggle and suffer all over....not that i mind or anything..cuz i really do love her and all i want for her is the best....and sometimes the best might not be me........what i am saying though is that it is unhealthy for me..mentally or otherwise....

LoL.........sadly i have to agree with you, but emotional issues is always harder to solve then logical issues, understand that i am coming from the emotional sense and you are advising me from a logical sense.....

in other words, it's easier said than done..................now if it was really that easy to just shut her away, then i guess i never really loved her in the 1st place, the fact that it is difficult for me prove otherwise.

AND if u tell me that you've been thru this situation and it was very easy for you, then i honestly believe that ur relationship was never a real one, or you never really loved that person........or you love yourself more.......



p/s : is it a crime to sacrifice your life for someone that you love and is more important than yourself ????

lol, i dunno should i thank you or otherwise,

it sounds more like you're the one with the issue here not me.......

my frens ??? i dun talk to them bout this, i'm merely sharing my experience for others so that they will not follow my footsteps...did i seek advice ?? did i ask for your advice ???

now i'm frustrating you then you don't have to answer or entertaint me.....nor will i apologize for my believe....love myself? in which statement did u read me saying that i don't love myself ??? all i said is i love her more than myself.......

i respect your opinion now please respect mine...u can live you life and let me live mine........if you have a happy and healthy relationship good for you and i'm also happy for you....but if you don't then what rights do you have to judge me.....

oh wait...you in this forum and topic i guess you are just as screwed as i am........

good for you.............and happy for you...

and yes you are right it's my choice.....just like how u choose to let go and move on ....

and how i choose to let go of her...but continue to care and be there for her....LoL

anyways.......most important in life, never stop learning, never look back, no regrets....and ENJOY !!!

yes, i feel you.......and agree with you....an advice that is thoughtful and actually help make sense for me....thanks you have no idea how much you comment just helped me........God Bless You !!!! for posting this when i really need it the most.......