I've recently broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years. You have to be brutally honest to yourself and think clearly before you make the step to breakup. Alot of ppl breakup due to high emotions and even more get back together because they can't stand that feeling of losing someone.

This sounds crazy but you have to fight and push those emotions down. Everytime I feel like calling her, or think about something sweet, I imagine myself at a punching bag and punching those things away. It sounds stupid but it works for me. The more you think and let you mind control, your body and your whole emotions will start going on a rollercoaster.

Trust yourself. Be yourself and know that this was done because of the fact that both of you aren't suited/ aligned to each other. Don't ever blame yourself of the past - I should have bought her more stuff, spend more time, do this do that..all that is in the past. There were valid reasons why you didn't do those things...for whatever reason it might be. Don't give yourself such a hard time and accept that you tried your best and let it go. Meditation also helps, smile and always be happy for the good times.

Stop blaming yourself. Unless you cheated, were abusive or violent, you are you and she is also another person. Lot's of people go through a phase where they keep on blaming themselves - I should have done this, I shouldn't have done this, etc etc. I think as I grow older, I understand the chinese saying " You can lift it up, you can put it down ".

Breaking up really sucks big time, especially when you see or hear stuff on facebook on your ex, and thinking how fast they moved on etc etc. In reality, you should be happy for that person, and also, your lives HAVE moved on, just that he/she is already doing it.

Relationships end that's a fact of life. It's a painless as hell experience and there are days when I just stare at the gate and thinking of those days her car would pull up and we'd watch a movie in the house or just imagining her voice saying hi and sounding so happy. Life has to go on kua...my life too and we have to love the other ppl who are still in our lives, and also those who are also coming into it!

Love the other posts too, we can do it guys/ girls! life is too short la, accept and smile and be thankful that it happened.

For those who really not in youtube world, you would love this vid. for those who have been in youtube.. surely have seen this vid.

Watch and be strong, and smile and be thankful!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSdELZxEnHY

Aiyo you not down say earlier ma.. waste my time for such a long post!

Well hopefully it helps others. Maybe I was feeling down so felt better giving advice to others!

The road to recovery is long my friends!! But we will get there.

Any1 wanna drown sorrows together..add me on akira_1979 wechat...

I finally realised something slowly- i would want someone to stay cos they loved me for who i am, and not cos they feel guilty or indebt to me.