You are sad but your name showed otherwise. The healing journey can be long and painful. You must always remember this. He lost a girl that love him and cares for him. You on the other hand lost a guy who don't even care and love you. Logically speaking, you win in the end. Have this kind of mentality and you should be progressing well. Take care and good luck.

So, you're saying that he was there for you during your ups and downs. However, you did not appreciate him when you're at your lowest point. He got frustrated over these long period of mental torture, and finally gave up on you. Am I putting the right pieces together? If that's the case, my advice for you would be taking this as a valuable lesson to learn, so that mistakes like this will never repeat again. Putted it this way, no human are perfect to begin with. We're not machines that make zero mistakes. As you progresses, you learn new things and began to slowly mature into adulthood.

You can try to patch things up with him. If he refuse to listen to any of your explanation, I would suggest you to move on. You definitely do not want a guy you love alot to eventually hate you. Just remember when you're finally mature enough to start a new relationship, do no repeat the same mistake as you'll ended up getting yourself hurt.

Keep this in mind that when a guy is too comfortable being single, it will be very difficult for you to convince him back into a relationship. Therefore, I would suggest you to ask him out for a heart-to-heart talk as soon as possible to solve this ugly situation you're currently in. However, if he is not ready to get back with you, you should accept him as your friend first and wait till things between you cool off, probably you'll be able to get back with him in the future.

Been there and done that. The only thing you can do at this moment is to suck it up and accept all these. I believe everything happen for a reason. This breakup could possibly lead you into meeting a better person as compare to your ex. Anyway, best of luck in your future alright. And friends are important for this fragile period.

I did various things to make myself feel happy or I would say; diverting my attention away from those sad thoughts. I joined clubs, expand my social network and get involved in activities that I never got the chance to participate before. And I must say, the feelings are great.

I would not suggest you to buy those books and etc. Those books will only list down "general" guidelines for you to follow. If this books are as good as they proclaimed, there wouldn't be any sad ending in this world right? Why waste those money? I would rather spent those money on activities like go-karting, paintballing, and etc. I am making new and wonderful friends and in fact, am pretty glad that we broke up.

I am pretty sure you have heard this proverb before. When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us. You are currently in this situation in which you are still allowing your past to hold you back. Life still goes on. And I am pretty damn sure you will be able to pull it through if you continue to move forward. But first, learn to accept the fact that your relationship has ended.

You are more than welcome to pm me if you ever need any guidance. Take care alright.

This post has been edited by night: Sep 18 2011, 10:46 PM