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St3ph
post Feb 14 2010, 07:37 PM

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Happy Chinese New Year smile.gif

as well as Happy Valentine's Day To All The Couples Out There. smile.gif [Singles also accepted] tongue.gif
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post Feb 21 2010, 04:00 PM

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QUOTE(wInnIe PoOh @ Feb 21 2010, 03:34 PM)
I don't dwell with the same issue for long. Perhaps, not this one. It's about my grandmother who suddenly shows a very bad sign since last Saturday, we thought we would lost her the past few days but she managed to make it. Sadly things didn't turn out nice still. I do not mind to put all my work on hold and take up the responsibility to take care of her but looking at her suffering day and night, that kind of feeling is killing. My family came up with a conclusion to send her to hospital today because everyone has to back to work tomorrow which that would be the best in case anything happen to her but she refused and now even refused to eat.  sad.gif

I don't know what else I can do anymore. This year I have a very special Chinese New Year.
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hmm, do you mind if i add in ?

it's life on how you see it. but tell you what, spent your time with her more. other than that, just stay strong [it's not easy, i know].

that's all what you can do, i'm not going to ask you to be happy or cheer up in this kind of situation, but you will be happy if you stay by her side.

all the best.




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post Feb 21 2010, 04:36 PM

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Winnie, that kind of feling i'm sure i know of it. but sometimes feelings known too much, can't be used later. if you get what i mean.

becoz feelings without knowing it is the most purest of all, or to say, the highest level of all emotions a human ever had.

yep, it ache in your heart, but the more sad expression you shown to her, the more she will feel uneasy, maybe i've seen too much drama, but then i do know that i would be by her side till the last breath she had, [if it's in my scenario].

oh yeah, smile from you? talk to her and smile more. you're strong, do you know that? if you know, accompany her. and lastly smile.gif smile.gif --> this is important.

life's short and life's fragile, be it whoever, everybody has to walk this path sooner or later. at least right now, there's somebody to accompany your grandmother, while some don't.. called it as "mati katak".

i do apologize if there's anything which i said sounded offensive to you. unsure.gif sad.gif

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post Feb 21 2010, 04:57 PM

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Where she requested for her to go peacefully and easily, what am I supposed to do for her? Taking a knife to cut it down? 


you sure you wanna do that? *dials police station* tongue.gif

Praying --> to be a better person in the next life. smile.gif


Just a reunion dinner is enough. coz i heard people say that during CNY, if there's something bad which happen, whatever festival has to be immediately called off till next year.

Winnie, you're not a SuperWoman Nor God but seems to me you're acting it that way . tongue.gif
are you taking of yourself properly, if i may ask? biggrin.gif
how are you going to look after her if you're in a poor condition? and dinner's on the way to your desk biggrin.gif

at least you can communicate or maybe trying to catch up what she's trying to say, i won't. however i'll show it through actions than words. Words sometimes may mean nothing, whle a good action may represent a thousand words tongue.gif

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post Feb 21 2010, 05:19 PM

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I think you do not understand what I was saying. A reunion dinner is a must for the family. I take this Chinese New Year quite seriously because it is the only time for my whole family to gather together. Her condition is bad as in she was not able to walk at all, she could not eat, she could not move, she could not control her urine and poo, she could not talk too earlier. For a day she could eat, but the next no. For a day she could walk but a while later no. For a day she could recognize us but next no. It's never easy to take care of her but none of us complain for that pain. I don't think myself as superwoman nor God, I am just trying my best to do whatever I can. Yes, I barely sleep at all for entire week, which the sleeping hours accumulated for the whole week can actually counted with fingers. I would still say, yes I am taking good care of myself.


i've got your point already, just that i'm not good with words. okay, what i meant is , or i put it this way..

REUNION DINNER --> My POV --> relatives, distance relatives, ah suk, ye ye, everybody to join up for the dinner coz it's on this occassions that we're able to know how they've been or something like that.

and who said that reunion dinner is a joke? i didn't say that orh.

2ndly, this is the symptoms, 100% true that they're gonna leave the world soon. well, you heard some of them even saw "kwan kung" [the god with long spear or blade].

3rd, there's a big black panda.

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Sometimes old people they just need someone to talk to them.


it's not sometimes, it's most of the time.

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Action? I think I've done more than enough for the action to show her my affections


keep it up wink.gif
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post Feb 21 2010, 05:56 PM

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okiez. anyway, i'll just leave it as it is. dinner's time coming up, don't stress yourself so much.

you're alone accopanying your grandmother only?
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post Mar 1 2010, 09:40 PM

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