this one quite ok. u wanna know my mum logic?

I invited my mum for dinner. She say ok. Told her my car only fit 5 people, my fam sudah 4 people including me. cannot fit her and my stepfather. So i told her i will send my driver to pick her up, send her to the makan place, then send her back. She say ok. Night went well, dinner as usual. sudah send home, she rant to my sisters that i send stranger to pick her up. My sister belip her and now all hitam face.

Another one :
For my son birthday, we rented a villa for 2 nights. I flew her from sarawak, then asked my sister to pick her up and terus go villa. everything ok, until we went back. Later she complaint to my sisters my wife jahat, i jahat, we dont want to layan her. Just because my wife asked her to rest while she is cooking. My wife already brought 2 friends to help her to cook. All my mum have to do is sit and play with grandchildren, but she so busy with her phone.

A lot more incident. Also, she favored my son than my daughter. She always complaint to my sisters i did not give her money monthly. Yes true, I did not give her monthly, but i give her huge amount of money during christmas, usually five figure. Much more than my sisters gave her monthly.

She also complaint I am a failure, because i am a contractor while my sister is engineer and another one is a specialist doctor.

She also complaint I have too much tattoo.

She also complaint I am heathen for not donating to her church.

All of these, she never complaint to me but to my sisters. I still meet my mum for the sake of meeting her, maybe once in two months. But it had been years since i met my sisters, because they believe her.

We cant choose our parents, but we can choose to distant ourselves from there.

So in your case, your mum is way better than mine.

Oh also, she failed to mentioned that in her 30s, she gila clubbing and drinking like crazy, I am the one carry her to toilet and hold her hair while she vomitted

ya luckily she did not bring guy home. we live at such conservative neighbourhood. And the speed of people gossiping at church is wild.

Donno what specialist, dont care to ask. I know she is a doctor, my mum say she sambung master becum specialist. I dont care to ask also.

Carry by shoulder lah. u never carry drunk people?

char siew sedap. apa salahan char siew.

tanggang better.

Anyway is it really chinese thing or only in malaysia? singapore or china people will say the same, charsiew kids?

my mum is 62 now. it was in 2003-2004 i think.

just buy her food and let it go bro. not worth the headache, trust me. U buy saja food, she eat or dont eat, its her problem now.

I dealt with my mum shenanigan for so long I dont give shit anymore.

toxic parents are real, and it takes time to notice. Some people just either dont notice it or just ignore it.

Read my comment, donno which post#. same shit.

We went to Japan, she wanna follow. Told her there will be a lot of walking. She say ok. We flew first class, inside plane already start kampung people attitude demanding this and that. Sampai japan, belum keluar aiport already complaint. End up the whole trip wasted. everyday complaint.

Even worst, come back malaysia, bitching about it to my sisters. My mum is a mum from hell.

She once told me I will not get anything when she die. Told her my asset is worth more than her. I immediately called my lawyer and asked my lawyer to draft surat akuan sumpah that i will not take anything from her when she die. Got the letter, asked her to sign. She signed, then later bitch about it to my sisters.

Yep. Learn it the hard way. The more i lawan, it will be another bullet for her to give to my sisters to shot to me.

So now i just dont care. She want something, she have to ask for it. If i can give, i give. If kenot, then ask from someone else.

Yes they do. 100%. I am always the black sheep since last time. My exam grade not as good as theirs, I am not active as them, I dont have any scholarship, just PTPTN. So whatever shit my mum say about me, it aligned with their expectation of me.

At this point I just dont care. I even put distance between my family (wife and kids) with them. No point being close to people that are toxic, even own family.

I was in form 2 i think. That time still love my mum with all my heart. but if she come home drunk now, i will just leave her outside.