You just discard all those negative feelings you had before this and start
fresh anew with her, with the past as a reminder to what you should avoid
and should continue doing.

Let the future of the both of you together guide your relationship to a better
end, like how you did when you first started out.

And never let go of your present. If she's the one, you won't have any reason
to hesitate about what you need to do next to get her back. Just do it for her sake.
Because whatever you do for her sake is for your sake as well.

I managed to save my relationship with my ex before the final breakup. She
was in crushing for someone else. But I didn't want to relent. I didn't want to
regret not trying hard enough to get her back.

So I went back our history, our blogs, our conversations, anything that had
any fragments of things I might've missed during the 3 years we were together,
and I kept looking for things I needed to correct in myself in order for her to
be able to love me better; to be that ideal man she's always wanted.

It started with casual hangouts, then we started developing feelings for
one another again. Then one day, she seemed pretty distressed with
her message, so I just told her

"Why are we being so stupid? Continuing this rubbish we call friendship.

We're both grown up and older now. I'm pretty sure we can talk this
out like real adults and sort this out in a civilized manner.

Look, why don't we meet up, sit down and properly discuss if things
could ever happen between us again. If you find it reasonable enough
to give us another shot, then lets do it. If not, then lets just let this go
and move on with our lives already."

We met up. I troubleshooted our entire list of relationship issues
and offered solutions to each and every one of them, with guarantees
that I won't ever repeat any of the mistakes.

To my surprise, it worked and she accepted me back. Whatever happened
after that was the best memory I've ever had with her. That lasted for 5 months.
The connection surpassed whatever we had when we were first falling hard for one
another during the first 6 months of our 1st year together.

After that, I guess things just weren't meant to last. I grieved for a long time.
And post-break up was how I figured out the next part (and eventually snapped
back into normal mode):

Anyways, as a person, I still stand by the theory that loving someone
doesn't require you to be physically together with that person. Genuinely
loving someone means putting that person's importance or happiness
before yours, even if sometimes it means knowing that you won't be
part of the equation anymore.

Maybe she's found herself a guy she could love better than you- that guy.
And the only way you'd know if she still loves you more than him is to let
her try it out. If it's meant to be, she'll come back to you eventually. If it
isn't then good for her, she's found her true happiness. And for that, you
should be happy for her.

Let go of her peacefully. Find solace in having loved her before. Be
grateful for having the chance to love someone so dearly, you are
able to bid goodbye and good luck with so much genuine concern over
her well-being.

She was lucky to have had your before. And she's still lucky to have
you think of her this way.

Just because a relationship is gonna end doesn't mean that the love has
to end. You've had all those beautiful memories together as a couple,
as companions, as friends. Why taint that beautiful picture with a very
ugly end to your relationship?

If you've done the best to your humane limits to love with all your heart
and soul thus far, then you should have nothing to regret over. You should
be proud for being able to have so much compassion over another mere
human being.

You've had your chance to love her.

But maybe it's time for someone else to have a chance with her don'tcha think?