Actually, I told my bf that he should be honest with me about everything and I'll try to be understanding EXCEPT if he cheated on me with another girl. Even if he cheated just once and regret it he should keep it away from me if he still wants to be in a relationship with me. If he still wants me, I'd rather HE live with the guilt for what he did wrong. Of course if he cheated on me coz he wants to be with that girl then can tell me la...

To me, ignorance is bliss. Love is unconditional? That could be somewhat true between a parent and a child maybe but I find it hard to believe in unconditional love between husbands and wives, simply because you can walk away from that relationship with a divorce. Could you still love someone who has intentionally hurt you physically? Who became a gambling addict and waste away your 10 year savings? Who committed murder against someone you love? Certainly, these are extreme situations, but these are still conditions.

I'm glad that things turn out fine for TS now. Let's hope that he really meant it when he forgave her and not just pushed it to the back of his mind and one day rear its ugly head when things are difficult between the 2 of them. I'm not trying to be a party pooper here, but hope to serve as a warning to a potential situation because I HAVE witnessed a marriage that fell apart because the husband always minded that his wife was not a virgin and one day when things went wrong, he used it as a weapon to hurt her emotionally, although he said that he was OK after she confessed that he was not her first. But 5 years later? It became the firestarter to their divorce....Sad huh? But of course, not all guys are like that, just try the best you can to help him get over it. Not avoid talking about it like the my friend did and one day it just exploded at her face.

A lie is still a lie. If the guy really loves her. He won't mind if she is still a V or not.

Just enjoy your life.....
Nth is bad and nth is good.....

Since she has make her decision that will tell him the thruth after what previously she say is "NO" then go ahead...nth to lose....if that guy break off because of this....what i can say "YOU ARE NOT A GENTALMEN ENOUGH".....Pack your D**K and go back which kampung you are......White lie is not harming any1 since it white -hehe-

So....Leave on Babe.....Be a babe for ever......

Erm.. already settle.. things happened almost one month or even more than that.. We are cool now.

I told him the truth, already confessed. If 5 years later, he dig it out and want to break because of this reason, I will be cool with it and let go, at least now I feel released and no knot which tie me down.

TQ

Hi Peppy,


So you are the person. I'm glad that you confess at last. Lie is still a lie. Lie will to lead you to tell another lie stories. Why not we all just don't tell lie? It's a sin. Be honest and you will be rewarded. I'm happy for you as you have approached the first time of your life. An honest person.


Thank YOu.


P/s: Life goes ON. No Worries !!!

love is soo complicated...

To my knowledge ... Girls usually feel guilty when they're doing something bad or wrong to her partner so its better to tell him because you'll be struggling in the time because of girls' natural good personality but of course there are always exceptions.

Whole different case for boy I think, at least me, if I can go over with a lie, I will do so and most probably won't tell it out.

Love....... It a matter accepting the good and bad side of the person that u love. No matter what she did in the past or do in present. If he love you, he will forget you. Lie...... It got two situation where it consider "good lie" or "bad lie". Good lie mean u cheat a person that because don't want to make him/her feel sad. Bad lie is opposite good lie. You did a good job because u cheat him with "good lie", just because you love him so much and don't want to hurt him. But.... u lost trust on him. You didn't trust him because he told you the 3 condition that you need to fulfill. If love is bind by Rules and Regulation. Love is just like a court where all the lawyer arguing for the case to win. Please don't follow the rule of the game of love.... Love need trust, freedom and care from each other to make a couple happier. Follow your heart to make him feel that you are everything to him. Don't let him put more Rules and Regulation in your love. You can't get happiness is there is Rules.

Now the time has come to realize who you can trust or not...

Tell or dont tell is okay too.
Lying for me is nothing(I admit i like to lie...), but based on 1 thing, the reaosn that make u lie. If lie to harm ppl or hide dark secret, thn thats not good; if lie for thw goods of others, that acceptable.