I did try to patch up my relationship before it was finally called off by her. Just like in your case, I put my ego, pride and dignity aside just to patch it back again. However, what I've done wasn't appreciated very much in the end. All along, it was as though I was the only one trying to save the relationship.

I often wonder, does the stubborn ones tend to last longer than those who aren't?

It is cruel to reject that person who is trying to patch back the relationship when we aren't doing anything but just sitting and wait for the things to be alright or even worse, waiting to see it all fall apart again. That was what happened between me and my girl. I did all the work, while she was just waiting to see how it will all fall apart again.

It hurts as much as you still tend to remind yourself how much more you could have done or what you should have done and what you shouldn't have done.

I felt so bloody lifeless that time when I was thinking about that everyday all day long back in July and August.

Well I think I did what most people do. Get out of the comfort zone, do things that I have never really tried doing before, hang out more with friends to share some thoughts and of course nothing works more than doing more sports like swimming for me.

But there are also times I prefer to stay in my room and lie on the bed all day and day dreaming. Just want to have some time on my own and no one else and nothing else.

Actually it does help you get your mind of certain things. But then again to some extend it sure does reminds myself of those things I've done with her. *sighs* Even so, this morning I woke up missing her by my side all these while.

I did not only have that this morning but in rather a few days ago... I was awake pretty early although my classes was at 11am. Actually I was just wondering, if still missing someone shows that I haven't really left it and put it aside?

So quickly??? For me I am not ready to get into another one...

And for the past few nights, I have been thinking of the unnecessary things... and that's driving me nuts... I didn't sleep much because of that...

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Dec 17 2009, 11:58 PM

Thanks mate. It's just that 2 days I was kinda down... I am alright today.
Laughter is the best medicine too

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Dec 19 2009, 04:47 PM

People would think I am nuts.

Christmas is coming next week anyone got any plans here especially during the eve?

Lonely and depressed hearts won't be that lonely after all

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Dec 19 2009, 11:36 PM

I seem to have nothing on for Christmas day itself except travelling back to Kuantan.

Damn... I am not feeling well since last night and it's kinda a torture not having anyone (beside my parents) to sigh to... No shoulder to cry on.

It's great thanks to you that has put those sour faces of ours back to smiles again.

Thanks. Great having someone like you here around. Although it's only at time I feel like shyet because of the break up, but more often than not, I am fine because there are a whole lot of things in my mind which includes my studies, my scouts, my plans with friends, sports etc.

I just felt very very down yesterday because I wasn't feeling well and it's the first time I fell ill without her being by my side. I think this will and shall be the last time I would feel like that. Even though I missed having her around when I am ill, I would get over it without her because I know I still have my parents around, my friends, and people here in LYN.

Moreover, Winnie, this thread actually doesn't cure ones heart. It's to make one realize how a waste of time it would be to stay in the past and not moving on when things are already done and over. Like me, only after 2 months after my break up I saw this thread and I realized how stupid I was trying to save something I could no longer save and how even more stupid was I to cry endlessly almost every night and refusing the accept facts.

Yes, it was a torture for 2 months. I didn't want to see anyone and don't want anyone to see me because I just wanted to avoid any conversations about it. But today, now, I am would consider myself bold enough to face those people (busy bodies) and talk about it.

Just remember one thing, although a break up is caused by a person, both parties will have some blame and it's rather relevant because no one is perfect and thus make mistakes. Don't try to be a hero or heroin to take all the blame because the other party is to be blamed too.

Thanks thanks for all those constructive comments. Through reading the past 2 comments made, I am hoping more than I even did to see a bright day ahead.

Time to say goodbye to low self esteem and time to say welcome to making the world a better place for oneself to live in.

"A change must come from one before the other."

Thanks again for those D-zire and Winnie

It's been a while since I last came into LYN and especially this thread.

It's a new year, let's all look ahead. More challenges are to come.

Hey look up and keep walking. I was in your shoes 7 months ago and my relationship lasted for 2 and a half years. Yes I was in the exact same situation you are going through.

When you are determined to pick up the broken pieces of what is left, just go ahead and do it without regrets and without the thought of 'but's' and 'if's' because the minute you say or thought of the word 'but' and 'if' you are just not letting yourself go of the past. Yes it is very difficult in the beginning but I assure you when you get the rhythm of it, your days would be much happier and you will do the right things that needed to be done.

Just one word of advise, don't push yourself too hard and over the limits because you want to get him out of your head. It will eventually come naturally and you will eventually forget about all those pain before you even know it. Just do it slowly at your own pace. Start doing things that you like to do most, get yourself a work out. It will do you good especially when it comes to bad times like this.

Good to hear that from you. Cry no more because I am sure you have cried more than enough. Don't be like me cried almost every other night for close to 2 months.

I think for you (and likewise for me) it's just better (I would say, maybe not to others) is just keep some distance away from him for the time being until you are really ready to have a normal conversation with him. Even for me, I don't initiate a conversation through MSN, FB, text messages, emails can calls with her anymore since the day she left me. Only you, yourself will know when you are ready to have a conversation again with him. Just some casual chat.

I am very sure, if you have the determination to make a change, pick those broken pieces up again, walk and stand tall, you will be able to go through it. Although there are times, you will break down and feel sad about things, don't worry; it's just part and parcel of what you are supposed to go through in order to move on. Also be sure to promise yourself not to do stupid stuff (if you know what I mean).

Look forward to a new day everyday without him (although it's easier said than done, I did it so could you ) and start a new day with a brand new hope and goal in mind.

After a while those tears of sadness will stop rolling I mean it does feels a lot better after crying out all the unhappiness. Take it easy alright?

A small step at a time that's what they always say. Even a small difference means a lot to someone like us.

As for me, I have totally stop all forms of contact with her, and I only talk when she strikes a conversation with me which is rarely she does.

Wish you all the best!

If your conversations ends up as an argument, you should talk less to him though. Stay strong and you will get through it easily.

My pleasure. If you feel like you need a break or anything. Do get yourself some exercise. Say swimming for example or jogging. Maybe even dancing if you want to. At least it keeps your head up rather than your down and thinking of the unnecessary.

Take care though. Don't get so upset till you start doing unnecessary things too.

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Jan 25 2010, 02:45 PM

I am doing alright I guess (stressed up)? Been kinda busy lately with all my studies that's why I wasn't around here for a while.

What about you? How are you going with getting over? I hope you are alright and of course I equally feel glad that this thread together with all here who has posted up help Lost~*

Should we all here meet up to talk about current issues at the same time have a drink?

Great to hear that good news from you! I feel happy for you.

Actually not all guys are like that. A living example is me Some guys tend to be more sensitive about all this relationship issues and I know for myself I am one of them. Guys generally look cool and macho on the outside but, more often than not, they actually have a very soft side and when they are heartbroken, it's really really for real. The feelings in a guy like myself is more fragile than girls at times.

Oh well forget about it since it's been long and over. The damage has been done and the repair work will take sometime. I am still working things out for myself and yes, it's going well so far.

Speaking of which, talking about a meet up for people in here, this thread especially would do good for those who just joined in. At least a face to face talk between all of us could bring even more impact and help to the others.

When you fake a smile, most people think you're alright. The ones you are close with will know that deep down there is something just now right.

Great to hear that one too from you

About the drink, we shall see how people respond it. Maybe we start a separate thread or just do it inside here. Furthermore, there was once a new thread was started just to ask LYN forummers out for a drink which didn't turn out to be a good one. The thread starter Got flamed like crazy.

Actually most of my problems I keep it to myself because maybe I know what I should do best rather than other people.

Keep your heads up. Look ahead and look forward to a better day than today. Don't look back and think back about what has happened. It just dampens your day.

AND please... don't hurt yourself by any means even if it does make you feel happy.