we as man we have feeling.
most of us probably won't felt hurt or sorely or bitter for petty thing
whether either one us or both of us notice or not that we are making our partner bitter, as when the time goes by, and things happen again and again, the hurt become swell and swell become larger until cannot tahan and you burst.

others see it as, "eleh relaks lah. itu pun nak terasa."

if kawan or outside person done it, it doesn't hit hard as person you live together...

yes.. till you also dont bother anymore...

sedikit-sedikit lama-lama jadi bukit

i feel you!

what things happen again and again?

you mean seperated?

thanks bro

few things, macam endah tak endah, word of mouth, comparing others etc

going to i guess.... when you can't say anything, everything you said is wrong.

It’s just like a leaking pipe at home. Fix it early, and it’s a small job. Ignore it, and the water seeps into the wall, the damage spreads, and by the time you act, it costs a fortune to repair.

A relationship works the same way. Small hurts, if left unspoken, don’t disappear — they gather, drip by drip, until one day they break the surface. It’s always better to speak gently and address the small cracks early, while things are still within reach.

Fix the leak while it’s still a drop, not when it becomes a flood. The same rule holds for love, silence, and pride.

Thats why I think having occasional couple arguments and fights early in the relationship is a healthy thing for the relationship.

agree. try talk to your wife. why she dont give u talk? or u feel just let her win?

many just keep to him/herself. then one day separated. you think her/him not compatible with you. you wan to find someone know you but in this world no one is 100% perfect. find a new one also will be same problem if small thing don't wan to discuss and come to an agreement.

This post has been edited by uglyduckling422: Oct 8 2025, 12:00 PM

if you let the emotional burst point to continue there, it will inevitably become automation to the point where your painbody completely take over your logical or peaceful mind, and hence you witness an emotional trigger by random people on public venue

Your ego will be your second enemy
that's your false self telling you,
you're not good enough
somebody else has better house or earn more money than you etc

and if you let it automatically dictate how you see the world, you will forever become a slave to the impermanent matters of this world

so have you voice out your unsatisfactory to her nicely? or you wait till you go burst and have WW3?

This post has been edited by MasBoleh!: Oct 8 2025, 05:18 PM

got no choice... so just use your hand to entertain urself.

I will do nicely. Probably in 1 or 2 days more.
Just to get myself round and think words that appropriate.

I beg your pardon Sir! I've called my ex-wife many things, but I've never used that term on her.

take your time, then have some heart to heart talk.

😅 Which part of my statement makes it sound like I called the "wife" the leaking pipe?

The beauty of the normal distribution — in a class of 40 students, you’ll get 40 different interpretations.

Let me reframe it this way:
“Leaking pipe” = hidden household problem.

Does the algebra look clearer now? 😄

Communicate. Whatever it is, be it small or big issue, always voice it out.

If keep too long and once it burst, it will be no way back.

Sometimes I wonder.. men is so good at pretending bodoh.. until i pointed many times, still pretending.

It's called testosterone...

What you need to do is to relief yourself by exercising more...

I, too, have it... But what I do is that I would exercise for hours long, sometimes twice within the day itself (during weekends)...

We're living in a time that is far different than our parents and ancestors... everything is fast-pace, and our stress level is at all-time high every single year...

And now you know it, or have been re-enlightened... do what you need to do outside and kill it by working out rigorously...