Dear all,

Do u mind ur bf to be very close to another gal? They can talk to each other almost everything (including wat happened btw u n ur bf) n very frequent, hv meal together (just him n her), go out together, when anything happened the 1st person to contact/think of is her.

And u know the gal actually hv confess to ur bf her feeling. Wat u think of and wat u wil do??

Plz leave ur comment ya.

Nope.. mind to share wat it's?

He said he hope can keep both.. one is love him n loyal to him n another is he can "click-able"..

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Added on January 8, 2008, 3:28 pmi did ask him but he did not answer me.. n juz keep on saying they r fren only..



This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 8 2008, 03:28 PM

Thx guys for your reply.. i do hope to hear more comments on this..

Yesterday, i forced him to choose either me o her n only one he can choose.. after a while, he said he decide to choose me.. then i asked him to call the gal n talk to her abt this n make everything clear.. but he said he wil settle it himself with the gal privately.. i disagree n wan him to talk to her now with my present.. then he angrily said if i cant accept his way then forget abt our relationship..

Comment plz..

like wat??

i dun wan his body.. wat i wan is his heart n mind on me.. not other way round..

Juz like a chinese statement, u hv him not mean tat u wil hv his heart n mind too..

Eeemm.. i admit i quite dependent on him.. he is the one make me believe in love again.. n i always think he is the good gift for God to me.. silly me... hahahhaa...

Yes, the gal confessed..

i really hope i can be more open-minded (can go out wif other guy at the same time i hv my bf), not tat soft-hearted, not tat loyal.. hahahaha... maybe tis way can make me more better..

i do not mean to control him o anything.. i juz wan to make sure they really clean n clear after tat..

btw he do admit tat he hv some little "feeling" on his so called gal fren.. n she did know abt it.. so when both of them hv the "feeling" there, do u think they should continue tis kind of so called friendship?

This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 8 2008, 04:37 PM

The gal hv sms him at early morning when i stil wif him n i read the sms myself.. n after i asked him for few times he juz told me the true..

Yes, i m happy tat he told me but after he know the gal hv crush wif him, he is not stopping to contact her.. wat all is this means?? giving hope to the gal??

we r staying together, so during day time he wil only contact me when he need me to do something for him.. he very seldom wil call me up n ask me wat i m doing o some sort of this.. but in another way round i m the 1 contacting him n chat-chit wif him.. but always got rejected by "i m busy", "i got customer" n bla bla bla.. not even out call can last for more than 5 min..

but with the gal he can keep sms n calling each other very frequent n almost everyday.. and he still dun wan to admit tat he got contacting wif the gal always until i found out the proof then he juz said i oso need fren to chat-chit n share thing.

more worst is when i m back to my hometown, i m the 1 contact him at nite always.. n he will call me up only when he need something from me..

he n the gal do go out together without my knowledge.. n only after tat he juz told me abt it.. wat is tat means? i asked him n he answer is i dun wan u too think too much n misunderstand..

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Added on January 8, 2008, 8:42 pmhow do u know they r not over the limit??

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Added on January 8, 2008, 8:46 pmI do hv my own male frens.. but we r jus online chating n mayb just once a week or a call in few month times.. n i wil told my bf everything tat i hv chat o do wif my male frens..



This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 8 2008, 08:46 PM

yes, i do hv my answer juz tat i not dare to face n accept the fact.. i cant accept the true tat he can change so fast from a person to another totally different person tat i feel scary of.. some times i wil asking myself izzit really tat i think too much n they r juz fren.. but every times when i start think positively sure hv some thing stopped me to do so.. like seeing both of them contact each other very frequent..

i do admit tat i not trust him anymore.. he hv lie too many times to me n keep on hurting me non stop.. tat's really very hurt..

This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 8 2008, 09:51 PM

early of 20.. not more than 25yo.. we r same age..

y??

Yes.. when i m reading up ur reply suddenly just like got a bulk shine very bright on my head.. i got the idea n i believe wat u thought maybe is correct..

As i mentioned b4, i always think he is the best gift tat God have give to me..


P/S: tis morning when hearing to MY FM suddenly heard a chinese song.. by Micheal n the song title is "Fire work".. i cried.. the song really sing out every part of my feeling.. Found it: http://www.crunchyroll.com/showmedia?id=202244



This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 8 2008, 10:17 PM

Thx all for ur reply.. yesterday we argue again.. some more the gal called him n complaint to him wat i hv posted up in my friendster n hv harassed her.. then i did argue wif the gal on the phone.. n she keep on sms n calling him since yesterday (she sms/call him to show her caring like ask him eat adi?, r u ok? n etc)

anyway, my bf n i hv make to a point tat he wil stil wif me n at the same time he wil go n clear out everything wif the gal.. n he wan me to stop suspect him n trust him.. so do i wan him to know his own limit to every gal tat he meet..

but i know i stil doubt of something.. wat really i wan now.. i oso can't answer it..

This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 9 2008, 11:08 AM

Yes, i wil give a chance to both of us.. n c how's going on..

thx

yes.. everyone hv to care for your partner feeling n know the limit.. n to avoid all kind of misunderstanding o jealousy which might happened..

ya.. i started to learn it previously but i failed.. bcoz others say i m too soft-hearted.. i dunno.. maybe correct mayb no.. but i will try again.. thx for your wish..

i dunno.. i m thinking the same way like u.. but he always said me think too much n over sensitive and can bcome a movie script writer..

now wat i can do is think positively, the reason he done all this is bcoz of his "logical/rational" hv take over his "feeling".. he act according to his feeling.. i feeling better when i think tis way..

thx..

i do confronted her last time.. both of them hv the same outcome - fren.. now i regret to met her face to face.. bcoz she went over to told my bf everything tat i hv told her.. including those not-so-good-to-be-hear words.. n last few days, she called my bf to complaint i harassed her n at tat time i m there so she n me argue again.. n i asked her y she go n tell out everything to my bf.. she answer bcoz she dun like to do thing behind other.. n i replied then u go n tell my bf all this thing not consider do thing behind me?.. she quiet for a while n angrily answer bcoz u r not my fren, n r u satisfy wif this answer.. i m speechless..

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Added on January 10, 2008, 5:17 pmyes, TS = thread starter..

the calling part (when i at hometown) adi occur since long time ago.. when i asked him he always said i m busy, i think u sleep adi, my phone no credit, n etc..

dun worry, i always think worse.. so how worse it is i think i can accept it..

i m thinking tat way too.. so tat's y i request to be face to face n my present.. but he refused..

yesterday he told me he adi settled wif the gal.. n i asked him wat u both hv talked.. he only ask me to go n check his handphone.. i didnt do so.. but in tat gal's blog she update something like "to someone special, we both believe in fate, n the fate wil manage to come when we hv together faced all the obstacle.. n bla bla bla" i dunno who is the special one tat she meant mayb is my bf.. if yes, y she posting in her blog? to angry me? i m thinking to block her friendster n dun wan to see her anymore.. wat u all think?



This post has been edited by @lice~~: Jan 10 2008, 05:17 PM

sure.. but i really feel the hurt when i start thinking they hv "something".. the pain is really from the heart.. i hate tis kind of pain..

Thx

Yes, i do told him.. proof to me tat u 2 hv nth.. n he reply me by how i going to proof.. in ur mind n heart u adi confirm me n tat gal hv something..

i m giving both of us a chance again.. n i m trying my best to forget the gal n the incident.. n back like previously..

The girl updated her blog again.. and this time still the same he blogging abt my bf again.. some more wrote up his name.. wat make me surprise is my bf hv brought her a crystal bracelet n other items.. refer to her blog, she wrote out all the sweet words tat my bf hv told her.. like "i will give u all my money so tat u no need go for study".. n wat he hv done to her to make her happy.. i m speechless.. kena boom bcome few thousand pieces..

he told me they r just normal fren now n seldom contacting each other... but from the blog she wrote... hahahhaa.. everything is totally different..

He said he didnt brought the crystal bracelet for her.. n the reason he told all those "sweet words" to her is just joking.. n he said again they r juz normal fren n he is just "normal" caring toward a fren only..

he ask me stop go n read her blog n let her write wat she like to do.. he cant stop her to do so..

scolded me for using his account to sent msg to her..

i dunno wat should i do now.. very confuse..

i really hope tat's an answer can drop from the sky to tell me wat to do..