i do not know if i will be meeting up with him that often. i bought him a christmas present but i am still thinking how should i pass it to him? should i give it to him or should i not? i was thinking to ask him out for a dinner and give him the present but i am not too sure if it is appropriate for me to do that.

i did not just pretend to be normal or purposely act to be normal but i was just easy with it. i admit it was slightly out of my own expectation for my reaction too. anyway, i think i am just fine with most of it right now.

i do not know. i know that it is something that he will want and needs to get. but i do not know if it is appropriate for me to get him. i do get a christmas present for all my close friends but i am not too sure if i want to give it to him.

Same situation here. Bought a Christmas gift for my ex while on a business trip in Singapore. Now, the process of giving her the present may be a bit quirky, as she'll bring her BF along when we meet up later. I'm not worried about her. I'm just worried how her BF will think. Besides, I don't know her BF pretty well..

Any suggestions/criticisms/flames?

No, I do not intend to patch back with her. Over is over. I'll stick with my decisions.

BOLDED: You are half right, maybe it is my mistake of buying her a gift in the first place. My real intention is to just buying her a gift as a souvenier as in for a FRIEND. No other ulterior motives. About the acknowledgment thingy, I kind of agreed with you. Learnt something new today. Come to think about it, it's quite logical.

I think I know what I should do now. Thanks for the advice.

That's what I'll do when I am getting into a new relationship.

We learn from mistakes.

Being in a relationship is not easy. It is no fairy tale.

It takes a lot of time and patience to learn about your partner and not everyone is born equal, not to mention searching for the other half is part of the journey of your life. Every new relationship means a new chapter of a life-long learning process.

About compromising your new GF, it depends on how she is willing to accept my principles. Most important is to be honest with yourself. It's better for her to understand your real character than to lie to her forever, and besides, having principals in Life is a good thing too.

If it's too severe and extremely unacceptable, Yes. I will compromise. Any particular reasons you are asking this?

A relationship is a two-persons' world. It takes two to tango. If one start to have conflict with another, everything will start to fall apart.

it's a big YES.

Now, to look at it from a different perspective, if you DON'T COMPROMISE and let her take control of the relationship and your life, how would it turn up?

Whoa whoa whoa... hold on a minute, I think there is a misunderstanding here.

What I'm trying to say is, I won't let her take control of everything but rather to have balance in the relationship.

I'm Sorry if I got you wrong and the replies go ding-dong. I think my English epicly failed this time

+1. Agreed. Besides, it's very unfair to the one who is on the giving side. In the end of the day, what's the meaning of the relationship, if it continues to be like that?

The word COMPROMISE is not enough. Top it up with the word RESPECT. Why? Because everyone of us have values in Life, and one MUST respect each other's values.

Anyways, Merry Christmas and a Happy new year.

she always tries to this. She ask all weird question. Then one person will come out and flame her and u see how ridiculous replies u will get. U see like there is an argument but actually guess who started it?

I think my views has been answered by a few members here, so probably I'm just repeating the points.

I have and got to be honest with her if her demands were too extreme. Let's just face it. You treated your GF very very good and are willing to compromise for her. What if,
one day, you have fallen sick or you need someone very badly by your side to support your broken down emotions, and your GF will turn to you and say "I'm feeling bad too.. why don't you come and sayang me instead?"



I was skimming through the word "Compromise" in UrbanDictionary.com and this is what they define:

is when both parties plan to cooperate so they both can be satisfied and have their separate needs met

E.g Usage: In order for a marriage to work you have to compromise.

This is in-line with what noob13 mentioned about the right way couples should compromise. It's not a one-man job.

The amount of compromise that one is willing to give also shows how matured the person is when dealing with any situations in the particular relationship. It shows how you think about the consequences and how you care about people's feelings before making any decisions.

Oh what a shame...... i mean myself.. 

Yeah.. Just did it while ago. Are we on high or something? Should hang a board "WUSS ON THE LOSE" on my self

Ah.. You've done a very nice job rationalizing and since i'm going to do that as well.

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