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Serious HOW TO GET OVER A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP, Post all "getting over" advice here

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post Feb 1 2010, 07:27 PM

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QUOTE(willy_wonka @ Feb 1 2010, 07:08 PM)
yes, i'm sure. why so skeptical? Miracles happen to those who believe in them [Bernard Berenson 1865-1959]  cool2.gif
Warren Buffett? Chua Ma Yu?  whistling.gif

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yes, more smart than hard (else i can't afford the time to lurk around here) cool2.gif

working hard/smart is a means to an end (not an end in itself). one doesn't work hard/smart just for the sake of working hard/smart. the reason one works hard/smart is to achieve a set of desired results. i'm a results-oriented guy.  wink.gif
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post Feb 1 2010, 07:49 PM

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QUOTE(willy_wonka @ Feb 1 2010, 07:47 PM)
There's a world of difference between truth and facts. Facts can obscure the truth. [Maya Angelou b. 1928]
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More likely, I do not believe in flirting over the internet.
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post Feb 1 2010, 08:28 PM

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QUOTE(DreMAx @ Feb 1 2010, 08:12 PM)
Neither do I believe that because that one party can just crap about every other thing. More often than not they are all one bunch of big fat liars. Well there are some who are pretty honest though.

By the way, it seems like this thread is turning into another flirting thread?
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A little bit of flirting is healthy in life but to believe it over the internet with some strangers where you have no idea of how the other party is, is silly and dangerous. I do not mean that people over internet are wearing a mask, not all are liars but it is just not my cup of tea to flirt with anyone who I do not know in person.

Flirting thread? I think it does not go until that extend yet. Perhaps, just extra fun to make this more cheerful rather than everyone here to cry on their sad stories. Sometimes, we do need someone to put the fun on to get the laughter.
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post Feb 2 2010, 12:33 AM

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QUOTE(DreMAx @ Feb 1 2010, 11:19 PM)
I agree with you.

Don't know seems like it's getting in that direction though with willy_wonka around smile.gif But oh well at lease he's in here and get some people cheered up. Seems like he's after you or something tongue.gif
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Oh no Dremax, I don't believe his taste is this bad to after me. More likely he is just to cheer me up by saying something good!
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post Feb 2 2010, 06:59 AM

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QUOTE(willy_wonka @ Feb 2 2010, 12:39 AM)
One kind of flirtation is to boast we never flirt [Francois de la Rochefoucauld (1613 - 1680)]  cool2.gif

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an extract from a fellow forumer:

"Are you now trying to complicate things? Well, ladies always think too much and by nature, ladies are more expressive. The thing is, ladies always have the 5 W 1 H in mind, and those are endless"

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wInnIe PoOh, you are after willy_wonka la doh.gif I quote willy_wonka: 

"ok, i have a fair idea of the kind of person that you are looking for. feelings notwithstanding, i believe u r looking for willy_wonka"

apologies for putting you in a spot biggrin.gif to make things right, i now have to go after you instead cool2.gif 

am pleased to hear that i cheered you up  rclxm9.gif  wink.gif
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Willy, you don't have to go after me since we all all doing fine here. Keep that for your girl.

QUOTE(slushie @ Feb 2 2010, 02:38 AM)
don't have to apologize, in fact, feel free to reply..the forum is not mine anyway. just thought it would be better to stick to the thread topic smile.gif

today i realized one thing.. that some things are just meant to be broken.. no matter how hard we try.
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Slushie, stick back to the topic might feel a little bit bad because it is about a broken relationship. I know we all have at least one but we don't have to remind ourselves the pain right? It is true this is not our personal chatroom but here is a place for us to share and learn.

If the thing is meant to be broken, then just let it breaks. Sometimes we just can't hold on to certain things too much.

I had a great sleep, I think it must be because I did not bother to think of him at all. I spoke to a few of my friends, everyone seems surprised to say that I get over it quite fast and I am now much more happier.
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post Feb 2 2010, 02:30 PM

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QUOTE(Lost~* @ Feb 2 2010, 09:18 AM)
i long to be in ur place! ah well i suppose it will happen sooner or later for all of us, hopefully.  nod.gif
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Lost, you'll be at my place if you just ignore the title of this thread. I think one of the problem is, most people who have a broken relationship will come over here. I take here as a place for me to share experience, and I am still here not because I have not get over it but it is because I do not even bother about the broken relationship that I had. I am here to share, to make more friends and to live for myself again.

QUOTE(slushie @ Feb 2 2010, 11:59 AM)
lost,

i really understand how u feel.

im tired of feeling sad too. today i miss him a lil bit more, and bcoz of this, it makes me feel like crap again. CNY is near, yet im still being this way.

Every time i miss him and knowing that i cant do anything abt it, it shatters my heart again n again. i want to stop missing him coz it's tearing me apart. feeling so helpless coz i cant f**kin do anything abt it.

my mom advised me the other day - stop channelling my emotions into actions. For example - stop texting/calling/blogging about him even when i feel like.. coz the cycle will just keep repeating if i dont put a stop on it in the 1st place .. and make it consistent.

Sometimes..it's just so much easier to say than done. I need so much willpower to go thru all this.

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winnie, i think u have misunderstood my meaning. i was referring to willy.. and i chose not to reply to him like it's a personal chatroom (trivial chats) but instead, like u said, sharing n learning things pertaining to the topic. smile.gif
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No Slushie I can understand you. I understand some of willy post here quite like a chit chat post but think about it, must we each time to come here to cry about how bad we failed or to mourn that we have not get over it? We do need someone like him to remind ourselves that, we can still laugh like nobody's business! We all fell in the relationship we had but we are here to share how we stand up and we are here to give a ready hand for those who need it.
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post Feb 2 2010, 02:41 PM

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@ Lost, your willpower will be more than enough if you say it is enough. No matter how much you love him, you need to tell yourself that you love yourself more. If you love yourself more, you need to learn how to stand up again for yourself.

I used to countdown on the hours that I've managed not to talk/sms/msn or whatever with him, once 24 hours gone, I gave myself a small reward. Slowly, I increased it, to the extend of days, and now I actually do not even bother to rely on the reward because I just don't feel like it anymore.

I am sure you will know how to push yourself, we all know ourselves the best. You know, what is your weakest point for your to push yourself to the maximum.
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post Feb 2 2010, 02:44 PM

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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 02:39 PM)
and also time...
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Time is just an excuse we make for ourselves. I took less than 2months time for myself to get over it. Before that I thought I would really die just because it ended, who knows 2 months later I do not bother much about it.

I personally do not agree in that, people always say time will heals, but how can time which is just nothing that you can see or rely on, can heal a wound that caused by ourselves if we refused to put in the medication?
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post Feb 2 2010, 02:51 PM

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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 02:48 PM)
because time is for me the things tht makes me forget.. n once i forget... i stop thinking about it. i cant even remember her bday now anymore...
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No, it does not work this way. We remember something because we want to remember it or consciously we remind ourselves about it. But once we put it into the subconscious mind, we will not be able to remember it. Time makes no difference. There are people able to remember things happened when they were small, but some are not. It is all depending on how a person place the memory in the brain.

I do not believe in this kind of fairy tale that time heals or whatever thing, I believe that we are the person to decide for ourselves, our happiness and our life. tongue.gif
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post Feb 2 2010, 02:55 PM

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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 02:52 PM)
okie... i guess im not the same as u then laugh.gif
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I know I am a bit too logic into this. Honestly, we need some logic in brain to get us out from the suffer of emotions problem
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post Feb 2 2010, 03:03 PM

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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 02:58 PM)
im a very logical person.. but when comes to the matter of hearts... it just doesnt work for me... when i close my eyes.. my heart speaks and logic just goes right into the dustbin
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If you are a very logical person, you should know one thing, heart is only an organ, it does not speak nor to tell you what to do. So tell me now, what does a heart mean? Check it out at its term. Do you still think that you are a very logical person? tongue.gif

Sorry, I was very emotional and I was too sentimental. It is not that I am no longer emotional but I know where to balance it up. A heart speaks? No, I know heart does not speak but emotions always drive us nuts, sadly we do enjoy it once a while, don't we? Emotions are also come from ourselves, so basically everything is all ourselves to decide.

Do not tell me a heartache, yes when you are having heart attack but not in a relationship. I used to like to tell my ex or my friends that I had a heartache, and I can say, it makes my emotions even worst. At the end, I put up some logic into the brain, where I feel, I am growing and there's no such thing as "heartache" when someone leaves me.
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post Feb 2 2010, 03:13 PM

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QUOTE(slushie @ Feb 2 2010, 03:06 PM)
yea..true also then. i was just afraid if the mod will sound us only. haha. coz it seems like normal chat already.
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I doubt Baronic will prefer to see all of us here crying like a baby day and night right? The purpose for him to make up this thread was to help out those who can't get over their newly broken relationship. We are here to share our thoughts and as well experience (even though we might not be very experienced) to the others who might need a word or two from us. smile.gif

QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 03:08 PM)
swt... when i say heart.. i dont literally mean the heart as in the one pumping ur blood doh.gif  laugh.gif its just figure of speech..

k la.. i dun wan to argue wit u la abt this.. i can nvr win againts gurl.. its like my weakness laugh.gif
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Well, when you say heart, a heart means an organ which its function is to pumping the blood. What more a heart can do other than that? Since you said you are a very logical person, I think I have to talk very logically to you right? tongue.gif

No, it is not the matter can you win me or not but I think I've been showing to you that I am not a person who will be defeated easily. Even though I was once very weak. smile.gif
*Yes, to all sisters out there, we are not weak! We win by making our life much more beautiful and wonderful! *
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post Feb 2 2010, 03:21 PM

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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 03:19 PM)
*kick* laugh.gif menyampah~ laugh.gif  laugh.gif
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Sorry, if you kick me, I will kick you back more than twice. I am not a girl who get bullied and will sit down quietly. tongue.gif
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post Feb 2 2010, 03:26 PM

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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 03:23 PM)
come la.. i challange u...
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You will regret, because I am not an ordinary girl who will not take challenge. Once I take, I can assure you I will never lose. smile.gif


My ex said to me, I was strong when I was with him, during the break up time, I showed to him that I was emotionally weak in handling that matter even though I was able to handle all my other issues well. Anyhow, he is very surprised that I am now way much stronger than before, in fact I am way much more happier. I think that can consider as a compliment from him to me. tongue.gif
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post Feb 2 2010, 03:29 PM

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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 03:27 PM)
hahaha... so what exactly is this challange? see who can kick each other harder? laugh.gif
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You were the one challenging me, shouldn't you know what to challenge with me?


I had a shoes that I could use it to kick someone until the person bleed. I still have it in my store room. tongue.gif
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QUOTE(bruce07 @ Feb 2 2010, 03:30 PM)
i'm back... still m trying 2 get over her...but still its so difficult....
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You can, now turn off your computer, go find a mirror, smile to yourself and keep saying that YOU CAN! Stop thinking how, stop asking how and stop planning how. Just go ahead to say, yes I can get over it. Yes, I can get a better life, and Yes, I am much better without you!


QUOTE(slushie @ Feb 2 2010, 03:30 PM)
wah..winnie so ganas even on a forum. lol
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Oh, well I don't mind people to say I am ganas. I am who I am, no matter it is on the net or in real life. I guess I failed to put in a mask in the life of internet and real. I just prefer to express my thoughts and ideas as who I am.

I do have a very strong personalities, furthermore I used to mix with guys, so I might be a bit more ganas than girls, but I do have my soft part too. blush.gif Well, I am a good wife material, many of my best friends and even my ex and his family said that. wub.gif
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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 03:31 PM)
swt... crazy sia....
yea... kindda scarry laugh.gif
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This teaches you a lesson, do not under estimate a girl, and do not simply challenge anyone who you do not know the person, even if you do, please think twice. tongue.gif
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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 03:38 PM)
i nvr underestimate u... n i will still continue to challange ppl.. i dun care laugh.gif
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Your call to challenge anyone you like but one day you will get what I mean.

Oh, did I scare bruce away?
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post Feb 2 2010, 03:42 PM

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QUOTE(WhitE LighteR @ Feb 2 2010, 03:41 PM)
and what will i get?
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A lesson for yourself.

Or if Bruce is mad at me? sweat.gif
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A lesson received everyday but never even take it to apply in future is useless.
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