seriously @lice~, u hv to accept the truth, this relationship wont last long, or u'll hv to sacrifice really a lot to maintain it

personally i think i hv been at the similar situation as ur bf in past time, i can feel wat he feel n now after reading this thread, i can feel how my ex gf feel

ur bf is now more like taking the responsibilities to keep the relationship as too many reasons eg promise, reputation, habit etc, on the other hand he meet someone who is happier with (boring of the old relation, no SURPRISE)

u'll hv to prepare n brush up urself now. there is no right or wrong in one relationship, it's just a matter of timing n the maturity of mindset as u r at tht time

as in my case, i had a 5 years relationship w my ex. as time pass by, we grow independently and the things tht we aim had shifted differently too. i then meet a gal whom i'm happier with tht time, we share many things n i accidentally ignored my ex similar to ur situation.

we end up broke up as we finally understand that as our mindset now it's impossible to be together n live happily in the future. now we r happy w each other lifestyle and we r still frens.

thts y the next relation for marriage is just merely the timing, whether tht time u meet someone who share the same thoughts, ideas & lifestyle together to live with

no

i am concentrating on my study n career as now, i realise if i'm w tht gal, we'll end up the same once we both grow differently

until i think i'm financially stable n ready for marriage, i'll only seriously start another relationship n then lock it to start my own family

not to say i reject gals for now, instead i focus more towards my personal goal, will not purposely go n sport a good gal like my ex for the purpose of marriage in the future

so far i'm glad w my choice, i met many other great gals which i'm happy with along my single life, hence it strengthen my view tht it's really the matter of timing

if u feel u r tired n unhappy, n there r still many things u need to achieve, do not hesitate to make ur decision life comes once and it's short, i want to live my life to the fullest n nvr regret

Great, let's live our life to the fullest


Sure, when i put less effort on my ex, sure she'll be curious, plus she is a brilliant gal scholarship student

Similar as u, i told my ex i want to maintain the relationship, but tht time my heart is like going to the other gal

@lice~~, i'm sure you can change, if ur will is strong enough

hehe glad to hear tht

many people assume to live in their own world, but the fact is the fact, this is the nature of human

however dun be disappointed with guys, they are part of ur life and one of them will accompany u for the rest of ur life

chocolatepallette is rite, time will pass and u'll grow and appreciate

remember, must enjoy ur life, find a life partner which share the goals with u, life only comes once and u define ur own life

hehe let's achieve our goals first shall we?

for me it's ok to start a shaky relationship, as we learn differently when we in a relationship. however as young guts which has nothing in life, we must remember to NEVER put ur gf into consideration when u r deciding ur own future, or a greater regret will comes later

a good example will be many couples tend to give up their dream eg working overseas, hence they end up loosing a great chance in learning n building up themselves, as the commitment to always stay together, or scaring of losing each other

end up the male struggle a lot locally and cannot give a better environment for his partner and own family, hence unforeseeable problems occurs due to the financial reasons - eg cant give a more comfort environment to the family, cant afford the children to study a better college/university etc

if the guys were trying their best to achieve stable financial 1st which until around late 20s or early 30s, these problems can be solved. unless u r really genius in making money or ur parent has big gold mountain, then u r more than welcome to marry early, but as an average person, whats the chance of success?

cheesenium, if u r goin into the relationship, u may let the gals know ur ambition and situation, and tell her she is free to find a better man before u r financially stable

@lice~~, well it's fine, nothing is serious for the gender thing, even so i admit it's my wrong for treating my ex like tht, but heck it's a good thing for both of us, she found a better guy and i'm working on my own way

loving doesn't mean owing, i feel happier too when i saw she is a lot happier now

and guess wat, when i'm single i found an interesting thing my love luck is increasing muahahahhahaha this has been proven true as when u r single, u seek to enjoy and live ur true self, and becoz of this u indirectly attract more admirers, rather than purposely go for a relation and behave in ur love's one way

good luck and all the best

yes, but now not anymore, she is with new bf and a lot happier