my life journey is juz colorful as i am always surrounded by beautiful friends.
i met my bf in the year of 2006,our relationship was going smoothly for a year
every moment that we spent together was a blessed and happy one,
but in the year of 2007 all starts to change..non-stop of arguements!
he becomes like a jealous monster,just like want me to stick to him 24/7,
he don't like me to hang out with my friends & call me to end all relationship with guys' friends.its impossible rite??!
he said its already more than enough to have him one and only in life...omg..
he deleted most of my friends contact number,especially when he see guys name..this is rude rite?!yet i be patient..
he even call me to change to a new number,so that my friends unable to contact me!
of course i won't change!!then he accused me for waiting some Mr.Right to call me. *faint*
-ok tell u all till here about the jealous part-

-come into another part-
he is working while i am studying,
in the year of 2007 he is always broke,sometimes i even give him pocket money (i work part time as tuition teacher)..
i don't count so much with him..as what is always in my mind is i love him.besides,his family treat me really nice & good.
ok,u may ask y he is so broke eventhough he is working?well,all starts when he was persuaded to be a guarantor by his friend for money lending,
his friend ran away..so he is the one to responsible! >.<
when his dad knew about this,his dad got really angry n scolded him horribly.he scare his dad the most.
his dad is rich,so his dad paid for the sum of money to the money lender first.but his dad wants him to pay back like montly installment,
uncle told me that he must ask his son to pay back for him to have a lesson in life for being a stupid guarantor for a betrayer.
every college semester break,i will work full of it..all the money will go for him..as to pay back his dad
-ok tell till here-

i have a few friends know about this and they ask y being so stupid!they call him 'jerk'
my friends said i am good looking,doing good in studies,nice to friends...but y become so stupid to love this 'jerk'
they said more better guys are waiting for me.wake up!wake up!wake up,my dear!!
*try to put urself into others shoes,if u feel it is pain,it probably hurts the person too*
yea,i know i am stupid!but my heart will become soft when i see him..thats y i will keep on forgiving him..
a word 'sorry' will be the end for an arguement...
-ok la,tell till here-


i am not complaning..but i feel very miserable..is this the life i want?is this kind of guy husband-to-be?
aaarrrrrrhhhhhhhhhh...drive me crazy!



thanks everyone for reading my story of 'a gal who is blind eventhough is blessed with beautiful eyes for loving this guy'
thanks for every thought and comment for whoever gonna post here
~You all are beautiful people~

Love Hurts




This post has been edited by kuih_tiow: Dec 8 2007, 06:20 AM

good morning every1.
early morning aledi post it. i'm reading it.

This post has been edited by jaycee_oh: Dec 8 2007, 06:52 AM

reason of him to change into beast:

1.He look down on himself more, because he need your money support to help pay his debt. Everyguy has a pride, if you're my girlfriend i will find part time job myself and wont ask the girl for money.

2. You said you're pretty, clever and quite perfect while he's been label as the jerk. Of course he feel the sense of insecurity, because he know there's lots of lengzai and better guy in your college and you may change heart, since he's turn into a shit after the 2007 guarantor incident.

To solve this, you need to talk to him personally. Assure him you wont change heart and you will help him get through this slump he's facing now.
If he's still so useless, you can just go and find a new one. He's currently treating you like he owns you, which is dangerous because he's too possesive and wants you to follow all the things he wants.
Serious possesive person will tend to beat up the girl if they dont follow what he says.

This post has been edited by hatekiasuppl: Dec 8 2007, 07:03 AM

The fact that u refer him as a "beast" in the first place, already answer all your own misery.

Topic can close.

-to be continued-


#the sweet part of him#
*the unforgettable day with him in this year was on 14 Feb (Valentine's Day)
-we went for dinner at Wing's Music Cafe,then he requested to sing on the stage,
he held my hand to the stage,i am seated on a chair there & he was standing holding my hands while singing
'Waiting For You' .. *feel quite paiseh coz alot of people there,mainly couples* but felt very happy la
-end with a hot kiss on stage & everyone was clapping hands.thanks them.
*he always give me surprises
*like to make funny faces
*like to draw me pictures
*his words melt me

#the bitter part of him#
*when he sms me,i must reply him immediately
*when he call me,must answer as soon as possible
-aiya..sometimes when i am busy doing works or i am in class..how to do so?
-then he will get very angry
*when i am talking on the phone with friend,and when the same time he call me 'Call Waiting'...
-ash coming out from his head..he will speak in anger voice..accusing me talk with which guys *headache*
*there was one time,i didn't realize that he call me coz my hp was in silent mode..got 10 missed calls
-he got hot-tempered again..ask y dont bother to answer his call
-coz of 10 missed calls,he shouted 'You Go Die' on the phone.. *it hurts* *i cried during my class presentation*
*whenever he feels jealous of something,he will straight away hang up the phone *faint* *i tot oni gal will do this*
*when go shopping,if I talk to promoter even is a female promoter,his face will turn black (Justice Pao)..
*i will cook him his favourite food once a week,lets say i am busy not manage to do so..he won't talk to me,say I don't love him anymore *coma*


ladies always say man should pay for everything.sounds gentleman.
i don't mind to pay some times,as i am not a calculative person..especially with the special one
when i know he is run out of money,i will offer to pay..
when i see his wallet is empty,i will put some into it
-u all sure will ask y am i so silly - galfriend turn to be boyfriend-


Power of love?silly blind gal?l
-miserable-



thanks for spending time reading,
You all are beautiful people~

When time passes, people change.

It's time to move on.

You can do the thinking.
1. You want this person to marry you and control you for the rest of your life? Maybe, he will make you his slave. Who knows.
2. You can tell him how you feel now and see how react to it. If he defends, then his just treating you badly.
3. Avoid you from frens, what kind of bf is that? Y don't you del all his frens and see whether he likes it or not.

I think the best way is confront him and express how you feel that his treating you now. You will get your answer from there.

Give time but be a little strict and stand up!
What you don't like, you have to tell him now. Let him take his time to change.
If he can't change accordingly, he will always stay as beast in your heart and never gonna transform into a prince.

In my opinion, I think you have found someone you loved very much.
Although you called him beast, you are still seeing all the beautiful thing inside him.

After all:
"Love isn't finding a PERFECT person. It's seeing an IMPERFECT person perfectly."

your bf sounds immature,how old is him.

Did you read Chrissie thread? Your bf is something like that, and far worse.

y u din talk personaly to him?
u shudn't only complain here
u shud discuss all this issue with him together

this is wat u can do for best so far
hoping him to change to a better person
but... if he stay like tat....u can leave him, try imagain 10 years after from now if he still have the same attitude?
u deserve better, most of the gals are

the swt thing u talk bout him, lot of guys can do so
but the bitter part, if guys tat loves u, they mostly wont do tat
over protective act is too childish in a relationship, beeing not reasonable...

talk to him 1st, discuss the matter, then u come back here to tell us how he react during the discussion.
dun worry n scare to discuss with him, coz i found tat most gal scare to discuss this kinda matter with the loves 1...

sometimes.. u just have to let go something precious to u...

TS, TS, TS... you are not a puppet. The fact that you can create an ID and start this thread means you are human capable of independent thought.

But no.... you want to pack your bags, say goodbye to ur family and friends and move into his place. Sever all ties with the outside world and serve him and only him.

By the way,
BAD GUYS - 39053, GOOD GUYS - 0.
Can the gooders catch up a little please?

Your bf is being immature and low confidence. Though he loves you a lot, he is trying to kill your freedom now. Talk to him but I don't think he will change so easily. If talk doesn't work, then you know what to do.

The bitter part of him makes the sweet part of him. He cannot exist without the other.

If he were nice to you all the time, caring, COOKS for you instead, works tireless for you; my...you'd think he's quite the bore and dump him for the next bad boy who comes your way.

What love you feel for him is part and parcel with the trouble you go through for him. So go figure. It takes two hands to clap.

ask urself if u really love him... love doesnt measures standards, status and wealth... this question i had to return back to u...

Start controlling him now. Delete every person in his phone which has a girls name. Call him each hour. Your reason being that you sense something amiss with him. A taste of his own medicine.

TS, from your story, let me summarize:

good beginning until money problem because of betrayer.

this is a guess: your bf is very stressed because of money problem, and because of that he thinks he'll loose you because he is unable to "support" a gf, you. he's scared that some better off guy will lure you away - he cuts you off from your friends - in the only limited way he knows how. this is a big neon sign saying he is in a desperate situation. some ppl don't perform well under stress. some ppl break. some ppl do all sorts of drastic and harmful things to themselves and to others, including ppl they care about.

i think you are quite an understanding person. but. but you cannot just let him take over you completely. things may go smoother for a while but in the long run who knows. you might consider hinting, or be completely direct, that you are on his side about a few things he is worried about. in this way he might revert to the original unbeastly person?

are you a good bf then???? how's your case going?? settle???

O U C H.

no1 is perfect, but if u able to look at his good then please accept his bad. And dun become such a good person to him, if 1 day u left him, he might go kill himself. So the conclusion is, dun always folo his order just do what u like which is reasonable and when he get angry for tiny reason just tell him that, accept this or get lost.

u already know the answer

"is this kind of guy husband-to-be?"

when u start a realationship, to have it a serious one, think of marrige in it, means imagining him being ur husband. but if u imagine him being ur husband happily, then u have move one step towards a better relationship.

but if u can imagine him as ur husband, wats the purpose of persuing this relationship?? his not responsible, and immature, is this wat u expect for ur marrige?? and its about time u break and find a new one.

its hard but hey, not everbody meet their mr.right in first few tries right???

he seems to be childish. he need more experience to be a better guy

seems someone that i knoe have the same story as u

This is going to sound harsh but your bf sounds like a grade A loser. I've met countless women that have seemingly fallen in love with similar grade of men and it's beyond logic why they so into them. One way of looking at it is he's really insecure because of his current financial standing. When a man feels he cannot provide for his woman, it affects his pride. He feels useless and therefore sees a potential threat in every other man who is financially stable and able to provide his woman with a sense of security. Another way of looking at it is he's just a 'jerk' as your friends say he is, in which case you'll be better off without him and happier in the long run.

Hey TS,

This guy is not for you. It's time for you to think hard for your future since u brought up the thought of whether he is husband-to-be of yours next time. Compromise is the key to a healthy relationship, but seems like it's been a one way traffic in most situations as you described above.

It's undeniably sweet, the occasion where you both celebrated your valentine's. It should be assessed that these occasion only comes on special days. However, you shall consider how you would spend the day-to-day chores in the future where you plan to start a family with him. Could you stand his possessive and iron-fisted attitude for the rest of your life?

I don't proclaim myself to understand women enough to satisfy them but the point in a relationship is, no matter you're a man or women, you should find someone who could satisfy your needs physically, mentally or spiritually to make that relationship lasting and balanced.

-Beauty and the Beast is just a fantasy-

U call urself a beauty, and ur BF is a beast.....

err i only can see bad point more than good point.....hmmm

human is hard to understand
hope eventhough disappointed,
believe eventhough betrayed,
still love eventhough its hurt.
-thanks-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 2:50 amearly..coz i sleep late
its was friday night,i post this after finish my assignment..
=) thanks for reading

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 02:50 AM

ur bf is the beauty u r the beasT?

i never look down at him.i know the problem that he is facing,so i try my best to help him.
he said sometime he felt very shame to see his parents,for causing them problem for own stupid action,
i understand how he feels,thats y i always be with him whenever he needs me.to give him a listening ears. *actions speak louder than words*
i have talk to him,assured him that he is the only guy in my heart.
maybe he think too much,till i can't understand what he want sometimes..
-anyway,thanks for ur post-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 3:34 amyea,its rude to delete ppl friends contact number..who like this?
that time i was so angry,then i scolded him
come on,i need my friends!they are important for me!
maybe that time i was too angry,so i said friends are my priority.he comes 2nd.
n he keeps this word till today...*he should know the fact he is the one my priority as i gave him the best things i could*
-thanks-



This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 03:34 AM

i used to be like that

yeap,i will..
i love him,thats y i can see the beautiful things inside him
eventhough sometimes he hurts my heart,but i din hate him
-anyway,thanks for ur post..i like your words-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 3:44 amwow,he has a bro now.haha..
so,how r u now?have u change?
-thanks-
=) have a nice day

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Added on December 9, 2007, 3:49 amwow..sounds like a good counsellor.. *2 thumbs up*
anyway,i dun scare him,sometimes when i am too angry i will be a tiger bite him back.
alrite,keep updates..
-thanks-

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 03:49 AM

i'm not sure i get insecure easily but i am not so extreme like your ex la i just dont like her seeing other guys only

This post has been edited by choyster: Dec 9 2007, 03:52 AM

sometime in life we din get thing the way we wanted,
but we gain extra knowledge others always wanted..
-thanks-

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 04:03 AM

But TS's bf is going one step too much, deleting your friends contact is really rude IMHO.

Like someone suggested, you wanna gv him a taste of his own medicine?

Thing is people have to learn from mistakes. It's not the matter of how bad the mistake is but you gotta learn from it. It doesn't seems to me your bf is 'learning' the right things.

if i dont like my ex contact with the other guy i just tell her how i feel

he is my bf,not ex
not so extreme,u r better..hehe
guys are like this.they can see girls,but their girl cannot see guys.. *sweat*
when other guys c their girl,they like wanna dig ppl's eyes out.. haha

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:05 amya,u r rite.gonna catch up..
-thanks-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:09 ami am impressed to read ur post,sounds professional.
keep updates
thanks alot..

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:19 amarr?accept his bad??
i dun expect him to change from bad -> best..at least good is edi enuff for me
yea,u r rite.if being too good for someone,will make the person depends much on you.once u r disappeared,the person will be in mess.
-thanks-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:23 amooo,really..
i would like to know her,share story *smile*
-have a nice day-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:36 amthanks,i like your post..
yea,there is once when i read magazine.. i said nowaday more gals prefer to marry older guy,
then he said those gals marry older guy coz of money..
sounds jealous edi..n he ask ' r u interested to be 1 of the gal oso?if u love money,u should go for older guys oso..then u will leave me this poor guy'

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Added on December 9, 2007, 4:55 amhusband-to-be..i ask this question coz i wanna know which type of guy r people gonna labelled as 'husband-to-be'
of course i dun wanna get marry so fast..marriage is juz once in a life time,it determines how good/average/bad for the rest of a gal's life
sometimes i am wondering how is others gal's bf..how r they behaving..
-thanks for ur thoughts,its great-

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Added on December 9, 2007, 5:03 amjuz a thread title..
i am not perfect,so i am not qualified to call ppl beast
=) thanks

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 9 2007, 05:03 AM

Ah wow, looking at your story, it seems pretty clear in your heart what you wanted from your your relationship already, though you might not notice it.

If you don't mind, a little advice:

Sometimes its not easy to understand what the other is going through which might lead to them treating thy badly ie. in your case the jealousy and other bad treatments. Possibly he might be under pressure from having to pay back his father (although theres much to blame on his friend who ran away from him). So, in that short period of time, was betrayed by a friend and got hounded by a father (probably is pretty strict and meneacing would be how I would imagine). I'd guess that the only thing left meaningful to him would be his loved one - you, the gf. And in some fear of losing you, the jealousy erupts.

I'd suggest to see if my theory backs-up by looking to see if it fits to your story. Like say this jealousy/bad treatment thing happened prior to his friend's betrayal and such.

Arguments sometimes help to fuel a good relationship, but it only works when the couple work them out in a proper way. If its non-stop arguments without anything being solved, then the relationship isn't really getting anywhere either.

You did mention that you are good looking, smart and I'd guess, popular too. That would make him feel a little insecure, well, who wouldn't really? However, his actions are a little overboard to the extreme. But thats where trust building comes in. A relationship without trust usually don't work out.

It seems that you truly love this guy, compromising much and would go so far to an open forum to let out the burden.

From what you like of him (mind you I can only judge from what you have written) he seems to be quite good with charming the hearts. I hope this isn't blinding you in seeing a real him. Again, I don't know this guy, I can only judge from what I have read.

I suggest you sit down and talk to him seriously about the relationship, I believe it could go far if the hearts are set right. But a loved one shouldn't be hurting the other and should be considering the other's feelings. If he can't do that, I really suggest(im saying this word a little too much ) splitting roads. Saying "you go die" is really really harsh. You have mentioned a number of things you compromised with, perhaps thinking of the things he has compromised for you too, would help.

But that is my brand of love, if one cannot provide the care and love for the other, then there is no point being together any longer. Trust and compromises should go both ways. However, its still up to yourself to decide what you want, its clear that you are suffering but is it clear to him? Is he making an effort to make you happy? You are trying to make him happy by compromising.

Its going to be hard and whatever decisions you might choose upon will probably be hard, but stand hard and headstrong and anyone can make it out.

Hope this helps, good luck and all the best!

edit: forgot to mention that you need to stand ground on your beliefs and happiness. Let him know how you feel, don't let one bully you/take advantage either. You mentioned a lot of your compromises but not really much of his, or is he not really compromising at all? Everyone is capable of changing, so don't lose hope on everything either, he could change for the better.

This post has been edited by vermins: Dec 9 2007, 05:23 AM

hi vermins,
i would like to thanks u from the bottom of my heart
thanks for ur effort n precious time,i appreciate it alot n will keep full of it in my heart .
u r such a great ,nice & understanding person
i would like to have a friend like you
=) God bless you

u probably have your own decision .. the onli thing is u not dare to go for it..

oh god , i hope i got GF like you .. but we din get wad we wanted it ... it all goes wrong sumtime ... probably u nid to talk to him .. slowly and slowly it will turn back to normal back .. gd luck for u ...

hi good morning ts,
i feel that u r a nice & good hearted girl
if u ask about wife-to-be..u r the good example lo..hehe
1 of my classmate,she has a very handsome bf but he is always broke..at 1st she said dun mind that he is broke but after 2 months she run away fast fast...money is not everything but everything is money..
i am impressed that u still be with ur bf thru his hard time
+true love is like a ghost,everyone talk about it but few have seen it+

hahaha... thats an interesting way to say it



TS: Relationships need to have trust and respect for each other. If he cannot trust and respect you, what about in the future?
Now its between 2 of u as bf/gf, if (IF) married later, its more than that already, can he respect and trust you as you deserve?

Pardon me but I really dun like guys who are so crazy/obsess/paranoid about their gf, always cause the GF to suffer...

TS, he do not respect you as his love ones. If he is your husband, you might end up beaten up by him.

I guess this year he did not do much sweet stuff again. Right?

You're awake, but it's time to let him awake. If not, he wont know the importance of having you.

life is miserable

love is more miserable and blind

thanks.i am sure u will have a better gf.
i think i am not good enough to be someone gf,duno how to manage my love life.
thanks alot for ur wishes.

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Added on December 10, 2007, 2:00 amoh,hi stacial.i guess u r sleeping now.sweet dreams then.
+true love is like a ghost,everyone talk about it but few have seen it+
=) beautiful words....i like it
thank you.

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Added on December 10, 2007, 2:01 amu r gentleman
-cheers-

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 10 2007, 02:01 AM

how was everything this few days ?? did he badly treat u again..

sorry .. didn't give any comment and just read throughout your post oni..

i was not in any gud condition either to give comment to u..

just wanna tell one thing today..

my bf has 2 ex-gfs before.
1 is edi married,din contact edi.but the other 1 of his ex still keep in touch with him.
she is a malay girl.and she is already engaged.
what make me angry is this girl contact my bf very often!!
i tell him that i dun like this!he said this gal has a fiance edi.what is past is edi past.they r just friends now. *ash coming out from my head*
there is once i told him 'if u still contact with ur ex so often,i gonna leave u!'
then he set a meet up among 4 of us (my bf,me,ex and fiance)..v talk n made it clear that they oni be friends now.
he said i am his gf.she is only his friend.no matter what she does,her effort is juz nothing.
okie...i tolerate.
but after a while this still continue..i find that she still contact my bf very often..
he said he do nothing wrong n dare to show me every sms this malay gal sent him.
i read those sms,sounds very sweet..like couple...omg,she edi has a fiance la..y still behaving like this??
some examples : - 'sayang,cuaca hari ini panas,ingat minum banyak banyak air ya.lou po miss u'
- 'lou gong,sudah makan?ingat makan on-time ya.kalau tidak,nanti gastrik,siapa yang rasa sakit hati?lou po jugak'
-' sayang,sudah habis kerja?bila sampai rumah nanti jangan lupa rehat cukup cukup ok.muacksss..'
-'lou gong,jangan tengok tv sampai lewat malam ya.tidur awal,esok kena pergi kerja.lou po jumpa u dalam mimpi ok'
still got more,but lazy to write out..
arrrrhh...when i read all this,all my hand hairs is standing..feel like laughing but very angry la...
she still call my bf 'sayang or lou gong' and call herself 'lou po'... will u stay calm if u r me?
there is once when v were inside the car on the way going for dinner,n this gal call my bf..he pass me his hp n ask me to answer.but i dun1.i throw the hp to the back.
does this mean when they r open of their relationship as friends,i should accept?

as time passes,i juz feel tired to bother about this .. i tell him do whatever he wanna do..




.

To be frank, your relationship really has came to a point where it really does need some work.

In general, I think its okay if people keep in touch with their exs. Afterall, they had something in common through out their relationship. As long as they keep it in a non-intimate way. I wouldn't accept the language used by your bf however. It really does seem out of hand and fishy.

But, I have already said my advice on the previous post and I hope they were helpful in any way. One still can be of support though, as I feel you still want to have your relationship be able to work out, or you wouldn't be here and would have broken up already.

All the best!

i can see that TS is a very sweet gal. mostly end of post, she will have some sort of greetings or polite response.

stay cool and hang in there!

dear TS-
ur bf sounds more like i'm going to be >_< except that my gf.. got lie to me before, i'm not like ur bf, delete my gf frens num, i think i should quit being possesive, maybe cuz 10x got broke u make me siao like that.. from what i see.. ur bf want ur attention.. but.. he doesnt know how to express it gently and get started aggressive, well.. i'm not a good person, and i try to give my best to my gf, so far.. my anger management can be quite unstable.. lol.. ppl who say my gf lucky get me might take back your words.. ahaha...

keep on calm, try talk to him, explain how u feel, if he cannot accept it, just say, fine, u dont trust me and love like u always too, its u the want who change so drasticly and who knows, u are the one who hv 3rd party. lol.. i'm evil, but.. its just an opinion.

As I'm direct person, I'll met up the girl and question her.

TS,

When u can wrote all everything about him,I guess you already in doubt whether he will be your husband-to-be,whether is he the one. If you are still very sure he's the ONE,you wouldnt write all these.Basically,u already got your decision but you need more advices as u are in doubt.
There are only 2 ways,either you just tolerate everything even you lose all your friends or you walk out of this relationship. Good luck!

This just takes the cake man ... so hypocrite one this fella, its ok to be called "lougong" by ex, its not ok for gf to have guy frens ...

Didn't really read all the postings here but the assumption of mine is that your boyfriend is feeling very insecure. He might have some past experience (bad experience) or he is born like that. TS, you have to find out why is that so. Normally you can't feel that person is insecure type in the beginning as you two are laid with love and nice feelings. Don't fret when eventually you find that he is insecure type. You two can work it out. Perhaps you are too darn pretty for him to feel insecure and worry about you. Look at it from the brighter side, that means he is really INTO you. Then again, the downside is that too much insecurity and too possessive will kill the feeling for both and hurt the relationship. Must teach each other to build the relationship on trust.

Then the other thing is:
sweetiegirl might be spot-on here. You are studying and I am pretty sure you have doubt to spend the rest of your life with him. Sort out your own priority first. There is nothing wrong if you decided to end it with him to move on to better life. It is your life afterall!! You have a good future to look ahead.

Best of luck.

okay, I pull back on what I comment earlier. Now I wanna say your boyfren damn suck wei, big time loser, dun intro him to me or either let me know who is him. I will for sure find my gang kick punch, punch kick and then kick punch again. And for your own good is better to leave him, even though he wanted to kill himself, bang head to wall or others cheap stunt just let him be, he doesnt deserve you.

oh dear... i tot my bf is possesive, but urs is super duper possesive liao oh!! i understand how u feel.. but if ur bf to the extend of deleting ur guy fren's number some more ask u go die.. omg! u still wanna stick 2 him r? he ask u go die wor.. ur bf is so damn selfish! nvr think of ur feeling at all.. after all the things u have done 4 him, tis is wat u get.. little bit angry.. phew! i think u gotta make up ur mind jor.. u should noe wat to do.. as wat ur frens said, "WAKE UP!!!"

I've seen some women who like to be slapped by their men, maybe she's one of them.

wtf those sms make me speechless~~~~~

I quoted myself again.
Just dump him.

Funny post.

dear sweet girl forever21
this guy is not for you.it sounds like he thinks whatever he does is always right but whatever u do r wrong.
when u hang out with your friends,he don't like..BUT he said he is right&did nothing wrong when her ex sent him intimate messages....
i think your bf oso response her with sweet messages..coz this girl got response from him,thats y this is continue..
when i c the examples of sms that r listed,my mind was like (harr??!#%&@#!) .. sms day n night...from the noon till night..
alright,stop here.dont have mood to write about them already.

u r a sweet girl,u deserve someone better.
come,i intro some better guys for u..
take care ok..

This post has been edited by stacial: Dec 10 2007, 09:23 PM

hie, i'm back to this thread

For sweetgirl forever21,
Maybe only that gal sender send those intimate sms-es and not ur bf faults so u must check with urs bf before simply accused him... About those overly possesion or control ttry calm ur bf down and talk in a peaceful and polite manners...DUn get heat up first...U got ur point and u can get over him...Maybe when u hang around with frens can tag him along...

To stacial,
Dont just intro guys to TS, we also need u to intro better gals to us ...

wow,someone is praising this miserable gal early in the morning.
anyway,thank you very much.
-cheers-

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Added on December 11, 2007, 1:24 ami ask the gal once y contact my bf so often.
she said she don't have any purpose n call me not to worry coz she edi has a fiance.
its not a good Excuse!nowadays even married woman/man is having affair.so she expect that i will feel convience with what she said?*sweat*
now she contacts him almost every day..
maybe she is enjoying to have more than one relationship in the same time.
i just feel tired when think about this.
-thanks NinG-

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Added on December 11, 2007, 1:43 amsweetiegirl seems able to read my mind.
tolerate with each other is a key to a strong relationship.
he always think whatever he does is always right.i am the one who has to tolerate with him eventhough the fact he is wrong. *is this fair?*
Yea,u r rite...there are oni 2 ways...hope i can have my answer very soon..
thanks alot,sweetiegirl!

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Added on December 11, 2007, 1:54 amwow,7chai sounds like the main actor in young & dangerous movie. *smile*
anyway,thanks ya for sharing those tactics (commit sucide,bang head to wall or others cheap stunt) here,
in the same time you are sharing with other beautiful gals in LYN,so gals wont fall into those traps.. haha
-cheers-

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Added on December 11, 2007, 2:17 amdear chrissie,
i have read your thread.seems like we have experinced one same case.
the words 'You Go Die',as a reader u edi feel its unacceptable.so can u imagine how is the feeling of the person who experince this. *bitter*
-try to put yourself into others shoes,if u feel that it is hurt,it probably will hurt the person too-
wow,u sounds like very angry after reading my story hor.stay calm my dear. *smile*
=) wish u & your love one happy n loving always .
thanks chrissie

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 11 2007, 02:19 AM

hang in there TS, we here support u,
u r not the one who is worng, ur bf did. if he really a good bf(i'm almost like ur bf ), i seldom contact girl, or sms girl cuz i love my gf and i show her, that i really do, i never say u go die like that... lolz.. that a really bad attitude towards lady/girl..

even if got a girl call me, i'll just say,"sorry, i'm with my gf, can u just sms what u want? if want me teman u, i'll bring my gf too.. want?"

and FYI, 100 girl that i know and contact before = *poof* gone with the wind, none of them i've contact back except business partner.

well, u deserve ur privacy and ur bf not marry u yet, so.. tell him to marry u la if want be so possesive.. and stop answering "GIRL" friends with sayang2...

-peace-

lol..dun be so emotional
those examples are just few only.
there are more that will make u even more speechless.
i still remember one,i think can submit it to The Stars newspaper on next year Valentine's Day for the sweetest words competition.

-sayang,loupo akan menemani lougong tiap tiap saat.Bila matahari panas pada waktu tengah hari,loupo akan menjadi awan melindungi lougong dari kepanasan.Bila waktu malam nanti,loupo rela menjadi bulan&bintang menerangi malam agar lougong tidak dalam kegelapan-

most messages will end with a sound effect - muackkkksssssss- *sweat*

dun laugh la,i juz tell u all what i see oni la.
thanks.

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 11 2007, 06:58 AM

100% great boyfriend..

yeah!
keep up the good work,m2n-e
wish u & your gf happy and loving always
-cheers-

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Added on December 11, 2007, 3:14 amdear stacial,
yeap,he did response her.i can c those messages in sent item box.
as usual,still give those lame excuses..just friends la,fiance la...
haizzz,no eyes see edi..
wow,sounds like u have alot of friends. *smile*
take care too ya.
-cheers-

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Added on December 11, 2007, 3:33 amFor ldhong,
i won't simply accuse ppl without any prove.
he did response her.i can see those messages in the sent item box.
well,he wants people to talk politely to him.i do.but sometimes when i talk in a proper way with him,he acts like dun care what u r talking.when i get angry of his actions,he will say i am small gas.
everything is my fault. *not fair*
-thanks-

This post has been edited by forever21: Dec 11 2007, 03:34 AM

morning guys, today can sleep ler.. 2 hours sleep.. lolz..

One things i dun like is u post things about ur bf here and let ppl insult.....Is this the way u said u LOVE him??? aiya, if u still want to be with him then get along loh or else if u already made ur mind not to be with him then go ahead...You don't need to feel guilty if u r on the right side, afterall it's still his lost....If i have a gf and she made small mistake i will still protect and not let ppl scold and insult.....Own things own self kau tim la......

Biasa lah man when hot tempered sure abit rough and said those words....Later one day if he really let ppl whack, chop and die then u dun cry la....Whatever it is still ur own decistion to decide whether u all worth to be together not...Want insult him, scold him and whack him do it urself dont let other ppl here insult him...I guess his father and mom treat u no bad also....

Actually TS post here will neva expect people like me kind of farkers will come in and insult 1 mar. Compare to this so little insult, those suffer that TS get from his boyfren and those kind of "geli" sms I seriously think is like nothing lor.

Of coz no people here will chop him or thrown him into sea to feed shark, I mean when u see those farked up cases that report in newspaper u also feel like do something right what. Then also, his parents is his parents, the son do wrong also dun link him with his parents mar.

forever21> no worries, I so yeng and so kind. I wont use this kind of tactic geh

Shuen la, after all it still her own personal problems...Some will say go along some will say dump the boy....DUnno lah, it's still her feeling to decide worth to be together not...But if uncle and aunty treat good then really ...I saw some couple so lovely but their in-law always kutuk-kutuk....No happy pun.....


ei, 7chai...What u meant so yeng and so kind, wont use this kind of tactic geh ??????

yalar, i mean im just giving my thought mar. But what Im trying to say is the problem is on the guy, so if TS wanna marry also marry the guy what, not marry the in-law mar.

err....do u know what meaning is yeng (cantonese) and kind (english) ? If u dunno ask people around u and check dictionary lor

everything depend on u.....think properly is wat i would like to advice u forever21. one wrong move and u will regret forever. now the place i work at i got a colleague who love her husband very much when young but as time goes by, things change as husband drink beers everyday and quarrel occur every times. so, it all depend on how u think and feel bout ur bf, if u love him so much till u can bear with all his weakness why not go for it. if u cant accept it anymore why carry it on as in the end the person who hurt the most is u. better decide rite now whether to carry it on or end it now.

my personal view is ur bf r bbeing over protective toward u. this type of guys are scary as if u wwere to do seomthing tat he cant totally accept in the future, worst thing happen is either he do something stupid toward himself or even to u. What i mean by something stupid is something scary, i personally advice u to end this relationship fast or u ask the guy to change his attitude or behaviour. this type of guys freak out people. haven marry oredi like this and can u imagine what will it be if u two r married.

think smart and think properly. in the end, its ur very own decision and no one could be blame but u. so cheers.

Deng, i am Chinese lah...U think i am banana or MANGaLi SIngh ?

I meant what u trying to say , " so yeng and so kind, wont use this kind of tactic geh " ?

Ohh, actually Im answering the TS post earlier. So is nothing to do with you actually

anyway, dun put all the focus on me, its other people's thread

If he's really protective for her own good then he should have stopped contact with that someone's fiance lah.. Very fun izzit everyday get sweet sweet message from someone who is getting married

U keep posting mer, then sure have to layan u bit mer while waiting for TS to updates...hai mai sin???

Sui Teng how,s the butterfly yant?? ANything ?

Har? What butterfly

Butterfly sak yant on the back...DUn telll me u forgotten....Allrite, stop here liao...Flooding other ppls thread liao..

Oh still there, mine permanent wan XD

poor TS

although he do need ur supports and i guess u r precious to him... but u still have to think for the long run...

tats my 2 cents

he's only sweet to you when he has all of you to himself?
can u stand being with such a possessive bf? that's ur choice to make goodluck ts!

Well, in a nutshell, your bf is betrayed and moneyless. He needs a lot of support to stand back up. But your way of spoonfeeding him with your hard earned money is not really a good way.

yes yes, its my problem as well

what butterfly? zomgz.

where beast ....