Hi there jenyi33.

Here's what i think:

you've been together for 6 years already, and you
were the one who asked for the breakup.

If you didn't want him to go, why did you even
choose to breakup?

You don't have to answer me.

But you need to know all those answers yourself.
If all the answers lead to a result that says you're
unhappy, then it was the right choice for you to let
him go.

Right now, you might be feeling like crap because
you would have thought that you've lost the love
of your life. It's normal, since he's the only guy you've
ever been with for the past 6 years. You feel so much
loyalty towards him. Almost like you were already married.

Yet, you broke up with him.

And he moved on.

And he doesn't feel like he's lost the girl of his life.
(Since he's got the other girl)

Don't all these just mean that your gut feeling was
right all along then?

To breakup?

Something whispered to you inside that something
was amiss, and it bothered you. You heard it, and
you listened. You acted upon it. And you came to
a conclusion; to breakup.

If you believe the breakup was the right thing to do,
then believe it with true conviction. Right now, you're
all over the place because you're unsure whether it
was right or not.

So you need to find out the truth for yourself and
believe in it.

The way i see it, it was right. If he could so conveniently
find another girl and move on, that would only mean that
he was sick and tired of some things about you to
embrace a new love so easily.

It says he'd rather get a girl who's an easier catch, likes him
for what he is, and doesn't feel the need to change himself
to be a better person for you. It basically means he doesn't
love you enough to go the distance.

In short, he doesn't deserve you.

I mean, nobody should be together with someone that
makes your head go "i need to breakup with this person"

Especially after being together for 6 years.

To everyone else out there who has had that thought,
you probably need to start asking yourself the right
questions to remain in the relationship.

Or else you'll all just crash and burn. This much i know.

Anyways, I know it's hard to trust yourself with all these
uncertainties. But trust your judgement. Trust that you
know what's best for you. And one day, i hope you can
believe in it and turn all these sadness into strength.

Your doubt won't dissipate all at once. Let it happen
on its own. Don't bother forcing yourself to be happy.
Feel whatever you need to feel.

Pain always demands to be felt. So keep feeling until
it no longer bothers you. I'd rather be genuinely happy
then to put on a face but I'm actually heartbroken inside.

Slowly, but eventually, you'll learn to accept it.

If you have anymore to share with the thread,
feel free to speak your mind. I'm sure the fine
members of Lowat can help you out in some way.

All the best!