i'm a guy, i would like a girlfriend who is beautiful and intelligent and has a very high obedience to ALL my request....
( when i say ALL, i mean ALL )

but in reality, i can't get this type of girl because this type of girl won't go for me ( fat ugly lazy lustful jobless man )

in your situation, i suggest that you need to know what you can give (what makes you standout)
it is far more better than knowing what others want (to fulfill those you want to please)