i think this depends very much on ones lifestyle... whether you are willing to sacrifice a current luxurious lifestyle (if you are having one) and save/invest for a better future?

also, earns per month supporting the entire family/entire family plus wife no need to work?

TS, you are doing pretty good yourself... 6.5k at only 28, also giving tuition is non-taxable, rich girl

yhtan,

do some calculations then you know that 5k is not enough... how old are you? are you working?

housing loan - 1200 (condo 20 years instalment)
car loan - 700 (7 years MyVi)
insurance - 200 (~50k sum insured)
petrol - 250 (including weekends)
toll - 50 (if any)
food - 300 (RM5 per meal, 2 meals a day)
parents - 300
how much already? RM3000...

you haven't even factored in your wife, entertainment, electricity and water bills, groceries, parking... how can you even think its enough?

5k gross salary does not equal to 5k take home pay... you haven't deduct, SOCSO, EPF and tax...

HaszAhmad,

quick question... why would a girl marry a guy who needs her to share his "EXPENSES"? might as well not get married, right? i'm sure the girl will be doing better without another person's EXPENSES...

marriage is not just about having offspring... its about responsibility... if a guy can't provide basic financial security to a girl... then the guys has no rights to say the girl dumps him for a richer guy... blame it on himself for not carrying out his responsibility properly, that's just my opinion, anyone wants to fire me?

for my case... my education is fully paid by my parents... i drive my parent's car to work... in return i maintain the car and give them additional RM300 a month for household expenses and i pay for the internet...

i bought a condo in late 2006 with my gf... so am i considered having a rich supported?

olman...
from your replies i can kinda feel that you're not ready for a relationship:
1. don't blame the girl for her high maintenance or what so ever just because you are not capable of earning more
2. money is a major part in any relationship no matter you like it or not, it's a fact, don't try to deny it
3. the main factor in broken marriages are financial problems, 3rd party chipping in is secondary...
4. TS didn't mentioned that she's not working, she just wanted to gauge if her help is needed after marriage or not

goldfries,

"high maintenance" is a subjective issue don't you think?
some guys likes to complain how their gf spend their money just because they pay for food, movies and entertainment...
their gf maybe wants a pair of shoes... the guy makes noise... but he's willing to splash 3k on a new PDA... for himself... so?

food/entertainment is just the basics and if a guy can't even do those, i'll question the guy's capability of handling a proper relationship

agreed very much on healthy spending and financial monitoring...

not generalizing or anything but i noticed that couples who worked to earn a living have better financial control... money don't come easy and they tend to take care of their pockets and their partner's pockets as well... but actually a lot spend more than they earn... i know a lot of people had to take personal loans to pay of credit card debts... all boils down to financial education... and parents' spending habits play an important role as well

off topic, back to TS's question

marriage should be an upgrade, not downgrade

if TS is living below her average lifestyle after marriage, my question is... why marry?
the chinese term "got love, drink water also will full" is correct but up to a certain generation, and definitely it cannot be applied in this generation...

i think spending a lot is ok, the main concern is spending a lot on what?

if he spends a lot on unnecessary things like expensive cars, latest gadget then the girl should be careful...

but if he spends on acquiring props for rental, invest in some business, then its very ok, right?

not complaining in public does not mean he/she is not complaining at home/to relatives/friends

how do you know that a lot of > age 30 people are happy with only 5k?
do you also know that a lot people are in serious credit card debt? they have a foreign car, a property and they go to expensive restaurants and wear designer clothes... as an outsider, you'll say "wow, isn't he capable/rich..." but do you know his/her financial background?
if a guy is single, any amount is ok, its all about self control... but if you are engaged with a girl, most basic expenses such as food/transportation/entertainment is your responsibility... unable to fulfill basic necessities is nothing to be happy about

1k can live in KL? 1k gross or net income?

stay with parents, eat on parents, internet on parents, parents drive you to work (means no petrol, no toll, no parking fee), phone bill on parents, no gf, no insurance, no savings?

can show some calculations? figures can tell a lot

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Added on March 27, 2008, 2:23 pmfood - RM5/meal - lunch and dinner - RM200/month
insurance - RM50k sum insured - RM150/month
phone - prepaid with very minimal usage - RM30/month
bus - assuming your area covered by Rapid KL - RM100/month
about RM500 already... RM500 savings... everything else there's FAMA?

This post has been edited by kenji1903: Mar 27 2008, 02:23 PM

dude... if you think with only a mere 10k++ salary a month you can have bungalow, BMW and driver... i think you've not been working very long yet... and have a very very very long way to go... figures never lie, do some calculations

you're a student yourself or at least have been, don't you have any idea how much it cost your parents to give you just education alone from kindergarten till uni? i guess you don't, huh?

the e.g. you gave is very subjective, what kind of comfortability do you think is comfortable? if they are Bumi's, yes 4k per family is kinda doable... they have gov support don't they? how about other races? do you think they get the same privilege?