i found out that my bf used to go to hooker 4 years ago. he is 32 now. do u think this guy is worth keeping?

used to go mah

not a problem..

how long he din't go already ?

"according" to him, a few years he din go liao la

We are all sexual beings, its the human condition.

ajak him go for body check-up to be on the safe side..

last time he often go or once in a blue moon?

4 years ago better than 4 years later

often lo... he told me bcoz he was too stressed

Seriously, get him to go for blood checkup. You are entitled to a safe mind that he is healthy and fit.

secondly, can you trust him ? If you think you can trust him, why not ?
If there is no trust, there is no ground for the relationship to work anymore.
Everytime you see him with another girl, you would be very suspicious.

he used to go to hooker so you do not want him anymore???? Well if you really want to prevent him from finding one now...u can prevent him by providing him his Ahem* needs instead...

if u already have in mind that he is not worth keeping...den well..find another one. At least he is honest with u about his past?

its better than he goes to hook when with u!!

hey girl, sorry to hear

more importantly have him go for a check up, and you need to go for a check up first

out of curiosity, how did you find out about it?

it was written in his diary

wow.. yeahhs.. how did ur bf tell u.. ? n seriously, do go for a full body check up..

Body check a.s.a.p.

Wait, you look up his dairy or he show it to you?

It doesn't really matter what he did in the past as long as it's not endangering you or disturbing your peace of mind. Of course if you really do mind, you'll have to work it out and see how long can you tolerate it.

This post has been edited by feyhime: Apr 8 2008, 04:02 PM

hmm.. i think there must be other reasons why a guy would want to find hookers. yes perhaps he's stressed.. but maybe he wasnt satisfied with ur sex relationship in d past? it's quite surprising that he confessed to u. it's good lar that he's being honest. u should discuss with him lor.. if currently he's satisfied or not. and then leh, body check up is a must. u don want to be affected by STDs =.=

anyway, loving someone n finding hookers r 2 different things.. he go find hookers doesnt mean he loved them mah.. is still better than having affairs outside that u dun know about it. One night stand is oni one night stand. budden leh, some girls kenot live with the fact that the bf go find other gals.. hookers or not hookers.. still girls mah.. actually alot of guys also go find hookers.. just that most of the guys would never never admit it.

if u still love him n believe in giving second chances.. or u think he's still a good guy (aside from finding hookers), then maybe u shouldnt dump him so fast. coz, it's 4 years ago mar..... surely he hopes that u will forgive him. coz ah, if u don forgive him, he sure feel stupid for telling u d truth. n next time leh, he will not be honest to u.

budden leh, if u feel u cant trust him anymore, or don love him anymore, then u should leave him n find a better guy which u think would never ever go find hooker (but .. if he don tell u, u also dunno what)

There is quite a number of my relatives and friends have the past experience of finding hookers.....
Finding hookers and loving u is different things.
why not for giving a second chance for a guy who still loves u

butcher meat hook?fresh meat meh?


aiyor..u too obsess with dota d...

all ur sentence sure got dota language wan

oh.. he never really tells you ?
this is problematic. If you confront him about it, he would take that as an infringe of his privacy ( diary)

could it be just his fantasy ?

Try talk to him about it.

i found it accidentally while finding books to read on New Year's day. the sad way to start my 2008...

4 years ago he was with u ?
if he was single why cant a grown man go to hooker ??

have u had sex with him ? yes .. u go for check up ... and then ask him to do it as well ..

it was last time .. give him a chance to change ...

Right............. that's some complicated situation.

It was 4 years ago. Have you two started back then? If not, you really do not have any rights over what he did back then. I supposed you feel uncomfortable, but that isn't something you can change since it's already history. So long as he's not passing any disease to you, there's really nothing you can do about it. You can ask him about it but how are you going to explain that you look into his dairy? That's a breach of privacy...

Do you love your man enough to overlook his past?

If you love someone, you must be able to love his flaws too.

To me, is very normal. I always go to hooker before married. Please understand, for guys, sex and love is two different thing.

Everyone deserve a second chance. Unless he goes for hooker when you are in a relationship with him, if not I don't see any problem for a man to look for hooker when they are single.

Ofcoz ask him to go for body check for god sake

i have to agree with u. maybe deep down i'm just feeling insecure that he profession requires him to be surrounded by females and people who willingly to become a mistress/having extra marital affairs/going to hooker while on business trip, etc.

I dare say la, all the NORMAL guys has visited hooker in thier life, dun talk about the abnormal ones or those pretending to be saints. So if this is a problem for you to accept then you should be a lesbian ehehehe...

sorry dun mean to be rude but just want you to know the reality only.

This post has been edited by moorish: Apr 8 2008, 05:14 PM

I'm a normal guy, horny as usual but I will never go for hooker. I rather have one night stand than pay for sex. And I'm not pretend to be Saint, I'm just sked of AIDS.

This post has been edited by kockroach: Apr 8 2008, 05:18 PM

how old are you?

he used to go? that sick *******! ask him pm me the phone number but you should check for stds and stuff's :/

it depends on how much u love him~
if u find it hard to accept his deed, perhaps u nid to have a talk wif him~

i'm 32, old liao la

Be confidence of your own and him as well. Trust him like you trust your own. Is hard to start a relationship, since you both are fated to be together. Forgive him. Everyone had his/her own pass. The most important is your future with him.

My 2 cents, hope it helps

what's the difference if instead of a hooker, it's his ex-GF? What's the difference? He paid the hooker directly for sex as opposed to he pay the gf indirectly (dates, flower, meals, gifts) for sex?

What about, you? What if you told him you had sex with your ex-BF? What will he think?

Sex is part of human that need to be satisfied. Nothing wrong wanting it. Having said that, no...I never being with hooker.

OMG. If you plan to go on, make sure he goes for a full body check up. But for real sex and love is a different thing for guys? I'm kinda afraid now.*___*

Thanks Peppy! Glad that i'm still with him

Maybe the problem is, my social circle consists of innocent people and surely he's from a more complicated and real circle so it's a cultural conflict

i also got this type of male fren ... where they claim they wont go again (this is true when they have gf or sex partner) ...if they don have then paying oney for sex is better choice ,,,,

First get yourself tested. Then get him tested. If he USED to go then just let it go. It's in the past and most men would have gone to a hooker, at least one. Question is, is he addicted to going to hookers, will he do it in the future? I think you would be able to know the answer by now. But if it's a one off thing then learn to forget it.

Stress is just such a lame excuse to go paying for sex. Bleah.

Anyway, if thats the past i think probably you should learn how to let go.

Whether he is having sex with hookers or with gf's, he had sex with people before he met you. But of cos, do make sure he is clean and not infected with STD.

Unless he is still doing it still, then you have to let him go because you are putting yourself in the risk for STDs.

hmm... let's put it at another point of view. Treat it as if he has an ex gf whom he has sex with. I believe you probably had an ex bf and have sex with him b4.

And I think you are lucky that he told you about it and stop having sex with those "ex gf"

i think so called hookers are fine.. ask sufiah yusof... ask the NY mayor... ask FIA's boss...

as long he quit already it should be fine... no one is perfect..

going to a hooker a long time ago is okay. You need to get him tested for STDs now.

Thanks a lot for your advice and comments!

should just let go the past. i know he loves me deeply...

if he tell u that means he think that u r important and he don want to lie to u...
i do think this is a very honest guy...
consider him... ^^

WTF!!! U only go to hooker!!!! NORMAL guy not all going. its so DIRTY!!!! i rather DIY oso wont go such place. don classified all NORMAL guy as dirty as u.

Get into his circle of life

Yo..'normal guy' i guess u got abnormal brain. Whats the diff between one night stand and hooker? both are the same.. u don't know their identity or their background. The diff.. 1 u pay the other you don't! And in what ground makes u think that the ONS gal has no AIDS? come on....

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Added on April 9, 2008, 10:36 amI agree with you.. this is his past. as long as he is not going to hooker now... there is nothing to worry about. Abubin got the point.

I am imagining what is going to happen to a hooker.. i bet they wont be able to get marry if their bf get to know their past ... yaya out of topic... just wondering.

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Added on April 9, 2008, 10:40 am**THE END**

This post has been edited by SadGuy2: Apr 9 2008, 10:40 AM

AIYA U 32 ALREADY dun think so much go get married and have children

opps for a moment there I thought I log into the Catholic forum ... Yea Mr.Saint man I'm sure you find DATY is gross and sex should be reserve after marriage huh...

shyt iv never been to a hooker....am i not normal? guise please pm me a hookers phone number....obviously iv been missing out alot and need alot of "normal" guy's catching up to do...

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Added on April 9, 2008, 1:10 pmi rather a hooker then DIY.... how dare u turn down a hooker are you trying to spoil the malaysian economy?

This post has been edited by Jas2davir: Apr 9 2008, 01:10 PM

Hey speaking of hookers Id rather go thailand or macau for hookers they are cheap and gorgeos not like some mutant monsters that lurk around in malaysian streets.

So many aqua ewwwww.

holy shit thailand? macau? i really wouldnt want to be screwing an ex-man or overly visited cheap hooker......accutualy if you wanna go find hookers please do not think of spending rm50(heard from pro) those cheap ones either:
1.has been in the business a long time
2.not "clean" any more
going to a hooker dosent only end's there...if you take back some "rewards" or "bagage's" then get ready for a whole life of pills... i rather spend rm1k on quality then rm50 on quantitiy.....

You think people goin to hookers bother and that goes for one night standers as well. How sure are you that those over one k does not have fungus or mutation on them?

And whats with macau and ex-men? You tink Mother China is as sisy as Thais?

lol relax la if i insulted your "mother china" but he did say thai.....the over one k's one have medical records and they do check ups once a month i dont think even you do aids check once in 10 years or have you every tested for any std's?

IMO ONS girls are higher risk, most of these girls are half drunk and very loose, well not that I'm complaining but most of them allow raw. Whereelse professional hooker 99% will not allow you to enter them raw.

Well I did wanna go for Aids check up and my parents say dun be silly so ended up didn.

Ya ya the prosts have better entrance control than those ONS. They have multiple entry and no custom checks also, clubbing girls

ye know, one word of advice for you. You should know what kind of a person he is by now.
Not that i am throwing cold water at you, but you must be prepared for some possibilities in the future.
some people never change. It's true some businessman continues to visit hookers even when they had their own wife and children.

IF you love him, you will just have to loves his flaws as well. And as long as he loves you the most.
If not, better opt out soon before it's too late to calls it off.

guys, some talking crappy stuff about hookers and such. either you talk in line with TS's question or buzz off before i get any more reports of people straying into unhealthy discussion.

its not saint o religion thing. its principle thing. got gf o not oso wont think of hooker. from wat i can see u r really dirty person (if u went for hooker) n u r such a low status. go to chow kit o old aunty hooker la. shit. FYI. i got a gf n we have healthy sex life as well. we both r from good family background n highly educated. hooker? not even an ant...

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Added on April 9, 2008, 4:37 pmu r the same as moorish.

This post has been edited by Bank: Apr 9 2008, 04:37 PM

I am in line with TS thread, I'm trying to let her an insight view of a guys life, that so far non of my fren or guys I know for the past 30 yrs has never been to a hooker in thier life. I'm not saying they must be compulsive or addicted to hooker, I'm saying they've experience it at least once in thier life.


And Banks...you claim you've never tried hooker so you cannot judge hehehe, yea I'm dirty, you're very clean happy? but who knows...you might be pretending to be saint in here and judge ppl but outside you're the one go to chow kit, but at least I'm frank. Before I marry my wife I've told her YES I've been to hooker, I've tried ONS...she understand guys are naughty (truthful guys who dare to admit) but she says no more this kinda activities after married. So pinky fingers....

no one said you weren't either.



since you brought this up. none of my friends i know for the past almost same amount of years as yours are not hooker visitors. insight in a guy's life, but not all guys are like that.

i've never visit any hooker myself and I'm a normal guy. so your claim is flawed unless you consider me as ABNORMAL.

btw your friends, did they visit hooker as a single person? or single with a girldfriend (just as TS) or married even?


@TS - 4 years back is 4 years back. more important you look at what it is now and how he will treat you. past is past. visiting hooker isn't something sooooooooo terrible. everyone has their "crimes" some where.


This post has been edited by goldfries: Apr 9 2008, 05:00 PM

come to think of it, its snobbish ppl like you who look so lowly to hookers as dirty and ppl who go to hookers...its just that you're lucky to be born into a comfortable life. They're hookers out there who sacrifice thier body and life to make end meets to bring back to thier family or bro n sis who has no money for education and so on...

In my view and to be dead honest, in my heart I look up to ppl like this who would sacrifice thier body highly as compared to ppl like you who sit there and judge the misfortune of others.

And your so call principle....if you're born in outskirt thailand or china, your mom or sis might be whoring to bring that bowl of rice to your dinner table...

This post has been edited by moorish: Apr 9 2008, 05:02 PM

hookers, IMO most of them are victim of circumstances.

now can we not discuss about hookers? just let it be how ever anyone wishes to think of them.

back to topic please. *yes. stop the hooker bashing or people bashing*

Well I'm not going to judge your frens but I can tell you plenty of ppl who hv done plenty of things but kept it secret, if you ask plenty of ppl hv you been to a hooker they'll tell you no unless they know you really well. So when you get a no its not really a guarantee.

But since you say nearly all your frens...well honestly I've doubt on that.

Yes I've know guys who went as:

single
attached with gf
married
3 wifes
married plus mistress but still visit hookers
divorce
double divorce

..............................

well you're trying to paint a pretty picture to TS that most guys or nearly all the guys you know in your life never goes to hooker....and my picture to TS is 99% of the guys i know have been to hooker at least once in thier life.



This post has been edited by moorish: Apr 9 2008, 05:10 PM

perhaps i should word it properly.

if you count all my friends since day 1 of life, of course i can't say NONE ever paid for sexual services.

as to my currently closer group of friends, i'm pretty sure they don't go. they're not the hooker-lookin' types.

fair enough you say no guarantee but without proof, that also means one can't say ALL goes to hooker at least once either.



yes. it really depends on your friends and their lifestyle.

it would be fair that you state that based on your experience, rather than as the earlier post to generalize ALL have visited before. good if you did, and sorry if i missed it.

but that's not the point here la. so now we have you on one side of the scale, and some of us on the other. so like i said, it really depends on your friends and their lifestyle.

fair enough? i see no point discussing on this really.

boy and boy and other boys talking in GIRLS club.

its u n its ur life/family circle. 99% is for ur "level" of life circle. this 99% include ur dad as well? think bout it.
for my life circle its mayb only 1%. hookers r victim o not we do not know. its their choice. they can choose not to be. mayb they choose to be hooker is because they wan luxurious lifestyle. but if got ppl like u sure their biz is very good. n 1 more thing. if u think tat they become hooker is bcos they need the money for a bowl of rice, then u r really a s**k ppl tat take this oppurnity to f**k them n think tat u r paying them n "helping" them in their life. then i very pity to u n oso the hooker.
whether im pretending o not only i know. there is no point to pretend CLEAN n act high class. its not ur biz as well.

This post has been edited by Bank: Apr 9 2008, 05:26 PM

yup agreed....well as for TS, I'm only trying to let her know its common thing that guys have experience hooker at least once in thier life, I'm not saying like guys would continue doing it for the rest of thier life.

Its not like guys who've been to hooker are useless or irresponsible to the family or would love her any less, I'm saying nearly all the guys I know goes to hooker....hey even plenty of your dad has visited hookers (ok just stirred the hornets nest)

To TS

You never know what someone has done in the past, unless he/she tells you honestly. Look at it this way, if you had never looked at his dairy, you would not have known that he had visited hooker before, right? What is the difference of knowing and not knowing then? The truth is he has visited hooker before, and it will never change.

So I would say, let bygones be bygones. Look at present, and future.

TO victor_hoh
thanks!
this is exactly what he told me.... think the best i can do now is to forget about it

TO ALL
looks like this has deviated from my intention of starting the topic...

HIV takes 3 months 2 be detected ... so no sex for the next 3 months

lol? FYI i have a fkn good family back ground i have a brother who's grading as a doctor this year i have another brother who is finishing his double degree 1 in law and 1 in commerce and im doing soft eng i dont think im poorly educated. some people are not into commited relation ships as others i hate to have a gf as i have bad expirence and iv seen too many guy's/girls suffer beacause of their relationships...i would rather spent rm5k on a hooker/ons then want to enter a relation ship on someone based on sexual. and if i ever fall in love again it wouldnt be for sex drives thank you very much.

Haha... very funny. tell ur mom u went for hooker and see wat is her reaction. from such a good background but addicted to hooker. such a waste. bad experience o not is not the reason for going hooker.

TS: it takes time for u to digest this. though u can forgive him now i think this thing will just come out in ur mind automatically. i do not know ur bf so cant comment on this. just make sure he never never go for hooker again.

if i told my mom that i went to a hooker she would just laugh do you know why? beacasue she trusts my judgement's and she knows that i wouldnt go if i dont even go clubs for ONS then why would i go find hookers? my family is not like yours who will start fights/get angry over small matters hell if any 1 from this forum goes to my mum/dad and say i go to hookers 100% conform you that they would laugh it out...
obviously your parents do not have faith and trush in you. and could you please state where did i said im addicted to hooker's? you said that you were from a good family background? does your parents teach you to judge people? who are you to judge me even if i go or dont go to hookers?

TS: do what you think is best. ask your parents for advice they always have somthing good hidden in the "lectures"

Haha... more funny. a good family tat "TRUST" u and "ENCOURAGE" u for hooker? such an insane family.... if, its "if" ur dad go for hooker, wat ur mum will do? still lough at ur dad n trust ur dad judgement?

my family will never fight/get angry cos this thing will NEVER happen to my family. my parents obviously trust me in 100% tat i wont even touch them. so there is no point for them to worry.

mayb i wrongly use "addicted". but the fact is u will go hooker from wat u said. judgement is not teach by parents. its own judgement. will u go to ask ur parents everytime u need to judge ppl/something? unless u got no brain. Ya. im no body to judge u but at least im not the ppl go for hooker just to release ur "stress" or "hormone imbalance". and TS need someone tat neutral to give comment but not the one who always go for hooker. of course u say this is not a big problem cos u support hooker as well. ppl with same hobby gather together.

TS: sorry. totally out of the topic. someone still cant wake up....

This post has been edited by Bank: Apr 10 2008, 09:54 AM

my 2 cents. guys have more tendency to become horny .i'm a guy i know lol.however i still managed to control myself and abstain from going finding hookers or ons for "ahem". take note that i'm single.its up to the individual to control himself.like ts said her bf used to go to hooker. get full check up to be sure of his health and your health and it's in the past. as long as he doesn't betray you when he is with you i think that is good enuf already.

i am of the opinion that prostitution/ons is a necessary evil in the world. ons and prostitution is about lust for sex that is all. affairs on the other hand are more complicated and damaging compared to prostitution/ons which is all about sex only.

totally agree... this is so called matured thought....

If you have the tendency to ask this question already.. I guess it's pretty clear that you don't really trust your boyfriend that much anymore. :/

Let's ask this question to every girls. Who simply wants a boyfriend who had/has sex with prostitutes?

However if he stopped doing that/repented for what he has done maybe you ca give him a chance. Humans afterall do make mistakes what more a male who is sexually driven.

His excuse of being stressed that led him to prositution was somewhat ludicrous.
I understand that guys do resort to sexual pleasures when they are stressed but.. I'm pretty sure he knows what masturbation is right?

Anyway. everyone is entitled to their personal opinions what is more important that you sit down and think if this guy is worth to be with and be forgiven.

Good luck

This post has been edited by eclecticube: Apr 10 2008, 10:44 AM

yep trust and encourage you to learn from your mistakes... and if my dad goes to a hooker that is totaly up to him i cannot hold my dad's 53 y/o hand like a young boy and they also dont want to hold their childreen's hand like a small kid and i srsly doubt my mom guide you for the rest of your life. and judgemental behaviours comes form a judgemental family. go read up some books main reason people comment about a thing negatively is beacause they have little to no knowledge in it.
and nope you dont have to ask your parents b4 u judge but obviously i can see that you are young and dont notice that when your parents talk in a judgemental way their childreen would always catch that bad habbit. if you look back all your post almost all are judging me or other forumers .

TS: sorry off topic. some one still cant open his eyes

Going to hooker not mature....not going to hooker mature?....

Then why hookers and porn site are ADULTS area? small kiddo cannot go near these places?

don fight la...

This post has been edited by Derm2008: Apr 10 2008, 02:14 PM

haha... donno wat talking u. the point here is whether guy should/shouldn't go hooker; is tat right o wrong... but....?
r the books u read all conclusion o just reference? can we judge/conclude based on the books? read more books if have no knowledge bout it. bookworms. if we all catch judgement from our parents then i oso can imagine how ur parents judge ppl geh from the way u judge... ya. im still very young but its good tat i know how to think better than my peer...

actually i just wan to ask u don encourage this in the 1st post to u but donno wat the heck it becomes like tat...

totally wrong channel and closed my eyes... no point bombing here cos it doesn't help TS oso...

This post has been edited by Bank: Apr 10 2008, 02:41 PM

Guys who go prost
Guys who ONS
Guys who masturbate
Guys who make love with thier gf/wife and secretly fantasize another
Guys who DATY

Who are we to pass judgement that which is dirty or dirtier... ?
Do guys who do all the above a lesser man? and guys who claims to be clean and not do all those a better man?

topic has gone out of control. thread closed.