Hello Lost,

It's good to hear from you about it. You are strong to get through this, trust me!
All the best to you!

Dremax, how are you doing there? I am so happy to see Lost is doing better now. It has been a while to hear from you.

Keep it up everyone, I am sure we deserve to be happy, no one is going to spoil our mood and life just because that person doesn't know how to appreciate us.

I think, my getting over was very fast and as well short period. I very happy with my life now and everyone says I'm getting prettier and happier. So, I think that's something good for me. Furthermore my career is on the right track, I'm doing quite well with it. Overall, I give myself an A for current condition. Leaving myself some room to improve to get the 100%

I met him last night and he was very shock through his expression. I think he was shock with my appearance that I've changed, and also my expressions. At first I thought he said he couldn't make it but at the end he came. Throughout the whole session, he was keeping an eye on me but I didn't give a damn about it. I can see now he is developing some interest in me again after our few months break up. Anyhow, that's sad to say, nothing to do with me anymore!

I think girls, we should love ourselves more. Sometimes those guys are like that, when they lost it, only they will start to feel the pain and that's too late. Lost, I'm sure you will be very great soon, perhaps, much better than I do.

Dremax, it is not a bad idea to come out for a drink and talk about the current issues, let us all share and help each other. I don't mind people to say I'm the cold blooded one because once I decided to let go, I do let it go and I don't feel the pain of it anymore. I went to the places where we used to go, but I just don't have that kind of feel anymore but to enjoy myself as much as possible.

Slushie, smile for yourself, smile when you feel like it. Do not force yourself to smile. If you are here, I have two arms open wide to give you a warm hug, I hope you can feel some warm for your broken heart. Remember, it's your heart, take care of it. No one else will bother about it.

Thank you Dremax. I will only make myself to have a better life for whatever it is.

I know not all the guys are like that, I don't hate guys after all the hurt, but I think he made that mistake which I think there is no point for him to show any care or interest in me anymore. I think, that is just too late. I know how soft he can be but that isn't an excuse for him. Whatever it is, I don't bother anymore. May be he just need to settle his own feelings now.

I don't mind for a meet up, if everyone agrees with it, then why not we just make one?

Yes, only some who can understand you inside out, they know how you feel deep down inside. I was like that, pretended to be very strong, but deep inside, I cried badly and screamed for the help. Only a few that know about it.

If everything has been difficult, it means everything can be very easy. It is depending on how you look at it. There's no one is able to tell you what to do to make yourself be better or just to feel better, you know the best and you'll be able to do it.


Dremax, I will suggest not to make it such a big and public one. I think if you want, we can just meet up with a few of us, and from there we will see how. Don't make it such a thing about only how to get over the broken heart, but I think it is better for us just to gather, no matter we are in a relationship or not, at the end of the day we can still learn something from each other and there is no harm to have more friends.

Mine problem too the same. I do always give people an impression that I'm very strong. At the end of the day I bare everything to myself. Now I start to learn how to let go and relieve things in a better way.

It's not just now but it is all the time.
Just take this as a great experience, remember that this is your life.

It's good to hear that from you, so keep it up!

Happy is an emotion. Emotion comes from ourselves but not anyone that can give us that. People may do things as what they want to do but to be happy or sad, it is actually decided by ourselves. Try to look for more research on emotional intelligence.

Go ahead to do it. I believe you will be all fine soon. I gone through that. I tried to ignore him for two days, after that I started to talk to him, but that was totally different. Same goes to my case here, he seems to change into the different person. He is doing a lot of things that I used to ask him to do. So I don't care. You might get worried or excited for his changes, but whatever it is, let it be.

No hope, we are all feeling better, don't we?

It is the same thing, if he is in love with you, everything you do he is happy. But if he is not, everything you do he feels very disturbing and irritating. It is he himself to decide if he wants to be happy or not but nothing for you to do for him just to make HIM happy.

Lately I think of him slightly more, I think it must be because of the Valentine's day is near. I can still remember clearly the great moment we had together but sadly it is all past. I think I do not want to talk to him for the time being. Sometimes I feel that I should help him to forget about me.

When we first broke up, I was the one who talked to him first, but after that later on, he started and I hardly to start the conversation with him anymore. Now it's more like he is showing interest in me again by paying extra attention to me. Sometimes he tried to avoid me, but sometimes he pays extra attention. For knowing him so well, I know what's in his mind, sadly we both know it just does not work out anymore.

Somehow I do understand guys better and easily. Actually they are very simple, just being yourself and have extra faith in them, I'm sure you can have some clue there.

Yes, I think so but I was struggling too earlier. It is just sometimes we need a grow.

I don't think I will wish him too, I think it i because I do not want him to think I am still having that feeling to him. I don't deny I do think of him quite often lately but I will not say that is because I still have the same feeling. It is more like I do not know how to still keep him as a friend at our stage now.

My break up was due to the mutual understanding in both parties, to come up with the term of break up because we know there is no future of that relationship. He was struggling to keep it going for long enough and because I can understand how stressful it is for him, at the end we just agreed on that.

Maybe I grew with the guys, I am surrounded by guys since small. Eventually they speak to me whenever they need someone to talk to. For what I've been through, I can understand them better, even I've got quite many guys agreed on this. Actually, they are really that simple. When they say yes, they mean yes. Sometimes girls are more complicated than guys. Anyway, I can't tell you how to understand them, or how simple they are but they are just easy to understand and simple.

Are you now trying to complicate things? Well, ladies always think too much and by nature, ladies are more expressive. The thing is, ladies always have the 5 W 1 H in mind, and those are endless.

Good one willy.

Well, yes,and it is because of guys are simpleton, less expressive and not that nagging compare to ladies, that's why women love men

That is only applicable till that time, not now. Anyway, this is a very subjective topic. It depends on individual

A woman shall has her own career, while not too depending on the guy. It is quite hard to explain or elaborate more. Both parties are supposed to put in the effort. I do believe in true love exist, whether the guy is rich or not, that isn't any concern in a relationship at all. I look into guy's personality more than anything else. The attitude speaks it all.

matured, hardworking and understanding.
I think this is very common. I don't have any high expectation but I think most important that guy must be matured, if not it will be like a mother is taking a son out on the road.

Those are very common but not all guys are able to show me they have it, even they do, but there's no feelings involved which also useless.

Matured isn't being dull but the thinking wise which will make me feel no worries about a lot of things. A matured guy knows how to carry himself out. Being a man but not a little boy.

Isn't guy shall put career first? A man without career makes me feel insecure. It does not matter if he is working hard for more money or working hard for himself. Hardworking does not mean to only work hard in the office, as long as that person is not a lazy pig to sleep and eat everyday at home will do. A smart person knows how to work smart and hard for own career.

Are you sure the one I'm looking for is willy_wonka? Somewhat I don't believe that.

Yes, A smart person knows how to balance up things in life. Everyone can work hard but not all can work smart.

No, those are not work smart, those are just lazy people to look for excuse for themselves. Yes, investment is something good in return but it should be only play it as a side income. I doubt there's anyone can survive and feed the family base on that. I saw how many people kill the family by stocks/forex/property and those investment.