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post Nov 5 2025, 02:42 PM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Oct 31 2025, 10:01 AM)
I recently moved to a new job with about the same role, but I feel the culture of the new place is hard for me to adopt.

1. My previous role was a 8 to 5 one with clock in and clock out with weekends totally no disturbance. I was in it for 10 years.

2. The new place practices a flexi and no clock in or clock out but the other people work till late at nights (12am still receiving emails and sometimes as early as 7am,il I get emails too) and also weekends they remotely work and I receive emails as well. It's giving me anxiety as to when another email might suddenly come.

I don't feel the salary jump is worth it.

I just started for about a month plus, so any advice? Should I like ask management about it? And the perks seems to be a little lesser than my previous company.
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before you join, you didn't ask HR about working hours?
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post Nov 5 2025, 02:50 PM

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try finish up the probation period, its hard to adapt but at least you try. meanwhile asked previous company any chance to go back
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post Nov 6 2025, 12:55 PM

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I don't get it, wouldn't you have inquired about the culture, working style, expectations and such before joining?
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post Nov 6 2025, 02:46 PM

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QUOTE(bombacat @ Nov 6 2025, 12:55 PM)
I don't get it, wouldn't you have inquired about the culture, working style, expectations and such before joining?
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Would all employers really tell their working culture? It was my mistake to not see Glassdoor reviews before joining. Thought it had some fame, it should be good but it seems they are also having issues hiring people as well now, so I think I am the newest kambing korban around.
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post Nov 6 2025, 03:46 PM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Nov 6 2025, 02:46 PM)
Would all employers really tell their working culture? It was my mistake to not see Glassdoor reviews before joining. Thought it had some fame, it should be good but it seems they are also having issues hiring people as well now, so I think I am the newest kambing korban around.
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Yes, most generally do tell you how their culture is. Contrary to popular belief, it's really a pain to do staff exit and hiring, so most rather hire someone that have been told the culture and likes the culture, rather than just wanting a warm body and end up having someone non productive, can't fit in and having to exit and go through the hiring process again.

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post Nov 6 2025, 03:54 PM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Nov 3 2025, 11:12 AM)
I mean can argue and go labor office but it will bring me bad rep in future no?
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Not really - everything will be confidential.
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post Nov 6 2025, 04:21 PM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Oct 31 2025, 10:01 AM)
I recently moved to a new job with about the same role, but I feel the culture of the new place is hard for me to adopt.

1. My previous role was a 8 to 5 one with clock in and clock out with weekends totally no disturbance. I was in it for 10 years.

2. The new place practices a flexi and no clock in or clock out but the other people work till late at nights (12am still receiving emails and sometimes as early as 7am,il I get emails too) and also weekends they remotely work and I receive emails as well. It's giving me anxiety as to when another email might suddenly come.

I don't feel the salary jump is worth it.

I just started for about a month plus, so any advice? Should I like ask management about it? And the perks seems to be a little lesser than my previous company.
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if understand correctly, you have email anxiety?

you've been working too comfortably for too long
'flexi' is not always a good thing, time to learn to set boundaries and adapt

you might have noticed some red flags during the interview process so it's time to take that in now as a lesson
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post Nov 6 2025, 09:37 PM

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QUOTE(alexei @ Nov 6 2025, 04:21 PM)
if understand correctly, you have email anxiety?

you've been working too comfortably for too long
'flexi' is not always a good thing, time to learn to set boundaries and adapt

you might have noticed some red flags during the interview process so it's time to take that in now as a lesson
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I did and know about it. Now I learned something new and I had to really heed from it.
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post Nov 7 2025, 09:37 AM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Nov 6 2025, 09:37 PM)
I did and know about it. Now I learned something new and I had to really heed from it.
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good luck, don't follow the flow, follow your guts, but handle it properly

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post Nov 7 2025, 09:45 AM

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Set your boundaries with your direct supervisor/manager. Manage expectations and learn how to ignore those pesky emails past working hours especially weekends.

Setel has the same culture as your company, actually. I hope your SM/M is reasonable.
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post Nov 8 2025, 12:03 AM

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QUOTE(lamusiqa @ Nov 7 2025, 09:45 AM)
Set your boundaries with your direct supervisor/manager. Manage expectations and learn how to ignore those pesky emails past working hours especially weekends.

Setel has the same culture as your company, actually. I hope your SM/M is reasonable.
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From what I heard of my AM and M, their only aim is to complete the tasks at hand. So if they send us something in the middle of the night, they do expect a reply but since there are two factions divided here, one group of staffs who are from Branch A will be scared and reply. Branch B people don't really care so it is showing weirdness here.
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post Nov 9 2025, 02:09 PM

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QUOTE(alexei @ Nov 6 2025, 04:21 PM)
if understand correctly, you have email anxiety?

you've been working too comfortably for too long
'flexi' is not always a good thing, time to learn to set boundaries and adapt

you might have noticed some red flags during the interview process so it's time to take that in now as a lesson
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A job is suppose to be comfortable as it takes 1/3 of your daily time. It doesn't mean need to be lazy but if even job daily operation and routine can give so much anxiety and stres then i guess the job is just not worth it.
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post Nov 11 2025, 11:27 PM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Nov 6 2025, 09:37 PM)
I did and know about it. Now I learned something new and I had to really heed from it.
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You are receiving email during non typical hours, can choose to ignore and not to install outlook app on your phone.

I'm in worse situation than you, receiving nonstop work related whatsapps messages 24/7, for pointless, non-urgent and stupid things.

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post Nov 16 2025, 11:08 PM

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QUOTE(stylebucks @ Nov 11 2025, 11:27 PM)
You are receiving email during non typical hours, can choose to ignore and not to install outlook app on your phone. 

I'm in worse situation than you, receiving nonstop work related whatsapps messages 24/7, for pointless, non-urgent and stupid things.
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Trust me, my side does too and it isn't pretty.

 

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