one day, i notice dat my bf actually sms with a gal...although it is just sms friend...but that gal mms her private part pic to my bf....so i;m very angry...wat shoud i do?

dun trust anybody...
ur bf.. maybe he ask
ur bf's friend.. she gedik ... who knows

bro xixo pwn first ..

i thought guys were great at keeping extra snacks from their gf .. how come your bf sooo un-secretive ??

haha.. i got it first.. easy mar.. just leave ur bf.. search for the peace in life.. then find more suitable... tat guy, if u still love him.. u sooooo... continue it urself~~~

bcoz u never mms him such pic ma....

damn it .. why am i not creative like this at pwn-ing people

leave him.. go show ur privates to some other guy...
(see how unaccepatble that kind of behaviour is??? what are u still doing with him???)

LOL.. it could be any ladies private.. the pics can get from internet easily.. guys are always greedy.. be happy coz its not the opposite sex's private photo's that he received.

Might not be as creative but just as funny!

Back to Pinkling, ask him la why she send that sort of pic. Sometimes some girls are just gatal, the questions is whether you boyfriend layan or not her gatal-ness. But I must say, mms that sort of thing is way OTT and she must uber-gatal. If you suspect he layan her, then leave him, not worth the headache wondering all.

show to me then , i don have gf and never see gals private part, shave 1st ok ?

when i notice...coz he went for exam
i tot just wanna play his phone...accidentally found it...
bout dat gal...she remain silent as i do sms her....but she pretend nothing had happen...
and for the bf...he insists that he just curious...wanna try something new, so that gal play a game...if he tease her til she feels good( horny) i guess thn will mms him her porn pic lo...so so she did...

Actually i am not helping ur BF...

Yep, he is hiding secret from u, but not cheat u coz u didnt ask him...

So, it consider cheat if after u ask, he tell lie, that only consider cheat

i ask him straightly he stil wanna hide it from me...and wait till i say break up only he confessed everything

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Added on April 19, 2008, 2:31 amlets say...if i forgive him...am i stupid???

This post has been edited by pinkling: Apr 19 2008, 02:31 AM

no it doesnt....but its naive if u do..
alot more better guys out there dont u think so?

i love him so much...but it is hard for me to pretent dat ntg had happen...well all these days he treat me nicely...all of of a sudden things turn up side down...make me feel so helpless....

hahah.... in a guys mind , its juz curiosity .... i will try but i wont betray my gf...

hoho...then how she will feel? u guys har...so slefish.nvr think of gf's feeling...later she breakup with u even u din betray her...but some how it feels hurt u know?????

how long u wif ur bf ? staying together d ?

but actually , it come wif feel....suddenly wanna try it out but after certain period , guys will feel sienzz.....and forget bout it d...

guys like to watch pornz , not bcoz of need , but juz bcoz of sudden excitement..suddenly got that kind of feel and wanna watch nia..

find new 1 lah...~!! or mia for a while~~!!

i know the answer

send me your *** pic

ihope ur not hatekiasuppl..

err .. for the sake of my curiosity, have you ever send mms of your private part to you bf ??

Give him last warning... Remember, only give a guy a chance but not second chance

Like that guy only will scare........ hahaha.......

wonder y guys oways like dis...i din n never send to him,cause gal shud protect ourselves la....wonder guys will ask ur gf do so?
just hope everything will be ok....

for dat mystery gal....i wonder whether her face is thick as wall or wat...

i will try to give him chances....but since there is a wound...wonder shud i let him go or wat....
so confused la

Prepare to let go only when there will be no more regret in future

Else u will only hurt ur ownself

how long u wif ur bf ? staying together d ?

but actually , it come wif feel....suddenly wanna try it out but after certain period , guys will feel sienzz.....and forget bout it d...

guys like to watch pornz , not bcoz of need , but juz bcoz of sudden excitement..suddenly got that kind of feel and wanna watch nia.. sweat.gif sweat.gif sweat.gif


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is normal la...i can accept guys watching porn..but if he find other gals n chat bout dirty things cannot la...
wonder in dis world how many gals can accept?

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Added on April 19, 2008, 2:52 pmalmost 1 and half yr we've together....wat i afraid is i'll regret with the decision that i've make....

This post has been edited by pinkling: Apr 19 2008, 02:52 PM

U tell him...... he kiss other gal, u kiss 15 guy... he sleep with other gal, u sleep with 15 guy...

Then see he scare or not....

If he say go lar....... then my opinion, u can dump that guy and say good bye.....

i told him, i wanna break up..he keep crying...thn i tak sampai hati c him so sad lo...then i take back my words...but thn i still feel so unsecure....
he say he love me....he need me...so m i, love him.....
but where there is a wound in the relationship....everythings feel weird only....
for example watever he say... i cant trust him 100%....i feel doubt...

if u really sleep wif 15guys bcoz of his action, u r dumb stupid... sleep wif 15guys and giv those guys opportunity only.... ur r suffer at last

of course i wont la....i stil gt brain la...if do such things just to show ur anger is useless...
so think properly before make a wise decision lo....

do wat u think is right ...if u really lov him and like him , like cannot live without him , dont care bout it...as long as u will not regret , juz do it

That statement is used to scare him only.... not really want to do.....

haiz, inside got a pyschology trick de....

wataver happen....just hope things will turn good la...
who support break up/??
who support continue?
can anybody tell me pls...

I as a Professor of Love @ Humsap Professor

Support u give him one more chance and show him u are sporting......Remember, the gal lose her BET to ur BF......
So, dont make thing become worst......

The only thing u can take reason as break up are :
- He hit and slap u
- He sleep with other gal
- He rape other gal
- He hug other gal in public

okok....thx ya....y seems very pro in such cases....

Hahaha.... sure lah.... coz i seen too much case liow and movie......

wah....he promise he wouldnt liao...
maybe there is a wound gua....so will not trust him so much as before la
feel like there is a gap there....

So now that he's trying his moves on another chick...to the extent that she's sending her private part pics, I'd say he's not 100% committed to you anymore.

If just joking or light flirting then it's ok la, coz sometimes during working life you need such social skills to survive. But not until the other party shows b*** or p**** coz that takes a certain level of effort to achieve.

Finally, don't buy it if he says he's just fooling around with her. Know that he is just as CAPABLE of fooling around with YOU in the same manner too.

ahhhhhhhh..........so complicated.....
so sad....so blur....anyway thx to ur opinion

I told my boyfriend: when it comes to cheating, one strike you're out.
basically, if my boyfriend cheats on me, it's over.

wont u feel sad? u can give up the whole relationship la??
i cant coz we have went tru so many things....
Love is so troublesome in some cases

i got a lot of female friends like u
but cheat also need to see what kind of situation la
if cheat on u because of third party, then need to beware lor

I'd feel sad about it, but once a cheater, always a cheater. No going back. Doesn't matter how much we've been through together, when it comes to cheating I give no second chances.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Apr 20 2008, 12:53 PM

Now we vice versa a bit.....

U cheated on ur BF but that not u want to do.. just been persuade by other people to do....

Then ur BF tell u, that all over...... once a cheater, 4ever a cheater.....

Tell me, what u feeling on that time.........

I can't help but wonder how can you persuade someone to cheat?

I wouldn't cheat on him in the first place. Why would I have that policy if I won't even follow it myself?

spunkberry, I believe you..

yeah...i never cheat on him...because he cheated before so i reli cant trust him 100%
but at the same time....i do reli appreciate the time we've been together..

Okie, consider i never say before or ask before.......

Yep.. u gal will always say u wont cheat her at first place.....

Haiz..... sad sad....

I'm not like other girls, I can tell you that much. Doesn't matter if you believe me or not.

Low blow him and break up only la.

wat is Low blow???

"low blow" = kicking a guy in the balls.

Hey pinkling,

I'm sorry this happened to you. You need to dump him lor, this is different from seeing pron on the internet. This is definitely cheating on you. Just dump the loser!!!




YES. Definitely. I feel the same way too.

ask the guy, wat happen. u got right to check his phone now i guess...

if he cheat... if you value him, give one chance, if not, dump him

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Added on April 22, 2008, 2:32 pmif the balls still there...

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 22 2008, 02:32 PM

what will i do if my bf cheat on me...
well, so far my bf not yet cheated me before..whenever he hang out with who and where..talk with who, i also knew it.. even what conversation that he talk to his ex, he also told me bout that, because he doesn't want me to doubt bout him...
somehow, if really bad things happen that he cheat on me..due to wat case lar, but if due to 3rd party...
i really cannot accept it, sure gonna have a fight with him

he will deserve every kick if he does...

wait...

sometimes, thats what happen when no communication.

there could be a problem somewhere, one seek outside solace instead of talking to gf. this is where an outsider can manipulate.

communicate ppl, pls... no guessing game in the game of love

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 22 2008, 05:06 PM

u should ask ur how much u love him in the 1st place..
perhaps giving him a last chance..
or consider to leve him loh~
coz honesty is vital to maintain a relationship~

TS,
after reading what happened at first post.. it's a big wonder why are u still with him??!!
are you out of your mind? sorry for the harsh word but it's really stupid if you believed what he did was only out of curiousity.
and you consider to forgive him for that?

who in the world will ask a girl to fwd her porn pictures to him when he has a gf?! not to mention - without ur knowledge
and he can come out with such lame reason when he got caught red handed
if a guy is needy, need some porn, we have what we call the internet, get some DVD, or find you?

no bf will do such thing behind their girl.
the girl is just a slut, and so is your bf.

i don't know you bf, maybe he did something really stupid, but if im in ur situation i will never forgive him.

This post has been edited by paranoid: Apr 22 2008, 07:41 PM

i do discuss this problem with some of my friend...but most of them suggested to give him another chance....some of his friend begging to me... but it is undeniable dat i reli angry n decided to leave him..somehow....when think of lots of other ppl explanation either from my friend or his friend...he is not dat bad i think....
or i'm too stupid a???

if it was another just another girl's picture, it's acceptable.

not a private part picture. it doesn't make sense a guy can go to that extend

yalo yalo...maybe shud stay a[art n cool down 1st...nw he treat me so good...make me dunno how la...haiseh

read this: 7 signs your honey may cheat

so LEAVE him. follow your instincts. if alarm bells are going off, LEAVE HIM NOW. girls can be so stupid about relationships sometimes...

Leave him...Find a better one, this kind of BF, no need to think twice !!

tell him to stop contacting her.. if he refuse then break

giving him another chances...hope can forget wat had happened before

good luck..

imho.. it sounds like ur bf giving lame excuses.. if i were you i would keep a very close eye on his activities.. and yea.. there's a possibility that when a guy gets caught.. he will just hide it/make it harder to detect.. just my opinion though.. all the best

it's very hard to forget a incident tat hv very high impact on u.. it might take months o year.. anywhere, u hv decided to give him a chance them try ur best.. good luck

i know lar...save the picture in ur handphone and spread it ...kekeke

actually i got scold tat gal lo...caz i cant take it ady....i sms her, but she din reply...caz i think is better to sms...wont feel so strange...and if waste money to call such person n waste money to scold her...thn very waste money oh...n i knw my words wont be so polite...caz during sms my words oredy very rude to her due to my anger ma....

wah, tehal very geng wor. If ur bf love u, y he no respodn one? Send private part pic wor!!!!! O_O

anyway, chenge ur bf number, ask him to not contact her, if he still contact her, leave him

hard to do but have to do lor

for me i will very angry too.... maybe u are main dish while she is the side dish... i felt ur bf mayb have phone sex with her, mayb they both really meet up have real sex.... they could be sex partner also....
i really cannot accept my bf got such friend.... i would choose to break up with him.... coz his heart not i'm the only one.... he want to have more than one.... i really cannot accept this.... even is very hurt, but think of u both future or even further till u both get married.... he really not reliable.... if he really have another lady outside, u n his family is game over ady..... so u better think properly u should continue with the relationship not.....

what ur bf said after this incident?no response? ask ur bf nicely...

stay tough girl! dun let ur bf blackmail u emotionally by pretending to be pitiful, accusing u of not trusting him and all sorts of nonsense. if someone did wrong they should have the courage to face it.. not try to avoid topic. if the person cant even do that... i would think the person is not mature enough for any relationship..

he should be a man and face his mistake and talk it through with u..(make u feel u can trust him again.. promises(not empty ones la)? commitments? dunno.. up to u just my opinion)

if just pretend nothing happen and all is over hor~ it can just come back to haunt u.. !

This post has been edited by xmascat: Apr 24 2008, 01:08 AM

their affair has got to a level that private pics been exchanged. how serious is that? does your bf have any private pics that are exclusive to u 2? i might sound like main main but do you realize the danger?

be suspicious. love is blind but open your eyes, look at ur bf's actions. action speak louder than words, although some guys are good actors. when talking about the issue, does he look u in the eyes? does he try to change topic or belittle the issue? does he belittle the girl as well? if he so pandang rendah the girl, means he treat her as a sex object/easy meal? he who has no respect for other woman, is he able to respect you? to what extent can you accept if ur guy love u wholeheartedly but seeks other pleasures elsewhere?

its all down to what you want and what you can accept. yes, people should adjust, especially in relationships but surely there is some life values you hold strong. are those values being challenged now?

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 24 2008, 01:23 AM

don't even be suspicious. GET OUT NOW.

ya.. since they could be sms-ing their porn pics.. who knows if your bf does it too..
they could have been sex partners for quite some time already without u knowing it..

don't be so naive girl.. sometimes think for yourself..

u've chosen to give him a chance.. i wish u luck

yea.. agree! dun really believe it's really as simple as that(usually it's not).. u might not know what other skeletons u might dig up with further investigation =_='

well..i think u have to trust ur bf since the day u chosen him..if u didt trust him anymore, tats not call love anymore..hence, if u wan to know the answer..the answer suppose in ur heart!!!

well.. i would suggest that u leave him... or just tell him that "we need a period of time to cool down...n think over again whether we should continue or not.".... or start investigating.

i dont really trust 100% what guys said .. thats what my bad experience tells me... my ex cheated on me 2... at 1st i felt smtg wrong, then i start investigating.... half way i know he done something wrong d.. every1 ask me to stop checking n just leave him. but i still wana investigate the whole story, at the end.... i hurt myself.... when i finally know the whole lies.... Anyway, the decision of start checking him is right, because that time i cant just pretend ntg happen, investigating would let me feel better cuz if he really is "clean" then i will feel relief. but if he really cheat on me... its over. if i dont check what is really happening, i will regret.

Anyway, different people different case. U know him better. so... follow ur heart... & never ever regret on decision u've made. Good Luck to u gal~ and stay hppy n pretty always... muakss

trust need time to build, not not blindly trust because of the word 'love'. thats why ppl say 'love is blind', and so many women get into a mess for that. and guys can sweet talk all they want, dun be dreamy and accept everything he says, especially after such an incident. talk is easy. action is not. look at the small small things in the relationship and you can sense whether he is really into the relationship as much as he says...

but i do agree that women's intuition or so called di-liu-gan can be extremely (scary) accurate.

so what does your di-liu-gan tells you?

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 25 2008, 09:15 AM

since he let me check everything, do i would like to give him another chance...but i told him, i gv u chance and if i felt smthing wrong...i would take it back...n off course... u wont c me..caz i say bye bye to u

the feeling of doubt will carry on forever.. i'm serious..
but if U r willing to work it out and trust him in time and of course, love him, then i'm sure things will work out just fine

there are just times when we need to make mistakes in order to better ourselves and learn from them.

too bad this will always be just a forum and we cant see/observe his body language, all i can say is, take this as a signal not just to evaluate him, but also yourself.

my bf cheated on me, he actually slept wid some other gals, despite i got evident, he stil deny. he only admit when i ask for break up. he beg for forgiveness and 2nd chance. and the idiot me, accepted the stupid apologize but ... i totally dun trust him and every single thing he do, will make me wan to break up wid him ... which is suffer for both of us ...
i hope u wont b the 2nd me ...
best luck sis!

he hopes u could close one eye...
pretend nothing happen..
guys enjoy something new but wanna keep the old wan..

dun so suffer~ break only la seriously.. u will feel damn relieve and happy after u pass the heart break stage

Something that guy cannot do are

- Sleep with other gal while in relationship
- Hit, punch, slap GF most of the times...
- Criminal...

Such guy or even gal... should not be given a second chance

even some tendency of violence should beware already. violent barbarians wont let go something in their possession easily especially a woman. get out before too late

this case is much serious than mine...
guys are so complicated....why they wanna do such things...indeed, curiousity is one of ther reason...but arent they feel ashame with their action...???

guys....make me speechless

yup, he said he juz being stupid and was wrong, beg for 1 last chance ...
no doubt i stil cnt get over the fact he betray me, bt am giving him another chance...
the other side of my heart, wanting to break up... waiting for a chance... evil rite?!

perhaps u'r rite, coz if thr's 1st, der will b 2nd and neve ending time ....
he will only repeat his mistake again n again.... and be more careful each time ....
i;m juz an idiot!!!

Ur not idiot... just that every people get blind when in love....

Only will wake up after hurt.....

Important.. just be happy everyday and accept whatever fate only

if bf make u suffer,y not find another man that loves u?dun becz of'' 1 pokok give up whole jungle ''

Sometimes.. not easy to let go a tree that u plant by urself......although u will get a whole jungle

1st time .. forgive him .. ppl do mistakes as long as he admit ..
2nd time.. go to hell! haha