Just getting recovered after 6 month of excruciating time. It proof time heals everything, if you find something else to focus on I think it will helps you even more faster. Of course it has to be something that makes you happier. For me I'm all focus on my future and business right now, I don't even have the mood to look at the leng lui now ( except the lui is freakin hawt, ofcoz will check out a while ) because really tired when think back time I've just past, love to move on right now.

wat if u do not wan to get over it? wat if somewhere inside ur heart u feel like just wanna b with her? how?? tat's how i felt.. even though her feelings for me has faded... i still care for her.. god it hurts..

How do you heal a heart that's been stabbed, crushed, burned, smashed, & etc to a state that is has gone fully "black"?

I thought I recovered from all my past relationships until my recent one which is now about a year after breaking up.

I have moved on but at times there is this lingering feeling around me.
Yes I agree it is quite psychological... I did not realise this until my friends pointed out to me.

It won't be an easy job. But I will do it. I won't try but just DO it.

I've got to agree with that girl. But at the end of the day there's nothing we can do about it. Personal experience and no offence to anyone reading this, I did try to steer my relationship back to it's original path twice but it didn't work out.

It takes not only one person to run the relationship but two.

And yes, the sweeter those memories, the harder it is to let go. But like I've put it above, there's no use looking back at it anymore. No matter who's fault is it that has caused the broken relationship the blame doesn't goes straight to one person although sometimes the problem surfaces from one person.

Take for example a living one like me, initially I took all the blame for causing the downturn of my 2 year long relationship since high school. But after 2 months of  self exile from people refusing to get through and accept things as they were, I've found out that it's not only me that has caused this. One way in another, my ex has her wrongs too and I have my wrongs too. (Although there were more fault in me)

Second that! There will be times when we all will cherish those past moments. However, never let those past memories affect the new relationship especially comparing with the past. I mean what is in the past should just stay in the past.

Reluctant as most people may be to see all these go into the past, there's no choice what... If you hold it with you, nothing can bring you happiness and at the end of each day, there's a grieving soul.

Although it's tough for me to let go of my 2 and a half years long relationship, I've just got to do it. There is no looking back because the facts are right there and it's been long due for me to accept those facts. I've lost the battle.

Dremax, you have us here. If you need a shoulder, I have two ready for you.

I came back from a movie with him. Today I changed a new look and he was surprised. I notice that he was paying attention for everything I said and as well I did. Anyway, I just did not bother much about that but enjoyed myself with the friends and movie. I just know that, I can not be bothered much about what he thinks and what he wants anymore. I know, I can live better without him in my life.

I know I do not need this thread for myself to cure the broken heart anymore, because I am having a better heart now. I do not give myself "time" as the excuse to mingle in the past but I know I just can do it. But I will still come here because here is the place accompany me gone through the hell and toughest time in my life.

hey, can someone please explain "to let go of a relationship" does that mean that ever in the future there's no chance of getting back together already? or any hope left?

thanks.

seeing the latest entries make me feel even more depressed.

lol.

i am one of those, that even after breaking up, still can't let go, and in the end become sms and what not.

some days i am determined to pick myself up n forget all these, but more often than not i panicked at the thought of not having him at all in my life then i start to miss him, hence i start to sms or msn him.

it makes me feel better at that moment, but as reality dawns on me, it makes me feel crappy instead.

he insisted on being best friends, and i seem to be stuck coz for more than 2 years, even if life doesn't revolve ard him, it just sucks how things reminds me of him.

i have read  the 1st post/your blogpost, and its during those times i felt like im gona make it, but when i start to miss him tt's when i crumble..
but thanks for the tips

i'll keep repeating them, and i'm hoping one day i'll be able to get past this.

lol some of you probably knew about my story. but, hey. shit happens.
So, I'm here to seeking advice. I just ended my 2month rltnship back in 18/11 last year. The first few days was very terrible..but then I got help from my fren and picked me back up. Or so I thought, fyi, my ex is currently the same group as me, basically I'm still seeing her for another 4years -.-

I really wanted to get over her but it seems very hard given the situation, plus, i just cant stand the sight of my past competitor going at her again! who is even in the same class as me! really need advice..

this year is 7th year of our relationship.. end up broken up few days ago. she doesnt has courage to say it so i did.
i'm her first love.. so many guys chasing her. one of them finally success.. he give more care for her than me while i'm busy and away recently (half year).
she always compare me to other guy. The guy is doctor working in singapore.. he always visit her all the way to KL. Say how good is him blah blah blah.. sumore her family dislike me all the time. they keep compare me to her sis bf and friend's bf.. i'm the most poor and busy, rarely spend time to her family.. they barely know me., thats why dislike me all the time. I hate them to comparing too.

i knew she already fell for that guy.. keeping secret contact with him. She keep deniel even i found out how they sms.. and drag our relationship few month til now. Can't belive she can love with me and love other guy the same time. I felt kind of disgusting kissing her recently.. dunno what her limit.
She is still thinking.. but i decided to quit, told she deserver better. We both sad.. she agree to break.
funny, she still wants to me to stay as her friend status..she said she will stay in single now. 
it's quite impossible to me, easy for her to say. Cuz my heart will pain when i see girl i love in other guy arm at someday.

she wont begging for return and me the same.. she was sad until need take few days mc and stay in home cried. Her family want celebrate with her >.<.. she still keep in touch with me in sms only. We won't meet and voice call. Then i start ignore her.. avoid my heart pain.


As for me.. i just cry in my bedroom few min then go to work.. feel heart broken for the first time. This is my 4th gf.. is longest time i had with her 6 year+. 

i dont hate her.. i don't hate the guy too.. except if the guy hurt her, i surely angry and hate.

i'm regret why i didnt break up sooner at few year ago.. happend twice. i had two chance.  I shd turn her down when she beg me at that time. Thats why now my wound bigger.. didnt expect she betray me 1st. 
wonder how long i need to recover from this wound.

hope can feel better talking to someone here. 

this is the 6 months i have break up with him.... thought i am tough enough to move on and forget about him... but it's seems that i am lying to myself....but this few days browsing back his fb and find out that he is trying to start a new relationship with another girl... my heart feel so pain and those pain appear again... crying few nights....there is alot of questions appear in my mind... why he choose to leave me? what does it mean that no more feeling with me...i admit that i cant trust him anymore after i found out tat he has been cheating on my twice... saw his fren photos tat he hugging a girl. but on that time i wondering am i too sensitive or can i really accept my bf hugging another girl at pub while lie to me that he is busy tat nite.. i feel so horrible.. how can the man that i trusted lie to me and deny when i ask him... after that incident i dont believe him whenever he told me he is only going out wif client.. maybe there is no one wrong until he decide to choose to end our relationship... sometimes i do really hate myself.. why cant just forget him and move on? But recently i try to start a new relationship with a guy but i do have alot of stress... our relationship just start a day and later on i told him i have not ready for a relationship and he understand....but this few days i think about my ex but just in a hate feeling but in the other side i do miss the guy too... but afraid to call him because i know i have hurt him before... and i really cant make sure am i really let go my ex and get ready to start new relationship with this guy... if i still cant let go this is really not fair to the guy.... confused

i think the guy is already let go so there is no point for me to hurt him twice because at this moment i cant promise myself to totally forget my ex.. although i know now he is not the person that i knew.. but i still need sometimes to heal myself...