there is a gal who admits that she liked my bf. my bf alwis tells me everything bout her including what she sms-ed to him n what she said wen she called him..she alwis tells my bf that she is not happy wit her relationship wit her current bf, n of cos my bf alwis console n advise her to leave her current bf...This eventually made her liked my bf cuz she thinks my bf is caring towards her..My bf cant jus push her away cuz she is my bf colleague's daughter...(the mum doesn't know bout tis) She knows that my bf already have me but she continues to make contact wit him n flirts sumore!!!!!! I don't know whether im right in jus letting her do tis 2 my bf, as i know that my bf loves me very very much...i noe that he wun cheat on me but on the other hand i cant stand tis gal's attitude using her self pity problems to attract my bf to care 4 her. So do u think it is right to ruin other ppl's relationship jus bcuz u c their relationship is happy?? My bf n I have been 2geta for 4 years.... my bf is 23 and im jus 20 (that idiot gal is same age s me)

"remind" ur bf that he alrdy have u...

Always good to face to face with her, sometimes ignoring it will make thing get worse. You bf might fall for her, assuming that she is good in flirting . But if she admit openly to you that she is going after your bf, then it would be an open war

i have never meet her b4..oni saw her pic at msn wen my bf show me her pic..quite nice looking actually haha!i tot of calling her to scold her 4 acting like tis but im thinkin...its not good 2 scold ppl suddenly wen she din even noe me at all..i jus let my bf 2 handle her but i make sure my bf tell me wats her next war love strategy hehehe!

dont scold her.... just let ur bf know that he shouldnt does it again... if he cares ur feeling... ask him to show how much he loves u

hmm. 1 word. Careful.

also, are you hotter than her in any sense? Thats a fact to be considered too.

War Love Strategy... I like the sound of that

Anyway have faith in your boyfriend. She doesn't go touchy touchy with him I think its okay. I mean just talking things out and giving advice is something anyone would do for a friend anyway. But if she lean on his shoulder, cry on him that kind of thing cannot la.

A guy won't fall for a girl just because he is caring for her. Usually its because a girl cares for him.

yeah he cares for my feelings...he cried wen i say i 1 2 break off wit him since a gal is so interested in him..(like a baby,hahahahaa) now he tries 2 ignore those sms she sent 2 him..problem is not my bf..is that gal..so desperate housewife hahahaa

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Added on April 20, 2008, 2:14 pmhahaha!! thanks 4 ur compliment on my "war love strategy"...i have the same opinion that a fren would aso advise n console but tis gal is very emotional..alwis thinkin the negative sides...makes it harder 2 kick her butt away hahaha! I will have faith in my bf, thanks 4 the advise ya!

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 20 2008, 02:14 PM

OF COURSE NOT!
what a silly thing to ask...

i think its ok as long as u think youre better than the attached girl why not go ahead and try.

yeah silly thing 2 ask but sum how i think in your life u wil face mayb this kind of problem..sum ppl think s long s the guy or gal have not yet marry den they can try 2 steal their partners away...c the "main actor/actress" love which 1 more..thats wat me n my bf have been debating about...

stealing is not good oh

This post has been edited by pinkling: Apr 20 2008, 04:04 PM

Just be more careful. Sometimes guys tend to fall for girls because they are pitiful. The guys will think that it's their responsibilities to look after those type of girls.*____*

But the good thing is that your bf is ignoring her. And I hate those trying to be pity-all-the-time-girls. Should I say no self-respect.=s

As long as u havent marry with ur BF... ur BF still open to public and everygal stand a chance...

It depend on how good u lock ur BF..... capture ur BF heart....

remember, this is a good time to see how ur BF..... sometimes u can act jealous to ur BF.. and see how ur BF react....

But i think your bf is rather steady and stable, seeing him telling u everything about the girl, from sms to msn. Which i think is rather a good thing, it clears him up.

U'll have to interfere, via your bf. Ask your bf to set things straight between him and her. Draw some lines.

Don't worry, it's only usual for girls to feel insecure and jealous

IF ever your BF in the end got stolen, then you know la - lucky he was stolen NOW than after marriage.

TS...caution..
it is your bf to decide.
and for tat girl, she shud be happy what she have now, once it is all gone, never get one till u meet someone who is right.

general point of view; pencuri siang.

hmmp..just watch out lo..some girls like to use those trick to catch boys heart de..hmmp..luckz for you girl..

maybe you can appear in front of her and show how lovely you and your bf are... or last choice you can always call her mother up

I never fight with a girl over a guy. If I like a guy, and I find out another girl likes him too, I back off.
If a girl likes my boyfriend, I let him choose.

ya ya..me too..if your bf choose to be with another girl..just let him go..because this shows that he is not very love you only..if he choose to be with you..then is a good news lo..

Last time my ex bf office also got a girl like him. Knowing that he has me ready but want to get close with my ex bf. Then care for him but him expensive suit which i can't afford. I wonder why she does that... i still thinking is it because of her my bf broke up with me after 4 years plus together. Screw that gal lah.... Her face looks very sweet and nice and very caring, some more expressed feelings to my bf that time when we were still together. Then purposely go KL stay one night in hotel and ask my bf help her pay the hotel money first. If you dont have cash, why you want to stay in KL at first place. My ex didnt stay with her just help her pay. Maybe they are together now?? dunno..My advice is, just be careful. The gal can do lots of things to get ur bf. Maybe just ask him go to her house and repair computers or other stuff....Just becareful loh...I hope that gal is reading this thread....SME girl in Ipoh...

I have the same story to share too.. n well, TS understand ur feeling now.. confuse n feel like back off but at the same time cant let go..

My bf known a gal from his new company n tat gal just a part-time promoter.. their so called friendship develop very fast.. n tat gal always act to b very good n always giving support n advise to my bf.. during tat time actually my bf n i did hv some problem.. n so tis bcome the good chance for her to come in.. she did mms her own photo to my bf for few times.. WTH a gal wil mms her own photo to a guy who she jus known for weeks n somemore ask him "pretty o not".. i did met the gal face to face to discuss tis.. at beginning she denied all like "do u like my bf".. "do u hv 'anything' wif my bf".. "do u told my bf abt our meeting (i told her not to tell my bf)".. but after a while, she "yes" to all.. even told me tat, ur bf did told me he is happy together wif me n hv "feeling" to me.. WT....

i admit tat i did a lot silly thing like pretending to b my bf n wan to chat wif her.. my purpose juz to find evidence to show tat both of them do hv "something".. but tat gal smart, she know tat is me, somemore called to my bf n complain complain.. n called me childish.. after sometime, my bf n i bcome better.. n she knew tat n confess to my bf again saying tat she's happy to help us to recover but at the same time she is sad/jealousy seeing both of good/coupling again.. until now my bf stil think she is a good girl n special gal.. n himself did told me he know her intention to ruin our relationship n wanna to be wif him.. bcoz she angry at my bf for always sided on my side n always say sorry on behalf of me (when she complain abt my silly actions)..

So, TS b careful.. nowadays those gal r very dangerous.. u wont know wat they wil do.. even they act to be too good in front of u n ur bf.. let them to b truly believe/trust on them.. n the real face is hidden behind her.. juz like a wolf pretend to b a sheep.. anyway, i like the way ur bf handle tis problem.. at least he wil share all the msg/thing tat he done wif the gal.. means he wan u to fully trust on u n nth to b hide.. anyway, u stil hv to spare some to urself too.. we wont know wat wil happened in the future.. good luck..

yeah my bf really try his best 2 convince me that he have no feelings 2 her, but i stil feel a bit insecure cuz guys tend 2 cheat on gals..i have seen so many married couple who r getting divorce now jus bcuz the husband is cheatin on the wife..(hate those husband..not even handsome)...anyway..hahaha..ur case seems more serious than mine cuz that idiot gal u r mentioning really trying hard 2 steal your guy away!!! but i never thought of pretending or facing the gal cuz i trust that my bf wil handle it properly..but stil i will giv advises 2 him cuz he jus cant seems 2 c or notice what that gal is doing in order 2 destroy our relationship...(blur bf i have) hahahaha!!! i hope u n ur bf r having a good time although there sure wil be problems ahead..jus stay calm n expres what u feel..listen 2 each other..thats wat my bf taught me in tis 4 years hahahha!! good luck 2 u 2!!

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Added on April 21, 2008, 7:45 pmhahaha!!yeah screw that gal!!!looks rely can be deceiving!!! i find those which dun have the looks have more great n loving personality than those who have the looks!!! wah got money 2 afford expensive suit but cant afford 2 pay hotel????hahahha!!! rely a stupid excuse from that gal...i hope i wil never come across tis type of gals in the future...duno wat the **** they r thinkin..y they nvr think b4 that if she is able 2 steal our bf from us...other gals wil aso be able 2 steal him away again...c wat they wil feel that time.. i jus have to say 2 u...4get your ex bf cuz he seems din take any action or draw lines between he himself wit that gal..wat the gal ask he jus do..(the hotel thing) no need 2 be sad or angry for him....not worth it!!hehehe!!

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 21 2008, 07:45 PM

Dun ignore the problem, coz it might become worst. There's a girl like my bf, and he told me abt tat. But for safety, i asked him not too close with her, sometimes we juz cant control our feelings and might fall in love to the girl in one day.

wrong act. there are lots of single men out there, pick up one of them and try to avoid from steal others lover.

GRacechew, thank you so much. Actually i did message that gal in facebook and asked her after me and my bf broke up. I ask her bot the hotel thing and ask is it u two having a relationship when me and him still together. Then she explained lah she not enough cash and want to stay extra one night in KL. i think she purposely stay extra one night in KL coz she knw my bf going to KL for bank conference that time. Then i saw the pic they took at Pavilion and one utama. Shit her lah. somemore that time me and my bf still together, She really wants to get my bf lah.. But now, is ok. just let her win loh....I'm giving up. I told my ex that if got 2 girls after you (means me and her), i will let go. IS not worth it fighting for a guy. If u win, so what? Then that gal send all the neck kiss and wettest kiss to my ex.. Scary lah that gal.. Show her interest till like that... Somemore she is working as Sales and marketing for bank in ipoh...

This post has been edited by lohoh84: Apr 22 2008, 09:49 AM

your bf is a great actor, cheers

yaya.. i totally agree with u girl...
even though how hard u try to lock him heart oso unless if at the end that ur bf got feel with her...
i rather let him know directly that i CARE how that girl appear beside on him...
And request him to choose on it...
if he still pretend or unaware how serious on it...
then BACK OFF lol...
since he start to look for other liao...
better dun hope so much ROYAL from him

its ok to steal the guy as long as you feel that youre better than the guy's current boyfriend.

Which gal is it from EEpoh? Id like to investigate, Ipoh bf stealing girl
Tell Tell facebook?

mine story lagi worst ler.... is between my bf and his ex gf wo... both of them hv been separate for twice and more than half yr but that girl still try to sms my bf every day... and the worst thing she still re-called my bf like wat they call each other when they are couple such as honey, husband so on.. (b4 this i really unaware on her existing de, just after v started few day only my bf tell regard on her and they friend relationship) he tell me that he only treat her just like friend and no more than that... but recently my bf tell me that she just break off with other guy... that y he give some advise n consult to her and hv frequent sms liao...
I know even after break off oso can be friend but... i so worry on this matter... maybe v just started this relationship... feel unsecure on this relationship yet..

Please advise..

凡事要看淡一点，

乐在当下，享受当下，

不要为当下的失受太大的伤痛与烦恼，

这是我们必须努力学习的生命过程，

每天都应该从心底锻炼'放下'的酒脱，

往后才会有一番格局与自在

I guess this explains it.

this is the best answer so far

better now than later, i mean, if a man/woman cheat/kena steal.

if he loves you enough, he should have known what to do.

but the best and most important thing in any relationship - open direct face to face discussion.

a relationship needs communication.

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Added on April 22, 2008, 2:17 pmfind out, to what extent their relation really is. some couples boil hot n cold and still end up together in the end. does your bf's situation like this?

the boy should know better in a relationship - the more important is the gf, not the gal friend. you should be more important to him now than the girl, although they might have been friends for a longer time

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Added on April 22, 2008, 2:18 pmif you want something bad, you should hold on to it tightly.

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 22 2008, 02:18 PM

but the thing is, there are just people who enjoy stealing than getting one for themselves. after they got him/her, their interest gone.

this is somekind of a psychology illness i would say, like a fetish or something.

your bf might end up a very pitiful victim in the end

my advise: ask him to choose, now. a man should be man enough to hold responsibility for his actions and have to balls to make a decision. if you value yourself, do have a say because you have 50% power in any relationship

good luck

another thing to remember:

sometimes, men, their blood flow somewhere else, thus, their blood supply to the brain lessen, thats why kenot think properly. if he is that valuable, be by his side in these times of difficulty (yes, he could be a victim also, victim of his own biological defect).

should you two get thru this, believe me, its worth it. it can either make u 2 stronger or... imagine glass smash fall to the floor...

but where got cat that do not eat fish leh??

there are many single dudes out there, why wanna spoil a couple r/ship ?

a kenyang cat

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Added on April 22, 2008, 4:05 pmits a habit n 'fetish' to some ppl. to them, somebody else's is yummier

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 22 2008, 04:05 PM

that mine word wo...

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Added on April 22, 2008, 4:43 pm

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Added on April 22, 2008, 2:17 pm
find out, to what extent their relation really is. some couples boil hot n cold and still end up together in the end. does your bf's situation like this?

the boy should know better in a relationship - the more important is the gf, not the gal friend. you should be more important to him now than the girl, although they might have been friends for a longer time



izzit sure that relationship is the end...
as wat he told me is yes la...
but i worry maybe 1day in future, they found out the actually that they are suite 4 each other wo...
just worry lol...

This post has been edited by Lena314: Apr 22 2008, 04:43 PM

i'm confuse who is who d... Lena314, u face same problem or...

Haha....Why worry when u already know what you want?
There's always a good reason why couples choose to breakup - for something not good of course.
Reminiscing your past relationships will only make you want to make the same mistake again.

TS,
first you should be happy ur bf is attractive/wanted

second, if you know very well ur bf loves you very much, and that he shares his sms and whatever the girl did/flirt to him, it shows that he's being honest with you.

maybe from another point of view, ur bf is also proud that another girls likes him. showing u how much attention he has from other girls, maybe he is hinting you in a way to treasure him and love him as much as he loves you.

you can't stop what others can do, you cant just go and give a big slap to the other girl and ask her not to like your bf.. be urself, love your bf like you always did. and most importantly, trust your bf.

don't let the other girl affect you.
in most cases, couples that broke up because they got 'stolen' - also started of quarreling too much out of jealousy.

ya ya..hold him tide if you still love him alot..but if he really choose for that girl..then how strong u hold for it..his heart still will fly to that girl..just like some of my ex..my ex choose to be with another girl and lie to me..he told me that between us lost already something..hmmp..i accepted the reason..but i still cried for so many days..haha..few days later i go and check his profile and msn..and i saw something that was really hurt me a lot..he already got a new gf after 1 day we broke up.. ..but now...haha..he already broked up with that girl..and he find me back..

woh, seem lot of girls also got the same case..
i don't know why some girls really wanna "step their legs" inside other ppl relationship..->no offence
my bf's ex also admit that she still like him after broke up, until he's been with me now, she confessed like him..
but my bf not because of this avoid her or what, they are still friend..but abit close..
sometimes i also not really happy bout this, can say jealous
but must always remind your bf that, friend is friend.. remember ur current gf status is different from them..
then maybe do something that attract ur bf, u know lar..some guys fall to others girls because some of those girls do some so call "tricks" let your bf fall to them

u should have learnt your lesson by now

yaya.. mine problem facing is my bf ex lolz...
she keep on contact my bf...
i know past relationship is pass dy..
but my heart feel uncomfortable to her exist...

haha! i did ask him whether is he happy that there is a gal like him..(i asked in a teasing way) den he jus smile den say yes la (in a shy way) but den he say "i stil love u very very much"..
yeah i noe i cant stop her from expressing her love to him, thats y i din kacau that gal, jus make sure my bf tell me everything..i told my bf if she is using higher attack skills to him (skills to attract my bf) i wil not hesitated to take action..hahahaha!! (tell the gal's mum) den she wil be finish. hahaha!jus my imagination 2 "smack" her!

jealousy is also a case in every relationship..i find that nowadays guys r very controlling at their gf..example..my fren(gal)..have 2 report who is she going out with...need 2 ask permission sumore from the guy..if the guy dun approve, den she wun ask her parents..if the guy approve oni she wil ask her parents...if my bf do like that 2 me..i sure "smack down" him den break off wit him!!

well... i know ur mean..
Just worry cos both of us started the relationship not even half year ohh..
can be say not stable lol... both oso not very understand each other...
and dunno wat he/i thinking anyway...

Now what can i say is:
If he is belong to mine, he wont fly away de...
If he not, then how hard i hold his heart oso he will fly back to her lolz..
Just be confident to myself and the way he handle his ex lolz...
Hope he wont disappointed me anyway...

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Added on April 23, 2008, 10:58 amwhat can i say is not report to bf la...
just make sure he know wat u doing and where u have been when with..
and in other word, i oso hope he can let me know too..
just make sure both can be honestly telling wat each other doing some times..
it's cant be say control de...

This post has been edited by Lena314: Apr 23 2008, 10:58 AM

wah he come back n find u again ah?!?!! ur ex rely is an idiot..i dun like this kind of guys...take us ladies 4 granted...wen wit us...find another gal..dun even appreciate..oni come find us wen need us back...i also cried a lot...haha!my bf say im a "ham bao lou po" ..i noe how it feels 2 c the guy u like with a another gal...pain pain pain oni...but i wil soon 4get him..thank god 4 my frens...making me happy n myself again...FRIENDS ARE SO IMPORTANT!!!

its not good to be a thrid party...

someone who can snatch other ppl's bf ..while the couple is still in a good relationship, means the person only love themself and do not care bout others. narrow minded

yeah i noe wat u mean aso....i also would like 2 noe wat my bf is doin n where he is..but those controlling guys wun even let my fren talk or go out wit guy frens even there is gals coming 2geta!!!!sometimes 2 controlling aso no good..dun have the freedom to do anything...if 1 day the guy decided 2 break off wit the gal..den the gal wun have any1 close 2 turn 2 cuz wen she is with him...his bf forbbiden her 2 mix around..who is the 1 who wil suffer more???sure lah the gal...kasihan..

u wanna hire assassin or not?

yaya.. u right... FRIEND are main character when v are down..
with them accompany, it's really make us feel more safety..
same as me, when break off wif my ex...
My friend really care about me... and arrange a lot of activity for me...
even though i din feel happy mood to it, but very appreciate them..
THANK Q for caring about me... MY FRIEND

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Added on April 23, 2008, 11:22 ami understand well ur friend feeling...
previously my ex oso control me till i cant even breath...
this oso 1 of reason i break off wif him...
suddenly get back to freedom n single life...
i tell u... it's really really cant suite on this life...
totally feel ur life like less apart o..
it's cant be say suffer just the way u choice ur life to be..
since ur friend are comfortable n like the way her bf control her...
then wat for u worries ler... maybe she just need this type of controlling ler...
it's depend to a ppl to choice the way their communicate in their relationship
wat can v say is just pray for her lol...


This post has been edited by Lena314: Apr 23 2008, 11:22 AM

hmm...at 1st i have no hard feelings on tis gal...(in my case)..but then she keep on "step her leg" deeper n deeper until i rely cant stand her...of cos i wil feel jealous i actually did tell my bf im a bit jealous, jus tel him but din show him that i saw very down bcuz of tis problem...he noes im sad, thats y he keep assured me that he wun fall 4 that gal..but like u say..who knows...mayb he is falling her 4 but din dare 2 tel me oni...thats wat i think

You should confront the girl.

Hahaha....are you a Leo?

hahaha..im not leo but my bf is leo...im capricorn...astrology have connection with tis love thingy???maybe jus a tool 2 make us feel better cuz it wil sumhow twist from bad 2 good..

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Added on April 23, 2008, 4:47 pmhahaha..assassin 2 kill those "b****y" gals??? i rather ask rapist 2 rape them hahaha!!! jokin jokin


This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 23 2008, 04:47 PM

intro the girl to me.. i settle her for u
lulz

hahaha!!how u going 2 settle 4 me??kill or rape or both????jokin jokin hahhaa!!jus slowing let the gal feel boring den i think she wun be interested in my bf anymore...

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Added on April 23, 2008, 5:21 pmoh ya..n i 1 2 ask

凡事要看淡一点，

乐在当下，享受当下，

不要为当下的失受太大的伤痛与烦恼，

这是我们必须努力学习的生命过程，

每天都应该从心底锻炼'放下'的酒脱，

往后才会有一番格局与自在

wat is this means???i duno how 2 read chinese....

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 23 2008, 05:21 PM

haha..i also don't know read chinese..can anyone explain or translate??i wanna learn something from you all too..hehe.. ..hmmp..my ex ar..i not so sure izit wanna together with me or what la..he already broke up with that girl twice..everytime when broke that time surely will find me..then ask me got bf a ready anot..no longer he back with that girl then din find me again..broke already only find.. ..good if got people that willing to rape those girls..so damn cheap la them..

wah...ur ex so damn idiot aso la...he like askin u whether u got bf anot so he wil feel better if u dun have 1...like.."luckily my ex gf stil dun have partner,mayb i can take her back if my current gf rely dun 1 me" jus in case thingy...y these days guys r so terrible..1st 1st will say "i love u 4ever n ever" or sweet talks den wen problem comes.."u r the 1 who makes us argue" or blah blah blah....we gals memang victims la...thats y next time if im single and middle age i going 2 launch a club...SUCCUESSFUL WOMEN!!!!(SINGLE ONI)

ya..he is damn..haha..luckly i dont have any good feeling on him already.. ..if not i sure will together with him back..hmmp..ya ya..i 100% supporting u..those guys when not yet get together with you..they will always talk sweet sweet words..call you everyday n bla bla bla..after being with you..they will just becoming another person.. ..always like to find something to argue..n when everything goes wrong will always blame to the girls..haih..as a girls is very hard to fight back with them.. ..they easy jealous n dont care about the girls feeling..but always praise their self how good how good.. ..

thats y next time if im single and middle age i going 2 launch a club...SUCCUESSFUL WOMEN!!!!(SINGLE ONI)

yeah..supporting you..

in this case u better careful, even though u know u bf very love you. i believe all the guys love to eat fish, if they dun eat they will smell or touch it. and u can talk to ur bf, ask him dun always talk to her. if ur bf keep on show his sympathy and cares will make that girl fall in love on him more deeply, especially she failed in her previous relationship..... i know is very difficult for u to tell ur bf this, after u tell him all these he will said u not confidence on him la bla bla bla la.... if i were u, i will straight tell him, "i felt i'm sharing a bf with other... i dun like the sharing feeling..." no matter she is whose daughter, he also should not do sth over his role....he show u the msg, the content of their conversation, my first feeling is he is show off to u that, even he got u there still got girls interested on him. so i really hope u can voice out ur feeling to ur bf, and he could stay away from that girl.....

one word: responsibility.

remind ur bf he has to be responsible of his action. give him a scenario like, if the gal threaten to suicide if he ignore her how? etc etc. let him know of the possible consequences.

surely if ur bf has the will, there is always a way. unless he is opportunist. i just read from somewhere in the forum tat a guy left his gf for 7 years and got married to his other secret lover after 1 month, n they have been kayu 3 all along?

dun take things for granted. guys always know how to talk, but dun judge him on his words. look at his actions. after all, action speaks louder tahn words..

if a guy show lack of will/control, there is every chance bigger problem will occur

and, this might sound not nice to the ear, do you treat ur bf nice enough? does he feel not loved enough that he seeks 'love' somewhere else?

tell ur guy how much u love him and ask him to k abt ur feeling too..tell him u dont feel comfortable abt tat...BIatchh...hehehe tell ur guy dont bother her(sms oso cant!)...soon the biatcch will stop for what she is doing

Just tell him all your feeling..tell him that you are not feeling comfirtable for staying your relationship just like having 3 ppl together..tell him..not you wanna jealous or what..try to ask other ppl..like that the relationship all ppl also will got the same feeling like you..

yeah i did tel him that i felt im sharing a bf with another gal...i aso did tel him that i dun like the sharing feeling..watever i feel i do tel him...jus that i dun believe that gal oni..u dun noe wat that gal wil do 2 get my bf...so he may fall into her trap...but these few days the gal din sms or call him already...my bf aso jus came back from singapore 4 training, i asked him whether the gal got do anything anot..he say dun have wor...dunoler...mayb he scare i wil or so wun tel me even the gal got make contact wit him ler....jus have 2 wait n c la..hehehe!!!

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Added on April 25, 2008, 6:48 pmhehe..nvm if it might sound not nice 2 the ear, have 2 take ppl's opinion, no problem!hahaha..do i treat my bf nice enof????erm.... i think i treat him quite nice...hahaha!! how do u define "do you treat ur bf nice enough??"

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Added on April 25, 2008, 7:00 pmyayayaa yes yes!!! i got very upset n angry bout tis whole situation..dun understand y he has been layan-ing her sms n calls...but wen he noe i dun like..he did not reply her...wen my bf dun reply her, she wil call..wen my bf sick..she aso wil cal..cis.....i told him that...if im at his situation, u think u wil like it another guy keep sms n calling u?if u keep layan her, she wil never giv up n u r sending the wrong signal 2 her aso..almost 1 week that gal din contact him liao..my bf went 2 singapore last sunday..b4 go, i think thurs or fri...she sent 2 my bf n say..."i feel very sad u have 2 go singapore"....muka tebal 1 la...i hope there wun be other gals comin between us...cuz hahaha!! tis year..chinese zodiac,cow, feng shui ppl say they (cow) wil have a lot of ppl come chasing after them..2 much wil cr8 problems..

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 25 2008, 07:00 PM

actually just a simple question. not to undermine you

as human beings, sometimes we onli know how to complaint but never look at ourselves in the mirror. sometimes, the other half stray and 'do something' outside because of the strains in their relationship.

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Added on April 25, 2008, 10:45 pmi read back again your intro post and i have to say, 4 years! wow. surely you know each other well enough.

ask you one question: 4 years ahve passed. do you feel there has been any progress in the r/s? or hs it been in the same state for a long period?

perhaps its time for both of you to spice things up to avoid staleness. your bf might be 'bored'. a new and clingy girl presents itself as a new 'challenge' and opportunity, probably something that is different from normal routines.

get a holiday, relight the fire (as Take That would sing). the best thing is, your bf is an understanding person who has been honest (at least thats what you have told us). dont tell your bf what to do in this situations. if he finds this relationship is still 'panas' and worth it, eventually he will ignore the girl


and one more thing, there is a good way to give a strong signal to the girl. take the opportunity to 'show' you two as a happy and strong couple to the girl, if there is a company event, gathering etc, if the girl can attend then make your bf bring you. let her see and know that you 2 have a strong and close relationship and most importantly, as a strong signal to her that you aint letting go

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 25 2008, 10:47 PM

I think the best choice is try get more nearer with the gal.. Let u be the person to show empathy and sympathy instead of ur bf.. Yaya, chinese zodiac (cow) will have many gal go after them... So try not too control o pull the hopes too tight... As previous says, show the gal tat u wit ur bf having a strong relationship.. u same as me having a 4years relationship.. try something new on ur bf like do somethinf tat he won expect it... spicy up ur relationship...

Sry ya i need to ask you all abit... sry sry i need you gals opinion...

Hi and greetings...


To all girls..Hi i wanner ask you all something.. I have already been with my gf for 5 yrs and now she says that she wanner call it off coz SMALL MATTER of arguement. Now she didt sms and call me for already 1 week ++ i called her but she ignor me and didt reply my sms's. She told me that she is dam piss off when she see my calling and sms. She event told me that stop calling my house, stop calling me , stop calling my parents, stop calling my friends. She says that she told me very clearly that ' Its over' and its not 3rd person which comes out she says. She told me that i have no more chance not a single one.

I go to her place and beg on the floor outside her house, after her mum saw me she told me that her daughter wont be comming back coz im here.So her mum sent me off.Next day at 5am i reach her place and waited there for her to go to work then i can block her car and get to talk to her face to face since she dosent wanner talk to me.So i did that and when to her car and stop her, then she ask me wat you want? i say i wanner talk abit, she say that there is nth to talk anymore i already told you its over. Then i say can you just fatch me to the nearest bus station? she at 1th says no but after a while she says ok she take me there. then in the car i ask her that im sry i know im wrong already i wake up already im sry and i wont take another chance from you anymore i beg for your last chance. She says that i gave you too much chance already.

Its already been 1 week +++ comming to 2 weeks.. she pick my calls a few times and she scold me that dun call her anymore she says that this make her more hate me.Normally she and me cant tahan one, after 1 day nia we get back togather already but this time its already comming to 2 weeks.. and i told her i will wait for her and she says that 'up to you'. Maybe 1 month maybe 1 yrs? i also duno. After 5yrs of relationship....

I can feel in my heart she also crying in her heart and it makes me very sad. i wanner fix this things but she keep ignoring me. Ilove her so much and she knows it very well, i let her crawl til my head and i didt even get angry.. but one thing i do get angry is when other guys come in. She is my big baby and my lovely 'Wife'.

Now i wanner ask you gals out there, izzit when you girls piss off you will say all this things and after will she come back after she COOL down?
Some of my Friends gal they told me that sure come back to me and its matter only of time coz its already 5yrs relationship. Do you gals think the same thing also? or? How? got 2 sides of me... my brain says that ' Hey ppl already dont want you anymore give it up ba!!!' but my soft hearts is telling me that ' Hey you still got chance just give her sometime... to cool down afterthat then buy some gifs and flower to TAM her back then settle already!!!'

Which is true........help needed..Thanks.

Trust me... what u need to do now is dont layan her......dont show that u very very need her.. she want break off of whatever reason... then just say "Dont regret"

U make big mistake......and every time go kacau her....

My opinion.. relax and try learn ur mistake

just let yr bf handle her for now...if u honestly feel she's getting out of hand give her a pice of yr mind (in a nice way )

let's put it this way. Would you like it if someone did the same to you?
No? Then it's bad.
Yes? You're weird.

Just teasing...just teasing...heHehe
I am a Leo and I was someone who get jealous and threatened easily.

Yea, I agree that sometimes...reading these things can calm things down abit. =)

hm.... Its already been 2 weeks.... and i really miss her.. althou now i didt call her and didt msg her offen.. i scare she got more anoyying. One day like msg her 3 times.

This post has been edited by crisboy: Apr 26 2008, 08:15 AM

you can open a thread and invite us there to have a proper discussion since this is someone else's. later confuse with all the input

i read your post and you havent told me the issue. why? why she does this?

ok if u dunno, let us know what she has been asking you to do and you havent done. i'm sure there is

haha..really abit confused already..some is answering the girl side..some is answering the new added question there..haha..

To girl : haha.. ..chinese zodiac and feng shui?? ..haha..ya ya..as what "sIKo" said is correct..you should show your sympathy to the girl seem she soon need the sympathy from someone.. ..be strong girl..dont because of this idiot girl make you choosed the wrong way..think properly for what u should and shouldn't do..give your bf confident and trust..

To boy :don't always find her..giv her sometimes..some space to think..if you always find her like that..she will feel like you cannot leaved by her..you need her alot..even if is yes!!you need her alot..but dont show it to obvious.. because of some small matter she treat you like that??can you tell more detail what have you done until she will treat you so bad??i dont think is a small matter ba..

i think it's totally ok to steal the guy.. but have to be careful as to whom you're messing with.. some girls really take it up a notch and defend what's theirs..
gracechew: it's not just the guys that have spare tyres.. girls do too have backup guys, u know.. those whom they call when they're down and sad? ahh yess.. REBOUND guys~

typical bf snatcher...wonder y these kinda people actually exist...aih..been thru all these myself...my bf..think that this model(who already married with a daughter) who celebrated his birthday with him while i was super bz preparing for my exam which i couldnt afford to screw up...thinks that she understands him more than me, more caring, good tempered and all...i only found out something fishy between them later on like a month later..and he insist me that nothing is wrong..but finally he admitted everything..he went to do so many things and all that i dont like him doing...he even asked me to meet up with that model during some car event in bkt Jalil last year...i was so devastated..and we fought...almost ended a relationship of 2 and a half years becoz of someone unworthy like her...
words for u: BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL... dont fight with that gal as the gal might tell ur bf something that might spoil both of ur relationship...and ur bf will think that ur trying to condemn her....good luck in dealing with it

steeling guys.....not my thing but then anything can happen.

My story is my bf last time had a gal, and i was shocked cuz when i know him and got close to him, i didn't know he had a girl he liked. Then with all the might i have in my heart, i make them two together, like play matchmaking.

Then i was so sad i cried and cried for days. Just hiding myself in the room and cried. Best is, my bf called me and ask me advice and keep on smsing and talkng to me, and caring for me. He seems like he liked me.

Then there was one day, it strucked him, i told him that it does not matter what i want or what i think is right, u have a gf and all that is important that is u console her and not me. He was shocked and then he learned that i will not and i pledge that i don't steal another girls guy. And i wun kau guys. Unless the guy tell me he like me, i will not accept him.

After that he say he wanted to break up with the gal (after 1 week ) and i was supporting him. I dunno why.... my heart just keep on supporting him. Then i kinda unknowingly hugged him and stayed with him.

After that i know that he liked me all this while, had a crush on me for a year edi, but he is too shy to confest and is afraid that i might reject him, hemake this whole girl story up to make me confess to him first.

I was suppost to be angry but i was happy to know that he didnt like her. But poor girl, she cried for months.....

so...............i feel bad, but what can u do? i am with my bf for over a year now and things are good.

so....sometimes, u just cant control urself.

or course what i am trying to say here is the girl who is keep on contacting ur bf, may not be able to control herself, she just looking for comfort, like rebound guy. In my opinion

HiHi..i m new here.. my bf also give people stealed.. just dont hold your bf too tide..

hey... girl... i really feel u very brave to test HIM..

well this wat i do recently to another guy (telling me how he very liked me, but i not sure is him telling me the true)..
What just i know is.... after i accept him in day 3, just realise he already got gf (they hv been separate for 2times)..
That really make me SHOCK... Sound like i'm stealing guy... But in fact i really dunno HER existing..
feeling really down n sad when u get to know that HIM got gf but still after u...
haiz....

there's a lot nowadays.. even it wil happen to almost every couple.. n yes, i agree with u.. dun mess n fight with the gal.. no worth a cent at all.. it will make u look like a loser more.. jus like my case, i fight n mess wif the gal, end up i look like the 3rd party more than her.. n wat u cant believe my bf/guy believe on her rather than me.. so gal, juz stay cool n calm.. like fishing (my fren taught me), release it sometime n pull it back on right timing..

like this punya bf, throw in tong sampah liao la. trust 3rd party more than own gf?
and you girls complain getting in a mess. no disrespect. reli, love is blind huh

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 29 2008, 10:06 AM

sometiems the gal does not know the guy have gf! usually in this situation. The gal shd call up the guys gf then both pretend as very close frens. He sure pee in his pants.

girls who steal other people's bf's are biatches.
they shud be b***h slapped really really hard.
they're lying if they say they didn't know the guy they like has a gf.
if she likes him, she'll know everything about him.

I have a gf , I love my gf.
Ppl who try to spanar my gf, will be met with a farking pissed off dude holding a farking big and farking expensive golf stick.

Im not afraid to say that I have told her friends off before. They offer to come fetch her for yamcha at 10 in the nite. Yeah bullshit, she has a bf with a perfectly good car who can send her, who the hell needs them. LOL.

But thats it, sometimes girls look at it as just a good will by her fren but then again, we guys know. All this are bullshit tactics aimed at trying to court a girl. Mweh, im a guy, i know the sleazy underhanded tactics, other guys do.

XD .
Sometimes girls are oblivious to the fact that another guy is chasing her and not just being nice until its too late.

Guys on the other hand are horny son's of b****es who should learn how to control their d*** and tink with their brain instead of that snake in the pants. LOL .

Regardless, either way, guy or girl, ppl who try and steal anothers significant other are scum .
And that fact that if you succeed in getting that piece of shit, just be aware, what goes around comes around.

If he/she can leave their partner, whats goin to stop they from leaving you for another cause clearly, that person has relationship issues and you even bothering to exploit that flaw in that person just to get laid is even more retarded.

Mweh, people who post up shit like I stole another persons bf and sounds proud of it should be shot. Its people like you who come online and give confidence to other retards like urself that makes this world a f***in nuclear warzone for love.

Hence making some girls so paranoid and clingy to their bf and etc.

But yes, I am in a happy relationship for 3 yrs and I'd hate to see my gf taken away from me just cause some mofo went to lowyat.net and said

"I like this girl, she has a bf, should i go for it?"
and instead of ppl f***in him up for being such an *******. they push him along and say go for it.

Sweet god. Whats wrong with you ppl. Ive seen countless posts in multiple threads. U SHUD GO FOR IT.

Man, in my case and for many others who tink like me. U SHUD GO FOR IT, YEAH I AGREE, U SHUD GO TO HELL.

Calm down calm down... cool ya..

wah... good point...
can try de..

im think in this 4 years we have been so much progress..i taught him a lot of things, he 2 taught me a lot of things..Example..im an english+cantonese background,so i duno mandarin,he is super chinese backhground,in order 2 woo me,he learn english (from zero to something at least)hahaha!i alwis teach him how 2 communicate in english,hear english songs..there r more ..what i have learn from him is patience,not 2 get angry easily (i often get angry easily)hahaha!!like if we have a problem,we will talk it through,say everything what is bothering us...I mean..i c a lot of couples..after 1 year or so..they wil break up bcuz non of them willing 2 step down n say IM SORRY..(eventhough they r wrong) wen i did wrong..i dun say im wrong..i will twist everything so i wil be the 1 who is right hahahaha!!normally he wil be the 1 who say..OKLAH IM WRONG PLEASE DUN ANGRY ME ANYMORE DEAR...but now,i wil say im sorry if im wrong,learn 2 ask 4 forgiveness...mayb u wil think its jus sumtin normal what we do in our relationship but 4 us i really mean a lot... so i think my relationship with him is stil "panas" hahaha!about that gal..she stil wouldnt give up although i ask my bf 2 ignore her sms...she jus sent a mms 2 him with a sunset pic n midi song "close 2 u"

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Added on May 1, 2008, 10:36 pmyeah i din pull or control tight tight,i wil jus ask him whether the gal do anything 2day..or he wil ownself tel me what she did...how 2 show that gal i have a strong relationship with him if i dun even know her...i din even sms or call her 2 confront her bout tis b4....i jus let my bf handle it...i hope he wun do anything wrong behind my back... sometimes i feel like i dun deserve him...mayb he deserve this gal...mayb this gal will make him more happy if they r 2geta..haihz..duno la..jus hope everything wil cool down between them...


This post has been edited by gracechew: May 1 2008, 10:36 PM

just trust ur self.. take it as exam from god.....

walau model mum ah???sumore ask u 2 meet her???!!! i think i would not meet her if i am u...it is so hard 2 face someone who had been "fishy fishy" with your bf...thinkin about what they did behind your back jus sucks terribly...sumore need 2 face her... i don't think i can handle it...sumore she is a model...somehow will be good looking gua!!! i didn't fight with that gal..don't even know her...im trying my very best 2 cool down...if she step over the line...i think i mus interfere already...

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Added on May 2, 2008, 12:16 pmi understand what u r trying 2 say...i din stop my bf 2 comfort her..as she says she is not happy with her bf...i mean..if there is nothing between them its ok...i also told my bf try 2 calm her down s i tot she needs sum1 2 talk 2...everybody needs some1 2 pour out their problems n feelings, but later on i found out that tis gal have feelings 4 my bf...i dun rely mind at 1st...but tis gal kept on coming like a hungry lion!!! my good deed actually turns out 2 be a disaster 2 me...backfired...what wil i feel....will she ever thought that what she is doing now actually hurts me a lot...i dun think she even care...all she thinks about is herself...im the one who is stupid enough who actually thinks that showing her kindness wil help her get through her tough moments....what a world....

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Added on May 2, 2008, 12:29 pmthat gal is a christian...she even sent a msg sound almost like tis..

sometimes GOD giv us pain so we can make ourselves whole again..HE giv us bla bla bla i cant remember....i oni remember the last sentence...sometimes HE takes everything away from us so that we will know the "value" of the person...

so what does this means...is she trying 2 say that when my bf decided not 2 reply her sms den she noe how "worth" is my bf 2 her???or is she trying 2 say...my bf ignore her is a loss 2 my bf????


This post has been edited by gracechew: May 2 2008, 12:29 PM