I found out some of the reply or even TS own reply really make no sense. Since she ask for advice but it seems that every adivce towards her, there must be some way or her own reason to fight back.

She is now only 14, advice already given to her, accept or not is her own decision. Just imagine when you are on the age of 21, he is already the age of 54. 21 years old is the best age for a teen to enjoy life with, are you willing to stay beside him by the age? Will he allow you to enjoy your life out of the world while he is getting old and tiring of hanging out around with you?? How long can you hold this relationship?? Until the age 16? 18? or 20? Your world is so so limited, haven explore to the world, one day later you will know what are you doing at this moment and regret for doing it (do hope you will regret for it).

And Moontank, we are much more elder than you, we experienced more than you. Though my ex is not a dai lou, but also one of the heng dai, he forced me to stop my study, beat me, stop me from msn... etc. Finally I accepted my family advice and dumped him after I think carefully. Now I am doing my degree and meet a new partner for my own. Its totally different lifestyle from the previous one.

Think wisely and show your action.

P/S: FAMILY is the best palce for us to hide to when we are in trouble, whatever they decide for us, do for us, adivice towards us, it always for your own good. My parents divorced but I can bear with both side and handle this situation, why not you...