QUOTE(Underhill @ Dec 28 2007, 06:54 PM)
I wonder how others coping with their relative struggling with cancer especially someone close like their father or mother lying in bed suffering. How much does your life change? Are you able to bear it? How did you take the news? How are you coping with the possibility of losing your love one? Financially, how do you manage it? Does your life is all back and forth to hospital and work?
Do you talk to someone? Ain't easy finding someone who understand unless they are in the same shoes, isn't it? Is there any support group? If your struggle is over, do you think you are the same person as you were before? If not, how?
Please share if you're one.
My bro passed away 2 years ago.. He was 18 and I was 17 when he was diagnosed with brain cancer, 3rd stage. He did not even made it for his 21st birthday...Do you talk to someone? Ain't easy finding someone who understand unless they are in the same shoes, isn't it? Is there any support group? If your struggle is over, do you think you are the same person as you were before? If not, how?
Please share if you're one.
The pain of losing a sibling is so intense that words are so hard to describe. I remember I was numb when my mom woke me up at 3am, choking from tears, tellin me that my bro was gone. I didn't cry, I drove to the hospital, my mind was blank. When I got there, the sight of his lifeless body on his bed made me released the tears that I had been holding back. When the nurses wrapped him up with white blanket, then I knew that I lost him for good. I broke down and cried my heart out.
Yes, my life revolved around hospitals and college. I flunk 2 subjects and had to attend counseling sessions. I did not discuss my bro's matter with my friends because yes, they wouldn't have understood what and how I felt so there was no need to elaborate. I remember that my parents would bring my brother to cancerlink, Its like a support group for these patients. He also attended a qigong class, most of the members in the class was cancer patients. I seriously thinks that qigong did help with his life because the bloody doctor told my family that my brother wouldn't last for 3 months and yet, he lived for 2 years.
Q) If your struggle is over, do you think you are the same person as you were before? If not, how?
I am certainly not the same person as I was before because now I learn how to care for others as I need to be strong because my parents are still very sad..They would cry when we talk about my bro and everytime when my dad saw cancer patients on tv or reality, he would turn his face away because he's afraid that he'll break down. I know that I have a big responsibility now that I'm the only child my parents have so I do my very best to not make them worry bout me..
This is all I can type as I'm not a very good "typer".. If anyone is facing the same issue like me and u feel like u nid someone to talk to, feel free to drop me a message. I will try my best to help.
This post has been edited by puppyee: Mar 17 2009, 11:07 AM