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BF in australia, to go or not to go??
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TSpumpkinn
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 Apr 10 2008, 01:35 AM, updated 18y ago
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guys and gals...i have a question...here is the situation...
i have a fren from china. she has a bf (been together for 3 years). the guy now is in australia. taking his master over there (planning to get a PR and work there). both of them are already 26 this years (already reached the time to settle down) she never think of going there as she thinks it takes time to get herself suit to the new environment. until few days ago her bf told her to consider about continue her studies in Australia and get a PR after that..or else he wants to break up. she already wasted lotsa times when she transfer from china to m'sia (her bf was in m'sia) she redo her degree in malaysia as the uni don accept any exemption.
so the question is, if u were this gal, what will u choose? to go OR not to go?
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TSpumpkinn
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Apr 10 2008, 01:49 AM
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QUOTE(Avex @ Apr 10 2008, 01:42 AM) most likely this relationship won't be going anywhere even if ur friend goes to Australia. Maybe it is time for her to put herself first. yes!!! tats wat i think....the relationship wont last if she keep tolerating...she just follow wat the guy wants...and never think of wat is the best for herself...the guy cant support her if she cant get a job there. so...sigh...love is so blind...  |
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TSpumpkinn
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Apr 10 2008, 01:51 AM
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QUOTE(Vinspire @ Apr 10 2008, 01:39 AM) He is not demanding. He is just being realistic. He has made up his mind of what he want. So, LOOK !!! Either you come here or we end our relationship !!!  yes...this guy has a very good planning....he knows what he wants in the future...and stay very firm...but i think this is not the way to discuss the future with the loved ones. |
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TSpumpkinn
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Apr 10 2008, 01:55 AM
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QUOTE(Vinspire @ Apr 10 2008, 01:51 AM) You sounds like you are those that has no faint and give up easily on a relationship. Well, i still look at it at the bright side. There were together for 3 yrs d. The BF has put a condition that if she wish to continue, she'll have to sacrifice again and be with him in Australia. No matter what, the lifestyle in Australia is still better than M'sia I assume. lifestyle cant be assumed...this is depends on herself. food, weather and everything need to put into consideration. opportunity to get a good permanent job is also another important thing to think of ..
Added on April 10, 2008, 1:59 amQUOTE(Vinspire @ Apr 10 2008, 01:54 AM) What does he has if he come back to M'sia? I believe he must have a reason to ask the girl to go over. Seriously, the guy sounds like a smart guy to me. If not he won't be doing his master in Australia now. How much salary would he get in M'sia with his master compared to Australia? I believe there is nothing wrong in wishing for the best. Transferring from M'sia to Australia might be a problem for a short period of time but losing the chance being with someone you truly love is a lost in the long run. i donno whether 'smart' is a suitable word to describe him as he is not the only who is able to take master over there. but the way he 'forced' his gf to go there showing he is NOT smart  This post has been edited by pumpkinn: Apr 10 2008, 01:59 AM |
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TSpumpkinn
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Apr 10 2008, 02:10 AM
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QUOTE(Vinspire @ Apr 10 2008, 02:01 AM) 1. Why think of something you don't know? As i said, the decision is very simple. LOOK ! Make up ur mind, u want him ... go over. U don't want him, go over. ( You / U = Your friend ) 2. It is NOT force. Force is no matter what, she must go. This is called as putting a condition. You come = We will be together. You don't come = We break up. 3. Which part of him that is NOT smart? As I said, he know what he want. Does your friend know want she want? If she does, she would be able to make a decision by now yes...i personally think she is not smart...but as a fren i cant say ' hey, just leave him!!!' for the 1st point, i am not thinking of something i donno...this is one of the ways to get herself well prepared to face anything which might be happened over there. anyhow, if she decided to go, she will be all alone over there. no frens, no relatives. and nobody can guarantee that the guy wont leave her if she goes.
Added on April 10, 2008, 2:12 amQUOTE(Avex @ Apr 10 2008, 02:09 AM) please don't just tell TS friend to just pack up and just go flying to Australia and everything will be fine. Life is real, there is more things to just LOVE. What is her security, the guy's words and LOVE? yes agree! This post has been edited by pumpkinn: Apr 10 2008, 02:12 AM |
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