Willy, more likely this thread was created as only a guideline for people. There is no rules stated that people who have failed relationships must follow everything here to get over it. Perhaps, creator was only hoping to share a thoughts, as same like all of us here, to help the others. We all know it clear, how bad the damage it can be, some people might take life to recover from it, or some just very fast. No matter what it is, we just wish to help the person to recover as soon as possible and even some might just break up, will not do anything silly in life which might be regret badly in the future.

I believe Slushie understands your good deed in fooling around here to just help people to divert the attention on the word of "broken relationship"

Well, I believe I've already recovered quite early

Oh, now everyone is linking me as ganas?

Well, since you know what I said earlier make sense and very logical then why want it to be gone at times? Sometimes, this sense goes away because we let it go, it has no legs to go by itself.

You're not slowly getting there, you are already there if you are able to knock the sense into your mind.

None of us is alone

What makes you say that? Shall I take it as a compliment or shall I take it as a sad thing?

You do not get me.

A happy compliment : You link me with someone who is a DR!!!

A sad thing : I am not that old as how she is in the novel



I am sorry, I am not being logic just because of my past failed relationships. It is just I am willingly to stand up to be rationale when I need to. I do get emotional at times too but you have yet to see it. Do never judge too soon. I have never relate everything in my life with logic. I do believe in fairy tales too, and most important, I do believe in "dreams"

That is very good Slushie, I am sure you'll be able to get good rest every night!

Lost, what about you? I can see you are happier from post to post?

White, so what is it with that emoticon? Did I say anything wrongly?

My dear, why do you want to hate someone who does not appreciate you? Why not use that energy to hate a person, convert it to a positive energy to love someone else? No, I do not mean about couple relationship type of love, perhaps you can love a little child out there or your friends more. I see it silly to put so much energy to hate someone, I do seriously laugh at it. May be I do emphasize a lot of letting go in life. If someone isn't there to appreciate you, just let it go and what to bother? Oh, it same goes to anger. I believe when you are able to sort out your own emotions well, you'll find your happiness. I can tell you no matter how stressful I am everyday, I laugh out loudly and happily.

I've seen it with my own eyes, or may be I shall say, I know such people in my life before. For someone who did not appreciate her and she stayed heartbroken till the day she died, worth it? No, she was so sad. Even now she is gone, I do still feel the sadness about her. There are such people in this world, may be you just haven't meet one yet. Drama is something created by mankind. Who came up with that kind of ideas for the drama? Human being, once there's such a human has that kind of concept, I do believe, at any of the small corner in this world, it does exist for that. Well, if you can think of something like that, why not the others? The difference is how everyone handles those.

Lost, I set nothing but being myself here to talk a lot. I think I like to talk eh? I just hope I didn't piss anyone off by all the crap I'm typing all over here. I used to think I might need here to stand up when I just broke up but who knows, I'm now treating here as a place for me to meet my friends whenever I am free.

Broken relationship? Well, I have more friendships. That is very good!

Oh? Well, when you hate someone, you are still thinking about that person, perhaps think even more and spend more energy. Take it for an example, I hate him for being so stupid, I hate him for doing this, I hate him to say that and he used to be like that ..... and it goes on. So, if really someone is not worth for you to think about, you will categorize that person in your brain silently that, that person is not worth for you to think about. There is nothing that you need to do.

There's nothing to be sick of being sad. If you are sad now, it means you have a valid reason for you to get sad. So enjoy your sadness and live with it. But then again, if you have a valid reason for you to get sad, I am sure you can find more than 10 reasons to get happy. So, find it and be happy. Life is just as simple as that, why complicate it?

Oh well, you know he is going for a party or any crap party it is this Saturday, why bother to think about him? Why not think about what are you going to do on this Saturday? Do you have a party too? If you have nothing, then now start to pick up your phone to make some great plans with your friends for it. Enjoy yourself to the maximum rather that just sitting here to think about he has a plan on this Saturday. A woman does not need to be beautiful, but a woman needs to know how to live beautifully.

I felt sad for her but since it was her choice, let her be. She is no longer around and he is having a wonderful life. I guess, that is just the end of a chapter in life. After all, who will really bother about it?

I think my long winded post here might pissed people off. I do not bother if anyone is agree or not to. If one does not agree, I am happy with it because I know there'll be some one else agree and meanwhile, I can find out more to improve myself because I might say something wrongly. If there's one who agree, I appreciate that very much but I know somewhere on Earth, someone might not agree with it.

This is good to hear, hope you have a great Saturday. I don't have any plan at all

From the way he posts, you actually can see he isn't those small kid around, he can knock some sense into you if you allow.

Disagree. It's never mean it this way. Your first relationship might not be your first love. You may have many relationships on going but the one you really love, might be only one.

I am kind of disagree with that. Everyone is special and unique in this world, we were not born to suit anymore. There is no such thing who is more suitable for anyone at all. There is only toleration, understanding and a lot more of patient those to keep the relationship going. If a relationship fails, it means both parties have something that they did not able to handle to keep heat of the relationship. So, for me, relationship is very much about the person but not about age, or how deep you love thee person, neither who love who the most.

How do we know if we met someone we love the most? No one knows, because we can't weight love, we can't put a scale to weight it for us to know who we actually love the most or who we don't. No matter is the person we are loving the most or not, we are still loving that person.

I'll see how my plan goes. For now I am too lazy to plan anything due to the work issues. Hopefully by Friday I'll be able to sort everything out perfectly.

Well, since all are the ex, then why bother to find out who does I love the most? Those are the past, we shall look forward to the future. Don't you think so?

Well,don't know then. Perhaps I shall get 10 ex to try it out first

I think today most of the things happen in my life are relate to the relationships. I do have a few stories to share.

I have this colleague who is quite a nice lady. Today when we were working today, suddenly her husband came to the office to make a lot of noise to find her. I saw she was very panic and I gave her time to settle it outside. At the end she came back with tears on the face. I was curious and then only I found out that her husband came to ask for money and she had not enough to give him, at the end he just gave her a tight slap on the face. I was so angry! Poor lady.

That was case A.

Case B will be my another colleague is having a divorce case now. Oh, she is going to join the family of single mother soon. I am having 4 single mothers and with her will be 5. But I look at it, she seems to be happy for the divorce. I think, that should be her choice. Taking a glance at all my single mothers, they are living happily with their own children, even though they gone through many things in their life, but I can see them way happier with their current status and condition.

Back to the case A which really make me no mood for the whole morning. I was wondering why didn't she just divorce the useless husband? Wouldn't she be in danger for having such husband? How will her children react towards it? Somehow, I am quite glad that even though we had a broken relationship, but at least we were not hurt physically. Unlike her, almost daily getting slap and beaten up by the husband. If that is considered as a broken relationship, isn't her case is even more worst than any of us?

I think we are the lucky one. Anyhow, I am worried about her. Well, people's problem. Nothing much that I can do too right? I can only pray for her, all the best.

I am not saying that to make myself feel better. If I would, I wouldn't be this unhappy till now. I was so angry until I hope I am a man who can go out to punch him up. What kind of crap of beating up a small weak lady?

I believe you do not know much about the social help you can provide to someone. If she refuses to co-operate, even I bring the prime minister to her house is also useless. If one wants to be helped, one has to start from him/herself first. I can lodge 100 reports but if she says no to the police, there will be nothing happen too!

I was holding her and wanted to call up my friend who is in the police force, but guess what? She begged me not to do so. After that only I found out, this is not the first time and I believe, this will not be the last time too if she refuses to stand up for herself.

I spoke to her and found out the reasons. I felt quite silly but nothing that I can do anything. I'll update later, still no mood. Sad for her.

I had a sleepless night, and I went to see her and her children this early morning. It did not make me feel better anyway, I still feel sad for her.

She told that since she is already married to the husband for so long, there is no point for her to divorce, furthermore it involves with the children. So, she did not want to make any changes for that broken relationship. I thought she still loves him but she told me there isn't any love feelings involved since many years ago, where he started to beat her up. Surprisingly, her children actually wanted her to divorce with the father.

It is just so wrong to hurt a lady physically. I don't deny some ladies really deserve a slap but still it is wrong. What more to a mother of 4 and she is not a bad lady.

I've seen a lot of divorce cases, a lot of abuse cases among the family, but this is just making me feel sick. One who has no brain to think but only knows how to beat the wife, while another one just making herself to suffer daily like that for no better reasons.

I have a different opinion in that. If a mother is willing to sacrifice everything for the children, why not the broken relationship? Yes, no doubt it is not easy to raise children alone but it is not impossible. I've seen plenty of single mothers who walked out from the broken relationship, and they are able to raise up their children too. If she wants, I do not mind to give both my hands to help her and her children. But she is having too much of negative thought about divorce. I think, some tradition thinkers understand what kind of pain about a divorce. I hate that, seriously!

She knows I am always there for her. I do not mind to buy her and the children a meal, I do not mind to be the driver for her whenever she needs one. I love her children too but I hope she understands, if she wants the best for her children, she can not let her children to live in such a horrible environment. It can affect a child's fragile heart badly.

To be more precise, children need a healthy environment to grow.

Even the children are not getting any physical hurt at the moment but the damage made in their heart, which is more than enough to kill their future.

Well, I think I've swayed the topic off quite far.

I believe whatever happen in two, stays within the two persons. There should not be any third party involved. Parents divorce, the children have the right to choose and as well to know the truth but it depends on the appropriate age and stage. I do believe, parents are actually able to handle the situation well without hurting the little one.

I do think that if two persons have no more feelings towards each other, there is no point to continue the relationship forcefully with the excuse of the children. That's completely a bull sh!t for me.

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It's just a gloomy Sunday

This post has been edited by wInnIe PoOh: Feb 7 2010, 03:11 PM