if anyone remembered my thread about paranoid girlfriend, we now officially broke up. I think it is a wise decision since she has another guy since the moment I treated her badly and the guy came to rescue. lol

But breaking up is still sadding. I know i was not ready for single again. I tried to mend the broken heart for a week and a half. And now i think i can move on. But still i dont have any interest with the girl. I just cant love anyone at the moment.

For some reason i feel like I want her back despite of all hatred I threw towards her, and what she has done to me (third person) because deep in my heart i still love her.

But some says, try to find a replacement but i dont think i would because my heart is still in healing state.

Now i am trying to keep myself as busy as possible even though sometimes i still remember about her. Yea, all the txting, calling, fbing, anger, happiness, sadness; about everything.

I still confused with myself, should i get a gf now to help me forget her or should I just stay single as long as possible and try to heal myself so that my future gf will not be jealous because of this thing. Well, a girl might get jealous even if it has nothing to do with her. If i show more love about the former one than the current one, she must be thinking that i still love my ex. (note: still no future gf or current one)

So, guys, I know a man should be strong but doesnt mean i cant have emotion. I want a gf but sometimes i feel scared i cant love her sincere enough. at the same time i hope someone would help me mend all the broken pieces of my heart. And she will know my suffers and hard time and will appreciate me a lil more than anyone else. who knows.

And do you think, keeping your story of your past like broke up, sex life, things you did with your exs, and what she/they did to you is a good decision? Would you tell all about yourself? Or would you just tell her that its better not knowing all. But end up with she doubting you.

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Added on December 31, 2012, 5:20 pmso true. the cycle will apparently stops the time we found the one. hopefully my life has no infinite cycle.. haha
I hope i can get an awesome one as my wife. The thing is, every awesome girl now has boyfriend. haha

This post has been edited by Username is username: Dec 31 2012, 05:20 PM

well, your situation is almost same with my ex too.. gosh. but in my case i can say its just started.
Sometimes, when she is sad because of her new bf, she come to me, hoping that i would not let her go and ask me to comfort her. Sometimes, i just become too kind and tell her that guy like this like that u should do this do that even though deep inside my heart, its killing me.

You are sad when he got a new gf??? While you did that thing to him first? Hmm whats up with women's logic nowadays? I dont understand. Smae case here, she has a new bf but she still stalks my twitter and fb, all that i post about some girls, she will be mad and sad. Like she dont wanna let me go. But dont wanna go back with me. Its confusing. And until now, i dont have any feelings toward other girl. Im not trying to get her back or what. Its confusing.

Dont be greedy.

Hi bro. How long since you broke up? It takes time also. Moving on is not something we can do overnight. Plus if we really still love that girl(assume you are a guy). I just experienced it a few weeks ago, furthermore its near to my exam week. It was so stressful.
Here is some tips, on how i manage to control my feelings but some might not agree with me but i'll just sahre it anyway.

1) Never let yourself alone in your room.
2) Keep away all the stuffs that will trigger your memory with her. Put everything in a box and seal it.
3) If your room reminds you of her, all the chit chat/ what you did in the room while talking, you position of sitting or laying down while calling her, while txting her might remind you of her. Try to stay out from your room for a couple of days. Like staying at hotel/ friend's room/ relative/family house.
4) If you cant bear the sadness, please just release it all out. Cry until you cant cry anymore. Until you feel better.
5) Talk to someone. You might not know there is someone who cares about you. Your friends still care about you. Tell them your story so that you will feel better. eventually they will try to comfort you and give you some advice. But I know the effect wont last long, you will feel a bit sad after the chitchat but dont think too much about it.
6) Do a lot of outdoor activities. Jogging, swimming, snooker, or even go out and flirt with other girls with intention to play around laa..Nothing serious, just for you to have someone to talk to even its strangers. Flirt i mean not trying to get laid or something. just do it so you have a reason to smile. if you are lucky enough, you might get replacement sooner than you have ever imagined. XD
7) The next tips only works for me *at least - I called her sometimes to listen to her voice, and she also still contact me while she has new bf. she admits that she still loves me, but there is nothing much we can do about it. I am trying to accept the fact that we are not together again. and this situation makes me feel better. Knowing that she still loves me is something good, but we cant continue our relationship. Even sometimes jealousy killing from inside well, just smile lah
8) Go find a girl, or not necessarily A girl, might as well MANY girls to accompany you everyday. If not in real life, txting or whatsapp also good. Because from my experience, to much of "bromance" sometimes makes me bored. Like too much of hanging out with guy friends sometimes make me feel foreveralone.haha. I need to talk to someone with opposite sex.
9) Think positively. My bro once said this to me. "sudah-sudahlah tu. There is more to life". Well, i accept his advice because he is my role model in life. He also expereinced this a lot.
10) Last but not least, keep yourself busy with something. Looking for new friends, find replacement, talk to your dad/mom, watch movies, go ice skating, travel to other places and so on. Your world is not going to stop there. Just assume it as a new beginning of your life. Its time for you to find another awesome girlfriend.




Chin up and look forward bro. There is more to life!!! Go find awesome girlfriend! haha


ps: If you believe in God, talk to Him. He will be your loyal listener. He will give you the best
pss: just tell us your story. Dont keep it in your heart.

i feel you bro. sad..just sad. well, bro, after u finished drinking just go straight away to bed. dont think about your feelings anymore. Be a man. Hand it to her whn you are ready. Showe her that you are still care for her. If you love her, just let her happy with someone else. I feel sorry for you.